When it comes to love, it is inevitable to involve the management of love; when it comes to managing love, it is impossible to avoid the chat involving two people.
In a relationship, chat is an indispensable link for two people, it can be said that all feelings are also deepened by the connection established by chat.
Talking people can naturally be successful in gender relations;
People who can't express themselves are naturally difficult in the process of dealing with feelings.
Therefore, this also tells us that we must use the tool of language rationally in order to achieve the effect of doubling the results with half the effort.
Babe's Law: The stimulation produced by the first time weakens the stimulation of the second
There is a Beeb's law in psychology, which refers to the fact that the strong stimulus of the previous time will weaken the person's feelings about the latter stimulus to a certain extent.
To take a simple example, when we give a rose to the other half every day, when it is Valentine's Day, the other party will not have too many surprises.
Because this is already a habitual thing, the mood of receiving a rose for the first time will weaken and the mood of receiving a rose after that.
Therefore, the other party also feels that a rose is nothing, and naturally it will not be cherished.
On the contrary, if we usually do not send each other roses, but give each other a rose on Valentine's Day, then at this time, the other party will be grateful.
The same is true when men and women are chatting.
When a man says "I'm going to sleep", the first time he replies "good night", the man may feel quite fresh, but after that, the woman is the same every time, and the man will feel bored.
Good love needs freshness, and it needs factors that can make people feel different.
Therefore, women with high emotional intelligence will increase the freshness in love and work hard in each other's chat. Men say "going to bed", low EQ replies are "good night", and high EQ replies are like this.
Romantic, for example: "Gee, why are good times always so short"
When we do something, the most fundamental purpose is to hope to get pleasure from what we do, and the source of pleasure is the realization of the sense of self-worth that is done.
In other words, the more obvious the positive feedback given to us by an event, the more positive we will be in doing it.
Carnegie once said: "Women must be clear that men's desire to gain the admiration and approval of women is not a matter of machismo, but in fact it is only a manifestation of their nature." ”
Telling men that it is very pleasant to chat with him is to affirm the emotional value provided to us by the other party on the side, and also shows women's admiration and recognition of men.
At this time, the men who have received positive psychological cues will look forward to each other's next chat to a certain extent.
Warmth, for example: "Okay, but you have to dream about me at night."
Night is the most fragile stage of human emotions, the most open stage of human emotions, and the softest and most vulnerable stage of people's hearts.
Some people say that you should never make decisions at night, and it is for this reason.
During the day you need to disguise, at night you return to your truest self, and all your joys and sorrows are released at this time.
The night is a connection point between the day and the next day, so what people experience at night will affect people's state the next day to a certain extent.
And Liu Tong also wrote in the book: "The comfortable feeling is that you talk about any topic, and the other party can talk about it, not because the other party is well-informed, but the other party is extremely interested." ”
At this time, the smart woman knows that if you want to make a man completely surrender to herself, she needs to give the other party a dose of "strong medicine" at night.
For example, asking the other person to dream about himself at night.
Of course, whether you can dream in the end is still unknown, but in such a way you can deepen your impression in the hearts of men.
In this way, the other party will think of themselves from time to time.
Concern, for example: "Well, go to bed early, stay up late is not beautiful"
The book "A Feast of Flow" has a cloud: "If you lived in Paris when you were young, Paris will follow you all your life, because Paris is a feast of flow".
Gentleness never goes out of style, and men can't resist the charm produced by gentleness and warmth at any time.
Men also need to be cared for by others, and they also want to be cared for, the taste of being able to be cared for by others, just thinking about it makes it feel particularly beautiful.
Therefore, we can come out from this perspective to give men the warmth they want.
For example, at the end of a chat, we can say, "Well, go to bed early, stay up late is not beautiful."
This sentence contains a playful tone, and at the same time, it also makes men feel that women care about themselves and care about themselves.
As a result, they will have the enthusiasm to continue the relationship, and at the same time, they will further care about women on the basis of enjoying warmth.