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Any kind of feeling requires time and energy to manage, especially love.
Love should be the most magical existence, two people who do not know each other, because of the collision of hearts, have the idea of wanting to spend the rest of their lives together.
However, not every love can get the end of a lifetime, and not everyone has the ability to love and grasp love.
Man is the product of habit, a person has not learned how to love a person from a young age, he will most likely repeat the path of love of his parents, and treat his lover in the way of his parents.
If his parents did not trust each other and complained to each other in the process of getting along, he would set the same plot for himself and push his lover far away.
Many patterns of life have actually been written down in the original family.
A person who does not believe in love and has no trust in love, even if he meets someone who treats him sincerely, he will use all kinds of excuses to drive the other party away.
Each of us is a screenwriter of our own life, and what kind of things we want to experience is entirely up to us.
When a person has an extremely strong desire, he can generate the strength to break the pattern of life he wrote for himself earlier, which is similar to love.
Many times, because they are pulled by two different forces of life patterns and desires, people always behave very contradictory.
Therefore, we sometimes feel that whether a person loves us or not depends entirely on the other party, and we can only passively accept this result.
So, when the desire is strong enough, we believe that our actions can influence the other person, and we give birth to specific ways to achieve the goal.
When we deeply believe that circumstances change with our hearts, we can break through the patterns of life that stand in our way.
When you believe that you have enough ability to influence a relationship, wisdom will arise or there will be a way to help you achieve it.
Someone once asked: What can I do to make my boyfriend love me more? I felt that nothing I could do could affect whether he loved me or not.
My answer to this question is that although each person is an independent individual, some of our actions will still affect each other, and through this we can achieve the desired effect.
The way to make the other half love us more is actually very simple, remember the three senses plus points.
Many times, the reason why we are willing to consciously do something is nothing more than these three reasons. One is that we will be very happy to do this, the second is that we believe that we have the ability to do this well, and the third is that we have the choice to do it.
The corresponding of these three reasons is a sense of care, a sense of accomplishment, and a sense of autonomy.
A sense of love and accomplishment will promote a person's willingness to do something.
Therefore, women want to make men love you more, and they must know how to give men a sense of love and achievement.
1. Sense of love: Give back to him for his kindness to you
If you want a man to love you more and more, then you must let the man be able to harvest emotional satisfaction in the matter of loving you.
To do this is to see the emotions of a man when he is good to you, and to satisfy the emotions he wants you to give him.
For example, if a loved one gives you a gift, all you have to do is give back his actions with happiness and express gratitude to him so that he can feel "loved" as well.
On this point, it seems simple, and it is also a natural and normal move to just use positive emotions to give back.
However, in real life, how many women choose to ignore and complain in the face of men's efforts and care, directly cutting off men's emotional needs.
A wise woman, even if a man gives her a gift that she does not like, she will be full of joy, thank you from the bottom of her heart, and see the man's emotions.
In love, everyone hopes that their efforts can be seen, and they also hope that their love can get a return.
So, if you want a man to love you more, that is, when he pays for you and tries his best to be happy for you, remember to give back to his efforts and make him feel loved.
2. Sense of accomplishment: Appreciate his efforts
In love, the so-called sense of accomplishment is probably that I believe that I have the ability to make you happy.
Appreciating a man from the bottom of your heart will make a man feel very accomplished, especially when he is good to you with his heart.
Don't skimp on your love for a man, don't feel that his kindness to you is deserved, and don't feel that his heart-warming behavior is not worth mentioning.
What we have to do is seize every moment of his hello and praise and praise it.
For example: when you are sick, he thoughtfully feeds you medicine, you have to express your gratitude without stinginess, and appreciate his actions, and even gently say that you are really good at taking care of people...
Appreciating a man's actions will make him deeply believe that he can give you a good future, while doubling down on your kindness.
Complaining and suppressing a man will only make a man lose confidence and even question whether he can give you happiness. Over time, his self-confidence will be suppressed and defeated by complaints, and then he feels that he is not capable of loving you, protecting you, and alienating himself from his heart.
In love, don't treat your beloved man in an extreme way by frequent complaints, suppressing and comparing, you think that this short-term way can force a man to do what you want, but you don't know that this way will cost him the loss of his love.
Want a man to love you more, that is to appreciate his kindness to you.
3, the sense of autonomy: allow him to be good to you in the way he wants
When you give a man a sense of love and accomplishment in love, he will love you more and more, which is a natural thing.
In the three senses plus method, the sense of autonomy also emphasizes allowing the man to have his own right to choose, allowing him to be as he is, allowing him to be good to you in the way he wants.
If a man has no freedom and no right to choose in a relationship, then this sense of bondage and repression will make him finally choose to leave.
Women in love, you can express their expectations, but do not stipulate that a man must treat you the way you want, let alone prescribe and restrict men's choices.
The sense of autonomy is actually to let us guard our own boundaries and allow men to be as he is, and not to move their minds that want to transform him.
Everyone wants to live out their ego, so when you can give a man a sense of autonomy in love, then he will definitely love you more.
Your love will thus reach the highest level of love—unconditional love.
You can give all the feelings he needs, and he doesn't need to take them from elsewhere, and he doesn't want to leave, because you've brought him close to consummation, so it's impossible to choose to leave you.
In love, ignoring, indifference, suppression, comparison, restriction, and transformation will cut a man's love for you, so you must reduce the use of these ways to treat the man you love.
If you want a man to love you more, then give him love, give him joy, give him a sense of "freedom" in the way he wants, and let him be rejuvenated and passionate in your love.
Using the right way of love to nourish the loved ones will often get feedback from the other party, and then both will be healed by each other and accompanied by happiness.
May each of us, in the process of giving love, be healed by love, and then find our way home.
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I am Hexu, a creator of the emotional field of warmth and happiness in the heart, writing emotional texts, writing emotions with words, and warming the heart with emotions. Thank you for reading and deeply wish you peace, health and joy!