There is no winner in the battle between husband and wife, only two losers. —Poet Guy
When Fang Yinuo took Eva to marry Xie Tianhua, it was not because he loved him.
This seemingly reliable and harmless mother is actually very good at using her chips to "kidnap" the man who is involuntarily in love to maximize her interests.
I have to say that Fang Yinuo was "steady, accurate, and fierce", so that Xie Tianhua was eaten to death by him.
However, this "one-headed" emotional balance suddenly collapsed!
Xie Tianhua actually reported Fang Yinuo: trust has become a terrifying doubt, and infinite tolerance has become "doing things to the extreme.".
Fang Yinuo: From "bullying" to "bullying" against Xie Tianhua
Xie Tianhua reported fang Yinuo Xiaolu's "fake marriage", and some netizens said: Xie Tianhua, do a beautiful job! Honest people also have anxious eyes, who is born to be a "great wronged species"?
Since Xiao Lu gave birth to a baby, Fang Yinuo's problem is not small:
Eating noodles during pregnancy is not spicy and unhappy, it is understandable, but it is boring to force Xiao Lu not to eat spicy (the picture shows Xiao Lu secretly eating a bite of spicy outside, and the "lie" was exposed by Fang Yinuo, condemning him as "unable to share happiness and suffering").
Wanting Xiao Lu to turn around at night with children, he would not say it well, either order or be grumpy, Xiao Lu expressed "I was wrong" in a series of ways, which could only be exchanged for Fang Yinuo's contempt.
Xiao Lu did not follow her intentions slightly, so he opened the "complaining mode": I want to give you a baby...
The husband's thousands of choices to find a sister-in-law, the same will not effectively communicate, direct ridicule and denial;
The mother-in-law came to replace the sister-in-law, smoked a cigarette outside, and did not forgive;
Xiao Lu was good to her, she only had those two sentences, "Who can I count on you" and "What good can you do", not strong, not the "boss" can not speak.
The days were originally full with some flaws, which was originally the norm of the family, but it was necessary to create a little "chicken flying dog jumping" atmosphere...
The husband "has no right" to get tenderness from her, the mother cannot rest, the mother-in-law's living habits are different and vulgar, and the sister-in-law is "bad" if she does not meet her wishes...
It's all just because she's on the "moral high ground" – because she's a "new mom" and I'm new!
But the problem is that my girlfriend is a "new mother" with two babies in reality, and the other party's evaluation of a promise is not high...
"How you treat life, life will treat you", this is true.
All the anxiety and irritability projected by Fang Yinuo were finally reflected to herself, and the "blessing" was really complained about by her...
Fang Yinuo is not a matter of not loving Xiao Lu, but of his way of thinking.
First, since giving birth, she has fallen into the role of mother, forgetting that she is also a wife.
Second, she is typical of the "weak thinking." The way of thinking of the strong is often upward and enterprising, self-motivating, creating and comforting redemption. But the weak are accustomed to relying on others, expecting others to be saviors, and putting the blame on the environment.
After marrying Xie Tianhua, Fang Yinuo seems to have grown up a bit, and can tolerate the "knife mouth" of the eldest sister-in-law and no longer "bully the weak".
But she still did not remember her "wife identity", the most obvious symbol is:
The starting point of Fang Yinuo's remarriage is not love, nor is it "recreating a happy life", but because "Hehe needs a father" is the so-called "last resort".
And this kind of "last resort" if you go deeper, the essence is "a second-married mother succumbs to men in order to survive."
It is precisely because the starting point is "self-survival" rather than "Xie Tianhua's happiness", so Fang Yinuo changed the previous "bullying" (to Xiao Lu) and translated it to "bullying" (for Xie Tianhua).
Xie Tianhua married her under pressure in order to "give her happiness." However, in Fang Yinuo's eyes, all this is not worth moving.
Because he loves, he embraces, he understands, he forgives, she can be numb, indifferent, and uncaring. Because she knew that he would never abandon her...
Really, if only one person in a marriage loves, it is terrible!
Xie Tianhua's "great injustice" physique: inferiority + deep love = death warp
In order to save Hehe, Fang Yinuo wanted to regenerate the "second child" with her ex-husband Xiao Lusheng.
Speaking of this topic, Fang Yinuo is still the kind of momentum that "I would rather bear the people of the world than the people of the world bear me".
Xie Tianhua endured this proposal, persuaded his family, and even forgave Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu for hiding from him to go to the hotel...
However, when Yinuo had Xie Tianhua's child and was lost, he finally "blackened".
Xie Tianhua's "blackening" is obviously the kind of honest people who are forced to be anxious.
My sister said that Xie Tianhua was too kind and stoic since he was a child, and he would always wronged himself:
In college, it was Fang Yinuo, who he fell in love with first, but he thought that Xiao Lu was better than himself, so in front of Xiao Lu's preemptive confession, Xie Tianhua chose to "give in".
This kind of "concession" made Xie Tianhua's inner wounds constantly bleed and scab. So many years later, he can still recall: Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu sat together, laughing at the way he couldn't eat chili peppers.
After marrying Yinuo, he was even more humble.
Especially in dealing with the matter of "having a second child".
"Agreeing to give birth to a second child to save Hehe", this matter can be understood as the greatness of Xie Tianhua's love, but the problem lies in Xie Tianhua's reaction and attitude -
His wife and ex-husband decided to do test tubes, and they didn't discuss it with themselves, but they just informed them, and Xie Tianhua was not angry?!
Then, Fang Yinuo continued to increase the "ready to come to the truth", and Xie Tianhua still chose to endure! ("Come really" is Fang Yinuo's proposal, and "forget it" is Xiao Lu's suggestion)
Dong Fan of Aixiao Road made some efforts to protest, but he thanked Tianhua and did nothing but bear it.
Forbearance and intolerance actually have little to do with saving Hehe, but only involve "whether the two will divorce because of tearing their faces".
Xie Tianhua loves slavery, to the point of fear: Fang Yinuo originally gave him the opportunity to "save men's self-esteem", but he "did not dare" to divorce.
If one loves another person to the point where there is no principle or bottom line, then that love is distorted.
Xie Tianhua's distortion has intensified————
When Fang Yinuo confessed to Xie Tianhua that "nothing had been done", Xie Tianhua's expression was happy like a child!
This man is really humble in love! Humble to the dust!
It is precisely because he has no confidence in his marriage that he is satisfied at this moment to confirm that Yinuo has "basic respect" for him. As for Fang Yinuo's love or non-love for him, he was powerless to pursue it at all.
Is this a man who is great because of love, or a man who is cowardly because of love?
Yinuo was pregnant with his child, and he carefully "begged for communication".
Perhaps because of the lens, this angle makes people feel like an emperor sitting on three thousand concubines, while Xie Tianhua is like a palace girl who wants to be named...
Will not take the initiative to fight, will not communicate, will only ask for alms, Xie Tianhua is an authentic "great injustice" no doubt.
Or the sister's kneeling, help Xie Tianhua get back the "attitude".
This kneeling is not only the sister's willingness and humility to fight for Xie Tianhua's rights, but also the sister's "resistance" to the other party's promise - you should give my brother equality and respect!
A philosopher once said that two people trapped in the "form of love", if the other person does not love you, it is very likely that she (he) is despising you (because he enjoys your love but disdains to reciprocate...). ）
Xie Tianhua, to some extent, acquiesced to Fang Yinuo's contempt.
Xie Tianhua reports Yinuo's self-redemption: he learns to resist, she learns to love
One desperately pays, one strives to "suck blood"... Even if the reporting incident does not occur, the contradiction between the two will inevitably occur at some point.
Fortunately, Xie Tianhua broke out.
He finally released the jealousy and suspicion of a normal man, spoke his true thoughts, and fought for his position and rights as a man and a lover.
Then, in order to prevent the two from "having a second child" again, he chose to report it.
But he did not expect that this report indirectly caused yinuo's miscarriage, so he strongly blamed himself.
At this time, Fang Yinuo took a step forward, and she finally paid the sincerity that a wife should pay.
Moreover, Fang Yinuo said to Xie Tianhua: I love you.
At that moment, she was no longer selfish, he was no longer cowardly.
Although he still cried like a child, he told Fang Yinuo that he belonged to Xie Tianhua's bottom line - even if she Fang Yinuo was perfect, if she did not give love in marriage, she would lose him.
What about Fang Yinuo? When did you start reviewing yourself?
Maybe it was the thought of losing Hehe, and Xie Tianhua was the only support for her to live; perhaps the reality was too bitter, so that she had to jump out of her mother's obsession, learn to relieve herself, and be a soft woman; maybe Xie Tianhua's love made her begin to understand reciprocation, and she began to understand what a sincere marriage is...
They are all good in nature: as a mother, Fang Yinuo is great. As a lover, Xie Tianhua loves selflessly. But their shortcomings in marriage are also obvious:
Fang Yinuo only had the rationality of his mother, and did not have the love of a woman. Xie Tianhua only had deep love, but lacked rationality.
Therefore, Xie Tianhua's report actually redeemed the marriage of the two: he no longer asked for alms, she began to love him vigorously, and they finally respected each other and reached the true sense of "same frequency".