What kind of person are you going to be? Remarkable, or ordinary?
I believe that most people will choose the former, and they all want to become an excellent person who can live their lives in the way they like.
As Turgenev once said, "Do you want to be a happy person?" I hope you first learn to be able to bear suffering. ”
The more excellent and outstanding people are, the more they know how to bear hardships, know how to run marriages and families, and know how to take good care of themselves. How exactly do they do it?
01 Being a partner in a marriage is not humble or profane
Sanmao once said: "If love cannot be implemented into dressing, eating, sleeping, and counting money, these real lives will not last long."
Han Jie told a story of her own in "Han Xie". When she was 32 years old, her old illness recurred and she was bedridden for 21 days. For the first time in her life, she used diapers due to illness, and she felt very broken, and her emotions were out of control for a while.
But her husband, who was five years younger, did not complain about her, but always took care of her, accompanied her, and spent that difficult time with her.
Indeed, in marriage, it is not exactly the wind and snow, but more about getting along bit by bit. And being able to support each other and move forward in the days of chickens and dogs may be the most real marriage.
I have not yet entered marriage, but I have found the shadow of marriage in the stories of my parents.
My mother likes to be reasonable, my father likes to be silent, these two people together, no contradiction is false, because when I was very young, I often saw two people fighting, and the neighbors couldn't stop it.
Later, perhaps under the run-in of time, the contradictions between the two gradually decreased, and the relationship eased a lot. On one occasion, my mother was sick and hospitalized, and I couldn't go back from the field, and through a video with my father, I saw his red eyes.
In my eyes, the mother's love for the father is endless, and the father's love for the mother is wordless, and it is precisely because of these heavy loves that the two of them can go through the storm and meet a better future!
Therefore, the best way for couples to get along is to be partners in marriage, tolerate each other, understand each other, and also be able to be humble, not humble, and not flattering.
02 Be the umbrella of parents and learn to wait
We are growing up day by day, and our parents are getting older day by day.
Not long ago, in Changchun, Jilin Province, an old man had no choice but to go to the supermarket downstairs to buy things because of the lack of food at home.
However, the staff of the supermarket told the old man that because of the epidemic control, the supermarket could not directly sell goods to the public, and could only buy vegetables through WeChat.
When the old man does not use a smart phone, he can only ask the staff one by one: What is WeChat? Where to go to WeChat? Where to pick it up on WeChat?
After a long period of fruitless communication, the old man was still confused, and finally forced to helplessly, had to plead bitterly to the staff: You pity me.
In the end, it was the volunteers in the community who recorded the incident, and that night, a staff member sent vegetable packets and other daily necessities to the elderly.
In the face of a rapidly changing society, our parents may have similar situations: derailment, poor memory, slow response, etc., so they may ask us questions repeatedly, let us say it again, let us speak slowly.
At this time, we should also learn to take it slowly and give them some time.
As Zhao Han said: "In the face of aging parents, please let us have some patience and wait for them to catch up." ”
After all, each of us has a day when we grow old, and we also have moments when we need to be taken care of and understood, and learning to revise our relationship with our parents is also a kind of growth.
Maybe a hug, a thank you, a phone call can make parents happy all day.
Have time to spend more time with your parents, boldly show your love, and the relationship with your parents is close, and the smiles on your parents' faces will naturally increase.
Don't wait until it's time to lose and know how to cherish. Don't really understand this truth when you are old.
03 Be the master of your own life and try to love yourself
Some people on the Internet said: "Pull yourself onto the main axis of life, you can really live your own style." ”
As Zhang Defen said, my dear, there is no one else out there, only yourself.
Also like Zhao Han's experience, she was bullied when she was in school, so when she grew up, she was reluctant to make friends with people, afraid that her heart would be wrong.
Mr. Lu Xun said that many people can't see others living a good life, and if they don't have it and others have it, they will feel resentful.
Zhao Han finally got out of the predicament and gained a group of close friends, and even fans, to send blessings on her birthday.
Perhaps, this is life, when we have the courage to make up for our flaws and get along with our true selves, we can become the unique rose.
Just like writing reading notes and learning book reviews in a book camp, maybe I am a little white and don't know anything; maybe I know a little bit of fur, but I still have a long way to go from the draft; maybe I can make knowledge cards, but I can't write book reviews.
No matter what kind of person we are, please be true to yourself, the truth is like a mirror, can reflect our appearance.
When we can get along with our real selves, and through learning the methods of reading and writing, plus the assistance of the commentator, step by step to make up for our own deficiencies, I believe that it will not be long before we can realize our original intentions.
Moreover, when we accept our true selves and try to make up for these deficiencies, it is a process of growth and a process of loving ourselves, because you make yourself the person you want to be the most!
Write to the end
Most of the outstanding people understand these three truths: to be a partner in marriage, not to live a humble life; to be the umbrella of parents, learn to wait; be the master of their own life, learn to love themselves more.
Finally, I would like to give you this passage from "Implications":
"In the future, even if there are no two people in one room, you still have to eat three meals for four seasons, take care of your internal organs, don't let your little heart go up and down eight times without a problem, I hope that no matter what you do, you can take nine out of ten and live perfectly according to your own wishes." 」
Even if you are a person, you must live well and love yourself well.
And you're not alone, you and I.
If you have any questions, welcome to talk to me.
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