Two days ago, at the school gate, a father came to pick up his child and come home from school.
Only to see, this father is wearing white short sleeves, the lower body is dark blue jeans, the weather is not hot, but I see him breathless, sweaty, from time to time to take out a towel to wipe the sweat on the face, presumably in order to rush over to pick up the child, so it is a wild rush.
After picking up her daughter, her daughter sat on the electric car, dodged her eyes and looked around, hurriedly put the school uniform on her head and wrapped it tightly, afraid of being recognized by passing classmates.
The father on the side watched his daughter's behavior like this, but he could only smile bitterly in embarrassment.
The father was afraid of suffocating the child, and after the persuasion was fruitless, he also understood the child's thoughts, so he had to grin awkwardly.
Psychologically, children from the age of 5 have begun to care about the perception of the outside world, especially their own image in the minds of others, and can perceive the importance of social status.
When children feel that they are different from their classmates around them, it is inevitable that they will be mentally unbalanced, breeding comparison psychology or becoming inferior.
Some time ago, I experienced a similar scene.
Picking up my son from school that day, he didn't run to me as happily as usual, but took my arm and left with a lonely face.
I was wondering, but he suddenly looked up and asked me:
"Mom, isn't our family very poor?" Why do other students drive to pick you up and ride an electric car? ”
I chuckled and quickly changed the subject on the grounds that I had bought him good food.
In hindsight, it is clear that this question is not to avoid or divert the topic, and it can fool the past.
Because as children grow up slowly, they will germinate their own values and money concepts in their own small heads, and these concepts are very critical at this time. Therefore, it must be corrected, otherwise it will affect the formation of his values and money concept after he becomes an adult.
"Dad, why do other people have three suites and we only have one?"
"Mom, why do other children have designer clothes to wear, but I don't?"
A child's values are often silently formed in the observation and contrast of life.
How to answer such questions as children not only hides the vision of parenthood, but also affects the children's future values.