Wen | Lily's mother
01
Many times, children say that they do not want to go to school, not really do not want to go to school, nor is it simply a problem of not going to school, but an expression of emotion, is the child's desire to be seen, to be understood, if parents can be patient to listen, the problem can be resolved quickly.
02
"Mom, can I not go to school tomorrow?" When I came home from school in the afternoon, my son threw down his school bag and ran into the bedroom to say this to me.
I was lying on the bed, weak and weak, with a headache, nausea, sore throat, and a persistent low-grade fever.
Today is the day of my son's "June 1st" performance, I was going to go to school to see the performance, but unfortunately I got sick.
The lack of physical strength made my heart shudder when I heard that sentence, and I was a little anxious, instinctively trying to reprimand him. I looked up at him and saw that his eyes were red and tears were about to pour out.
"No!" My voice was not high, but I resolutely refused.
The son cried out.
"What's wrong? What happened? Why not go to school? "I need to know the crux of the problem and help him unravel it."
"I can't say." The son answered while crying.
"Why can't you say it? Why are you so uncomfortable? ”
"I really can't say." The son turned and walked out of the bedroom as he spoke.
I heard him as if he were crawling on his own little bed and crying, very aggrieved, and louder and louder.
"Baby, come here and sit down at Mom's bed." I thought about the sunny and confident look he looked when he put on his performance costume at noon, how he suddenly changed his face when he came back in the afternoon, maybe it was not easy to deal with and express some bad emotions, I planned to help him analyze it slowly.
My son came in and sat down on the edge of my bed.
"Baby, don't worry, tell your mother what happened, and your mother will help you solve it!" I took a pillow and put it under my back to make my body slightly less underwhelming.
"This afternoon continues to go badly!"
"Because you have to pay for makeup, and mom doesn't have change for you." So after you leave home at noon, you first go to the stationery store near the school, buy something for change, and then go to the school to make up. ”
"Well, I waited in the classroom after putting on my makeup, and I practiced it once."
"After that, I went to the lecture hall and waited for the performance."
"Yes, I've been basking in the sun and waiting, it's particularly hot."
"You can go to a shady place and wait!"
"The trees were crowded with people, I couldn't get in, the classmates in front of me couldn't get sunburned, only me and two other classmates were sunburned." The son's mood slowly eased. I know that he has some weakness in his personality, and that whatever needs to be fought for, he will silently back off and give it to others, no matter how much he wants to have it in his heart.
"Oh, you're uncomfortable because it's too hot, and only a few of you are getting sunburned."
"Not all of them."
"What about later? You're in there to perform. ”
"Well, we performed very hard, but after the performance, it was a low score to hear us."
"How many of you got?"
"2 first places, 5 second places, 7 third places, a total of 14 classes of performances, we only got the third place."
"Oh, I can't blame you, Mom believes the kids will do their best."
"Yes! However, our homeroom teacher was very unhappy, very fierce to us, as if it was all our fault, before she said that after the performance, we were rewarded with an ice cream, but there was no reward, and it didn't count! Also punished us to go back and write a diary review! ”
"Oh, Mom understands, you can't accept the teacher's complaints and disbelief toward you, you feel very wronged, don't you?" I said gently.
Listening to this sentence, it seemed to touch his pain point, and the emotions that had been slowly calmed before fluctuated again, and suddenly his mouth flicked and he wanted to cry out again.
I immediately smiled, "Baby, in fact, the most uncomfortable thing is your teacher, she worked so hard to find a professional teacher to train you, and think you are great, I hope you can take the first place, but only the third place, she has a big gap in her heart, and then she has an emotion to get angry with you." The teacher is also an ordinary person, with normal emotions, you have to put yourself in the teacher's shoes and think for the teacher, and everyone has shortcomings, you have to learn to forgive and tolerate. Although your teachers have a bad temper, they teach very hard, right? ”
"Well, yes, Mom."
"Baby, tomorrow this matter will pass, the teacher will not care anymore, let's go to school well, ah-"
"Well, Mom, I can go to school!"
03
How innocent a child is! They can laugh happily, they can cry very freely, and they are still crying a lot, and now they are already smiling.
Sometimes, the child's problem seems to be very serious, but when you break it open and analyze it, it is actually just a small summary, as long as the mother has enough patience to help him solve it, it will be able to solve it.
The mother's patience will make the smiling child smile more brightly, and let the crying child burst into laughter!