Everyone is in a network of relationships, and we are in touch with others and at the right distance so that our network is not entangled and confused. This distance is both physical and psychological. For intimate relationships, the appropriate distance for each person to feel comfortable in their hearts is actually slightly different.
You may wish to do this experiment with your partner, stand face to face with him/her five meters apart, and then move closer to each other, and stop at a distance that you feel is suitable and comfortable, that is, the distance you feel comfortable with him/her, and it can also reflect your psychological distance from the intimate relationship.
If two people stop at the same time, it means that you are very consistent in the comfortable distance, and more often than not, one of the two people will stop first. If the other person cares a lot about his or her feelings, then he/she will walk alone for a while; if he/she is better at taking care of the other person's feelings, when he or she finds that the other party has stopped, he or she will often stop as soon as possible.
This psychological experiment tells us that in fact, there are still some differences in the comfortable distance between each person and others. In intimate relationships, two people often misunderstand and contradict each other because of the difference in psychological comfort distance.
Some people love their partner very much, their needs are inseparable from their partner, and the other party's snub is the most unbearable for them. There are also some people who dare to go to the soup for their lovers, but they are not used to showing themselves too much, they have been independent for too long, so they cannot give up their independent space. Due to differences in concepts and habits, it is often difficult for two people in love to understand each other's love and it is difficult to obtain emotional satisfaction.
Our need for and how we look at love has a lot to do with our respective birth families and upbringings. In our childhood, we get a lot of feelings from getting along with our parents and form a subjective attitude towards people's relationships. Often, these attitudes stay with us.
American social psychologist Brennan has found that people's attitudes toward intimacy can be divided into four different attachment types. Attachment types determine how we think about love and our partners, our preferences for emotional needs, what kind of partner we choose, and how we interact with our partners. What governs our love is not so much fate as the type of attachment we have in intimate relationships.
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The "Attachment Type Professional Assessment" recommended to you today is based on the research results of American social psychologists Brennan, Clark and Shaver, which evaluates the subjects through two dimensions and comprehensively determines the type of intimate relationship attachment tested. Through the assessment, you can understand the types and characteristics of your attachment relationship, and you will also get personalized adjustment suggestions to help you effectively improve the quality of your intimate relationship. Harvesting harmonious intimacy begins with knowing yourself.
What type of attachment are you to your partner?