Psychologists advise: Don't give your child old clothes from others
After reading it, countless netizens were silent
In the eyes of many parents, giving their children other people's old clothes is a very trivial matter
However, in fact, if children always wear other people's old clothes, then their personality and future will be deeply affected
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Not long ago, I saw such a case on the Internet
A mother who came from a poor background and grew up with many brothers and sisters also had several children after marriage
So after the birth of the little daughter, in order to save money, the mother often dressed the little daughter with the old clothes of her older brothers and sisters
At first, the child was still young, didn't care, and was happy every day
This mother is also very proud of her wit and frugality, thinking that the children grow fast and their clothes are very new anyway
And children love to toss, wearing new clothes is inevitable pain, old clothes do not matter
As a result, when the youngest daughter went to kindergarten, she refused to wear old clothes anymore
And for this reason, he cried many times and did not want to go to school
So is it good to give your child someone else's old clothes?
As this mom said, for children of lower age, maybe they don't care yet
But once the child is 3 or 4 years old, I sincerely recommend that you as long as the financial conditions are not particularly difficult
Never give your child old clothes, for a reason
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Wearing other people's old clothes can affect a child's aesthetic temperament
In "Capturing Children's Sensitive Period", there is a concept of "aesthetic sensitivity period"
That is to say, children will become very fond of dressing up around the age of 4, especially for girls
This means that they have entered a "period of aesthetic sensitivity" at this time.
Therefore, during this period, children's dress will often determine their aesthetic temperament throughout their lives
Like my daughter, when she was about three and a half years old, she would often secretly turn over cosmetics
Give yourself a look of lipstick and makeup
When I finished the painting, I would ask me expectantly, "Mom, I'm not pretty."
Moreover, I also have my own ideas about getting dressed, and my favorite is to wear a beautiful little dress on the street
I even walk in my high heels
For children, the aesthetics of childhood will undoubtedly affect their temperament and aesthetic taste throughout their lives
People who have watched "Struggle" should remember such a clip, that is, Lu Tao asked Yang Xiaoyun to help decorate the house
As a result, Millais complained
"As far as Yang Xiaoyun's taste is concerned, you give him 30,000, she can decorate you with 100,000 tastes, but you give her 300,000, the effect is still 10"
In life, it is not difficult for us to find that some people can wear a high-end temperament when they wear stalls
But some people, even if they are full of famous brands, still give people a very cheap feeling
I have to say that a person's aesthetic temperament is very important
The key factor that determines a person's aesthetic temperament lies in the dress they dress in childhood
A child who grows up with no choice but to wear other people's old clothes
Then her aesthetic cannot develop, and when she grows up, she will become without aesthetic temperament
Therefore, parents want their children to grow up with temperament and aesthetics
In the "aesthetic sensitive period" of children, we must cultivate and guide them more, and give them more opportunities to choose
Let them learn to choose and match their own clothes
Of course, when choosing clothes, parents also depend on their family economic situation
If the family economy is ordinary, then you can pick some evaluation clothes
In this way, it will not increase the economic burden, but also can cultivate the child's aesthetic ability and temperament
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Wearing other people's old clothes will make children feel "helpless"
Psychology believes that a person's behavior is always under the "control" of others
Thus losing their own choices and judgments, unable to control their own behavior
For them, it is easy to produce a "feeling of helplessness"
For children, if parents always ask them to wear other people's old clothes regardless of preference, regardless of style
Then the child will lose control of his or her own life
Thus psychologically, there is a helpless emotion that cannot make its own decisions and can only be passively accepted
Over time, not only do you get dressed and do other things, but the child will also become unconceived and not know how to control
Thus making their personality become cowardly and inferior, not independent
Many parents may feel that I am not bad at money
I just think it doesn't matter if my children grow up fast and wear other people's old clothes, on the other hand, some parents are frugal by nature
However, these parents often ignore the negative impact of wearing old clothes on their children's psychological emotions
As mentioned earlier, if children are always forced to accept, then they will not develop an independent personality
The character will not become strong, but will become more and more helpless
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Wearing other people's old clothes will make children feel "inferiority"
For children before the age of 3, they spend most of their time at home and under the care of their parents
Therefore, at this time, they will not be noticed by others because they wear old clothes, and they will not have an inferiority complex
But wait for the child to leave the protection of his parents and enter the kindergarten group
They begin to be noticed and understood by others as independent individuals
At this time, if the child always wears someone else's old clothes
It is easy to be compared, even discriminated against
For the children themselves, they will also have "inferiority complexes" in the comparison, which will further affect their human-computer interaction and physical and mental health
In addition, children from the age of two or three, in general, have self-awareness
Because at this time, children are also more concerned about the outside world's perception of themselves
For the ridicule and ridicule of children, they will become very sensitive
Even for other people's unintentional glances, or some classmates intentionally or unintentionally showing off
Will cause a negative impact on the child's heart, making them have an "inferiority complex"
Over time, the child's physical and mental development will be completely affected
Over time, the child's happiness will be lower
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What should parents do?
I have to admit that for children, if they are in a state of "charity" for a long time
Then it will inevitably have a negative impact on their physical and mental development
As a parent, try not to let your child wear other people's old clothes when financial conditions permit
First of all, parents have to work hard and work hard to make money
Don't get used to eating and being lazy and accepting handouts from others from your own point of view
Secondly, if the ability is limited, then do not pursue the brand too much
Choose the right clothes for your child to the extent that your financial strength allows
Let the child dress comfortably and cleanly, and that's fine
In addition, for those parents whose families are particularly suffering, if they really want to wear old clothes for their children
Also let the child understand that this is only temporary and that he deserves better
Let the child understand that the value of a person is not in what he wears, but in how rich he is inside
As long as we are proactive, one day, the child will always get the life he wants
Well, today's content is here, did you wear old clothes when you were a child, what do you think about wearing other people's old clothes for your children? Welcome to interactive messages in the comment area, see you in the next issue.
PS (Article source parenting, original title: Psychology reminder: never give children to wear other people's old clothes, 3 influences are worth thinking about)