When we talk about giving, we are very stingy: we always feel that we have given too much, and when we talk about getting, we are always too greedy, and we always feel that God is most sorry for ourselves.
This state is especially evident in the feelings, it seems that everyone is not willing to pay too much for each other, but they want the other party to love themselves more and pay more for themselves.
If love is like a tug-of-war, then everyone wants to win the final victory without any strength.
But even if the other party intends to release water, they have to pick up the rope themselves, if they can't even do this, how can they get the desired result?
Therefore, if you want to harvest a desired relationship, you must first learn to take the initiative to make efforts, so if you want to be emotional with a man, you may wish to touch him in this way, which can make his hormones soar.
1. Learn to refuse
I have to admit that once some women meet a man they like, their IQ will all go offline, their eyes will be full of each other, and they will all talk and do things around each other.
So once a man makes a request, whether it is reasonable or unreasonable, such women will also accept it, but this will only make the other party "despise" you more.
It is the truth that is too easy to get, and it has been verified in countless people, so don't easily challenge the authority of truth, and let yourself learn to reject it.
For some of the requirements made by men, especially against you, such as borrowing money from you shortly after you met, or asking you to help with some help beyond your own ability, you must reject the other party.
Not only can you show your attitude to men, tell each other that you are not a love brain, let others take care of it, but also reduce unnecessary damage for yourself, so as not to end up with two people and money.
Don't think this is too calculated performance, life and ideals are still very different, rational payment is not bad, but it is easier to make yourself invincible.
2. Want to get away with it
Many women will hate not being able to be with each other for 24 hours after falling in love, although this mood is understandable, but do not put it into action.
Because once you express this idea too obviously, it is equivalent to telling the other party how much you love him, and when the love has not yet settled, it is easy to make yourself passive and never be led by the nose of the other party.
This feeling is very bad, if you want to occupy the initiative, and can make the other party love themselves to the point of extrication, the best way is to want to indulge.
You can show a closer relationship with the other party, such as cooking some phone porridge, and also giving some care beyond the scope of friends, so that the other party knows your intentions.
But just when he thinks he's sure of you, learn to pull some distance, such as the messages they send, don't reply immediately, or don't reply at all, and learn to decline some of the invitations they send, and for a while, snub them, don't contact them.
People are competitive, originally they thought they had eaten you, but your performance is telling them that they just think too much, which will make them want to "conquer" you more and more, and then they will spend more time and energy on you.
3. Sense of crisis
In fact, although many men usually look silly, but in fact, they know in their hearts that they know the little tricks played by women, so even if you want to get away with it, they will not care too much, because they know that there is no other opposite sex around you except yourself.
Of course, this kind of opposite sex is the kind that continues to develop, if it is just ordinary friends, naturally it will not be put in their eyes, so at this time we must learn to create some sense of crisis appropriately.
For example, when eating together, deliberately chatting with other members of the opposite sex is hot, or when friends come out to play together, they are more intimate with other members of the opposite sex, so that they know that in fact, there are many men you can choose from, not only them.
However, in order to avoid unnecessary trouble for yourself, you should say goodbye to other members of the opposite sex in advance, all this is just "acting", let them not think too much.
No matter how much people are loved, they will be worried about the love that they have not received, and what affects a person is not what they get, but what they cannot ask for.
So if you want to always be invincible in love, don't hand yourself over too quickly, and learn to satisfy men's appetites and keep them in a state of visible but untouchable.
Of course, it is also necessary to give a little "sweetness" at the right time, otherwise it is easy for them to choose to give up after a long time.
Love sometimes seems very simple, as long as they truly love each other, it is enough, but sometimes it is no less than "marching and fighting", not only to have enough strength, but also to have enough intelligence, only in this way, in order to get the final victory.
So you must not ignore the above three points, as long as you understand, the effect will be beyond your imagination.