Seeing that many mothers have the same confusion as me, children cry first when they have something to do, are not good at expressing, ask and do not say, first lose their temper and cry, which is really distressing.
Especially if boys cry at every turn, parents will say, man, don't cry, there are things to say, but the child still cries first, why?
Why do children cry when things happen, angry and willful? How to solve it?
Children cry when they encounter things, the main reason is that they will not control their emotions, do not know how to solve things, will not express their needs, so use crying, anger, willfulness and other ways to express their emotions to attract the attention of adults.
Because today's children's living conditions are good, the family is spoiled, there are things that parents help the children solve in time, and the children have not encountered any setbacks, so when they encounter things that are not in line with their own hearts, they are easy to be willful, angry, and crying.
It is normal for children to have emotions, and the key is how we guide children to express their own views and teach children to solve problems in the right way, rather than using emotions.
Children cry from being motionless, to learning to speak when things happen, good at expression, only because the mother used a method
My son was shy, timid, and crying when he was 2 or 3 years old, and he cried first no matter what it was, I was once troubled, and I sincerely hoped that my son would be brave and strong, and he would say it in advance.
For example, when playing with children outside, his things were robbed and he came to me crying; when playing on the slide, he saw more children, and he stood timidly on the side, and he did not dare to play.
I taught him what not to cry, say it first, you don't say it, and my mother doesn't know what it is, how to help you solve it? But the effect is not great, the child is still crying first, and I have to guess his needs.
I need to soothe his emotions on the one hand, on the other hand, ask if something happened, for example, whether the ball was grabbed by others, whether he did not dare to play with the children, etc., guessed correctly, nodded, guessed wrong, he cried harder.
Slowly the son changed, even the kindergarten teacher praised him for changing greatly, not crying when encountering things, but speaking clearly; playing with children, daring to speak his thoughts boldly; not sulking, having something to say well; not so shy, and daring to raise his hand to answer questions loudly.
In fact, the change of my son is mainly due to the fact that I used a method: reading the "Love expression" series of picture books with him, the child was subtly affected in the story, and his behavior and personality changed.
Because 2-6-year-old children, if they are not good at expression, will cry first when they encounter things, and many children do not know how to express, will not express, when it is not clear, parents do not understand, children will be more angry, willful, crying.
The "Love expression" series of picture books is to guide children to learn to express, effectively control their emotions, and let children learn to be strong, confident and brave.
"Love Expression" is a full set of 8 volumes, covering a variety of personality problems encountered in the growth of children, such as timidity, inferiority, willfulness, strong dependence, can not face failure, etc., so that children are strong inside, learn to be confident, strong, brave, and love expression.
The protagonist of the story is a cute little animal, which is in line with the cognitive characteristics of children, which can attract children's attention and improve their interest in reading.
The illustrations are colorful and full of childlike fun, which attract children's attention very well and make children fall in love with reading.
The language is vivid and vivid, and many elephant words, adjectives and other types of words enrich the children's language thesaurus.
Picture books have a strong sense of substitution, which allows children to recognize their own behavior and correct them in the story situation, and learn to express themselves.
For example, in "Don't Cry, Speak Clearly", the whining rabbit is a little rabbit who loves to cry, in the morning it wants to drink carrot juice soup, but the mother brought the green vegetable juice soup, it whined and began to cry, the mother changed other soups, it did not meet its heart, it did not say or cry, and finally the mother thought it was uncomfortable, took it to the hospital, and finally did not drink the carrot juice soup.
The whining rabbit got lost and cried against the tree, the other small animals asked where it lived, it did not say, just crying..., after experiencing a few things, the whining rabbit knew: crying is useless.
Later, the whining rabbit changed, wanted to eat the cake directly to the mother said, when playing in the amusement park, the little monkey snatched its flower skin ball, it did not cry but said, you play the flower skin ball first, I go to swing, after a while we will exchange, it and the little monkey have a lot of fun.
When I saw the big bad wolf while picking mushrooms outside, the whimpering rabbit did not cry, and quickly told her mother loudly that they hid in the tree hole in time and were saved...
When the child listens, he will understand that crying does not work at all, and there are things that must be clearly expressed to solve the problem.
Other books, such as "Don't be shy, say boldly" shyness is a situation that children have more or less, when children are shy, parents do not rush to let children change, or even criticize children, this will only backfire.
When the child is not ready for socialization, we only need to demonstrate to the child, and the child will become more and more confident.
"Don't be impatient, think about it and say it again" Before every time you speak, do you think about it and say it again, will it be much better? Don't be impatient, express it seriously and clearly.
"Don't be afraid, speak bravely" allows children to express their ideas bravely.
"Don't be angry, say it well" Children are in a hurry, lose their temper, get angry and can't solve the problem, guide the child to vent their emotions, don't get angry, and have problems to express.
"Not willful, appropriately speaking", guide children to express their ideas correctly.
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If your child encounters timidity, inferiority, shyness, willfulness, inability to face failure, etc. in the process of growing up, it is highly recommended that you read the "Love expression" series of picture books with your child to guide your child to express himself correctly, so that his child can learn to be confident, strong, brave and grow up happily.
Let the child learn to express from elementary school, fall in love with expression, be good at expression, and make more effective changes in reading!
2-6 years old parent-child reading, after the child goes to the first grade, it can be used as a bridge book to help children read independently and use a book.