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April 16, 2022, is the day shenzhou 13 returns to earth. A full six months have passed since it left Earth.
The whole country is closely watching the latest news, waiting for the return of the three space heroes.
Finally, the return capsule landed safely.
The Shenzhou 13 manned mission was successfully completed, and the three astronauts also arrived safely in Beijing by mission plane in the afternoon of the same day.
For a time, a number of related news rushed to the hot search, of which the first place was female astronaut Wang Yaping.
As China's first female astronaut to leave the capsule, and also the first female astronaut in China to "go out to space twice", Wang Yaping has received a lot of attention.
When the astronauts returned to Beijing, their families came to the scene.
Among them, Wang Yaping's daughter wore a Chinese red dress, holding flowers, waiting to meet her mother in the company of her father.
When I saw their family of three hugging each other tightly, the picture was not to mention how warm and sweet.
Subsequently, Wang Yaping took out a "star" from his arms with a smile on his face and handed it to his daughter.
It turned out that as early as last year, before the Shenzhou 13 mission set off, Wang Yaping agreed with his daughter that this time he would "pick stars" for her and her classmates when he returned from space.
It is precisely for this reason that when Wang Yaping came out of the cabin, she called out to her daughter affectionately: "The mother who picked the stars is back!" ”
This sentence made many netizens moved.
Do the promises parents make to their children need to be kept?
This issue should have been uncontroversial.
A promise is worth thousands of dollars, and of course the promise must be fulfilled! Even if the heavens pick the stars, if the child is promised, the parents must try their best to complete it!
But in reality, there are many parents who do not respect their commitments to their children.
At the end of last year, a video of a 15-year-old girl beating her mother on the street appeared in the eyes of netizens.
In the video, the girl smacks her mother's helmet hard. Along with the constant blows, there was also the girl's hoarse roar: "Can't go!" Can't go! ”
The girl's mother did not resist at all, but just squeezed the handlebars.
Passers-by who like to watch the liveliness have gathered around, and some even pulled out their mobile phones to shoot.
If you look at it this way, the girl is the party that should be blamed.
But when the truth of the matter was revealed, the story reversed.
The 15-year-old girl saved 4,000 yuan and wanted to replace her broken mobile phone, and after getting her mother's consent, the two came to the mobile phone store. But at this time, the mother repented.
The two started an argument, which attracted onlookers. The girl did not want to be watched by so many people and wanted her mother to ride away from the scene, but her mother was reluctant to start the car.
The disappointment and sense of being deceived brought about by the mother's untrustworthiness, the pointing and discussion of the crowd at the scene, and the double pressure struck together, crushing the 15-year-old child.
Emotionally out of control, she had the scene in the video.
Girls are not at all wrong, and taking ten thousand steps back and beating up their own mothers is not the right behavior.
But this mother's problem is noticeably bigger. She not only lost faith in her children, but also allowed the melon eaters to watch and hit the children arbitrarily, hoping to use the pressure of public opinion of the onlookers to humiliate and punish her children fiercely.
The first hot comment below speaks to the hearts of many people.
Many parents set goals for their children, and when they reach the goal, they will be rewarded accordingly. For example, if you get 100 points, you can buy toys, or if you can enter the top ten this time, you can go out and travel.
But not all parents will cash in on rewards.
In terms of knowledge, there are even parents who ask for help from netizens, and the child has obtained the agreed results, but does not want to fulfill the promise of what to do.
Faced with the child's wishes, the parent did not consider whether it was appropriate or not, and he agreed with his mouth. When the child completed the request, he began to regret it, thinking that the promise was too crisp.
And the comments section below the question is almost one-sided, with all the criticism.
Many netizens shared their experience of being "pigeon-released" by parents in the comment area.
Not only are the pigeons "released", but some parents will also make excuses for their words to be untrustworthy.
The child is so young, I will just say that he will not take it seriously.
The child is now making a fuss about it, and when the time is long, he will naturally forget to ask for it.
I don't buy it for his own good, and he doesn't know anything now.
Children know what promises not to promise, and they will coax this stubble to pass later.
In the "National Survey Report on the State of Family Education (2018)", there is a statistical data on the bad behavior of parents in front of their children.
In the fourth and eighth grades, the most frequent occurrence is "what has been promised to the child can not be done"!
Of these, 42.2% are in the fourth grade, and 63.7% in the eighth grade!
For many children, the parents' lack of faith is their most annoying problem, and it is also a family problem they often encounter. Some children are even accustomed to the backlash of their parents.
But a person's trust is limited and cannot withstand arbitrary splurge, even to parents.
Parents' lack of faith will only disappoint the child and create a crisis of trust.
You know, parents are the closest people to the child, even they can't trust, the child can rest assured to trust whom.
Keeping promises is the most basic cultivation of a person, and it is also one of the minimum moral principles. As the child's enlightenment teacher and guide, parents should always face the child with a positive image and instill the correct concept into him. Children should not be felt to be young and ignorant to break the norms.
If the parents who are role models are accustomed to not believing in front of their children, the children will feel that the parents are not honest people, and the parents' lofty image in their hearts will collapse, and those promises that have not been fulfilled will also be remembered in their hearts and cannot be forgotten. Some children will even follow the example of their parents and write empty checks.
Parents are not saints and cannot be wrong at all. If you cannot meet your child's wishes, you should take the initiative to apologize to your child and ask for his forgiveness.
Instead of maintaining their parental authority, they can't put down their own face, hide it, and even loudly rebuke their children and refuse to admit that it is their own problem.
Because sometimes what motivates children more is not what the content of the commitment is, but the attitude of the parents to the commitment.
Every act of keeping a promise by a parent will be remembered by the child and turned into a motivation to respect the parents
Making a promise is only a matter of seconds. To overturn a promise, it only takes a sentence or two. Once the child's trust is lost, it will be difficult to make up for it.
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