The of a thousand miles collapsed in the ant nest. Details determine the success or failure of feelings.
Any small detail can become the last straw that crushes feelings.
Beautiful feelings are composed of countless small details, meals must be eaten bite by bite, and days must be passed day by day.
Beautiful details make for a good relationship, and vice versa.
Feelings need to be managed with heart, and whether a person is careful is reflected in many details.
For example, whether he pays attention to the sense of ceremony, whether he can firmly remember your preferences, whether he is willing to tolerate your shortcomings and deficiencies, whether he can know how to think differently and compare hearts to hearts.
When you feel uncomfortable in a relationship, don't suppress your true feelings, boldly express your dissatisfaction, and let your partner realize that he has touched your bottom line.
Feelings pay attention to details, but also pay attention to the sense of boundaries.
Feelings that are out of proportion will only end up losing both.
Of course, we don't have to worry too much about some innocuous little details, and we don't have to be too narrow-minded.
People who really love you deeply know how to grasp the big and let go of the small, will not stare at the small mistakes you make, but know how to appreciate your advantages and shining points.
For women, the more middle-aged men love you, the less they care about these details.
1, will not care about the gap between rich and poor
It is undeniable that feelings need to be built on a certain economic foundation.
If a middle-aged man only talks about feelings and doesn't talk about substances, it means that he doesn't really love you.
It's just that for a middle-aged man who really loves you deeply, he won't care about the gap between rich and poor between you, and he won't dislike you because he makes more than you.
It is inevitable that there will be a gap between the economic income of the two people, and perhaps you will not earn as much as him, but he will not care about this detail, and what he really cares about is your precious fate.
You go from strange to familiar to loving each other, which is a fate that cannot be bought no matter how much money it costs.
If he only cares about wealth or material things, dislikes you for making less money, and is afraid of losing money in his feelings, it means that he loves not you, but himself.
Two people living together for a long time, there are many places to spend money, whether it is eating and shopping or buying some necessities of life, it needs to spend money.
Especially when you have children, children's growth and education need to use money.
If your relationship lacks the necessary material foundation, the relationship will not have good results and development.
For the middle-aged man who truly loves you deeply, he will work hard to make money, meet your basic life needs, and try to create better living conditions for you.
Because he loves you, he will neither woo you because you have money, nor will he dislike you because you have little money.
If he's a poor and rich man, and once you run out of money or make less money than him, he may turn his face to you, then it's clear that he doesn't really love you.
The more you love your middle-aged man, the less he cares about your income.
2, will not care about your appearance
We all like beautiful people and things, which is the common sentiment of people.
Middle-aged men are naturally no exception, he also likes to see beautiful women, but once he falls in love with you, his eyes are only you, and he will cherish you doubly.
The more middle-aged men love you, the less they care about your appearance.
If he cares too much about your beauty, age, height, and completely ignores your inner spiritual beauty, then it shows that he is an extremely superficial person.
There's nothing wrong with being a shallow person, it's just that he may not be the right fit for you.
True love has nothing to do with appearance, only with whether two people are truly in love with each other.
If he really loves you, he won't care about your looks. Because everyone's appearance will have an aging day, we can't stay young forever.
The writer Zhang Hansi once said: "The reason why people are different is not because of appearance, but because of memory." You can't see, but you can still know that the person next to you is me, because the memories between the two of us are all there. And, in this world, only I have these. To you, that's what makes me unique. ”
Relative to appearance, the good memories created by two people together are priceless.
A middle-aged man who truly loves you deeply loves both your external beauty and your inner beauty.
Perhaps, at first, he will be attracted to your young and beautiful appearance, and over time, he will be impressed by your rich and beautiful inner and moist and tough qualities.
When your face is full of wrinkles, and he still does not abandon you, and loves you as always, it shows that he really loves you.
3, will not care about your shortcomings
No one is perfect, everyone has all kinds of shortcomings and deficiencies, the person who really loves you may know your shortcomings better than you, but he will not only not hate you, but cherish you more.
If a middle-aged man can only see your shortcomings in his eyes and lack the necessary tolerance and understanding for you, it means that he does not really love you.
Love is trusting each other and appreciating each other.
A person's shortcomings in the right environment and occasions may be transformed into an advantage.
For example, you may be more cautious and lack courage, but from another point of view, your caution is actually an advantage, you may appear more mature and stable, reduce the chance of making mistakes, and take fewer detours.
The more you love your middle-aged man, the more he will not care about your shortcomings and deficiencies, but know how to look at your shortcomings with an appreciative eye, and are willing to treat your growth and transformation with a development vision.
Because he loves you, he will not easily deny you, and he will not arbitrarily belittle and ridicule you.
Two people together need mutual respect and tolerance, not mutual sarcasm and criticism.
When you can never feel the love and tenderness he gives you in a relationship, you feel full of malice and ridicule, you should be soberly aware that he does not love you so much, you can also let go as soon as possible.
In short, love is mutual trust and support, mutual understanding and respect, and you can draw nourishment and strength from each other.
The more a middle-aged man loves you, the less he cares about certain details, and he will establish a sense of the overall situation and understand a relationship at a higher level.
If he cares too much about some of the small mistakes you make, and cares about some of your small shortcomings, it means that he is narrow-minded and not worthy of deep friendship.
We must allow our partners to make mistakes, and as long as the partners can take the initiative to admit their mistakes and are willing to correct them in time, we should give the necessary tolerance.
Of course, major mistakes of principle cannot be made and are not worthy of forgiveness, such as not being specific enough about feelings.
A passage that Zhou Guoping said, I think is very reasonable. He said: "In love, the degree of satisfaction of the feelings of both parties depends on the feelings of the weaker party. If A loves B very much and B has only five points of love for A, then they can only get five points of satisfaction. The lack of the remaining five points will become a pity in A and a distress in B. ”
It is best to maintain a state of equal strength between two people's feelings, and when your relationship is out of balance, the relationship may face collapse and disintegration.
When you obviously feel that he does not love you, his love for you is shallower than paper, more fragile than glass, you should know that he does not love you so much, you should decisively let go and stop the loss in time.