If everyone's life is a journey, then from birth to the end is doomed to be lonely, one person comes, another person goes.
In this life, people live to the end and accompany themselves on the longest road, after all, they are the only ones.
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Don't rely too much on anyone
No one can be your life's safe haven
In this world, no one can be your eternal safe haven, and even when you are struggling in the dark, even your own shadow will leave you.
In the long journey of our life, there are many people who accompany us, there are parents, friends, colleagues, children...
However, they can only accompany themselves to walk a certain part of the way, even if it is the biological parents whose blood is thicker than water, they will have to leave one day.
There is no unbroken feast in the world, parents are there, home may be our only safe haven, and all of us will have parents to bear for us. However, when the parents are gone, everything left can only be solved by themselves.
There is a saying that when someone is in pain, the mineral water can not be unscrewed; but when no one loves, the bottled water has to be carried.
When you don't have dependence, you can only rely on yourself, and it is this experience that teaches us to grow.
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Don't mistake marriage as a safe haven
Marriage is just a ship in the same boat
If you want to find yourself a place to dock through marriage, you would be very wrong.
Because it is possible that the biggest storm you have experienced in your life is brought about by marriage, whether it is a man or a woman. An unhappy marriage is destined to hurt oneself badly.
Men get married to a worry-free and stable, women get married figures more than one person to earn money for the family, but where is marriage to do subtraction? Family, responsibility, relationship between families, children's education, and so on, are all shackles and burdens.
It can even be said that after stepping into the hall of marriage, there is no place to stop, because for the sake of the family, for the sake of responsibility, for everything on your shoulders, you can only grit your teeth and keep rushing down without turning your head.
Husband and wife are nothing more than being in the same boat through thick and thin, sharing weal and woe, going through all the tribulations, and then leaving one after another.
The ship of marriage is doomed to be unable to dock and can only move forward together.
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Make yourself the strongest
Become your own safe haven
When we were toddlers, we fell, got up, and kept walking. This is the truth that we have understood since childhood, the road under our feet can only be walked by ourselves, no one can replace it, and when we fall down, we can only stand up and continue to walk.
When we graduated from work, the workplace was wronged, and we could only endure silently and secretly be strong. Because we already know subconsciously that everything we experience can only be borne by ourselves, society is not charity, we do not believe in tears, and no one will give you an extra salary because of your crying.
When we get married and have children, no matter how hard the life is, we will smile and say to our parents that everything is fine. Because we know that marriage is our own choice, bitterness and sweetness are only responsible for ourselves.
The passage of time and the precipitation of time have long learned to face the various storms and rains of life, and crawl forward, which is the course of life.
Remember, no one in this world will be a haven in this world except yourself.
The life you want, only you can give.