As parents, we all love our children dearly. But sometimes the child's intentional or unintentional behavior will inevitably provoke parents to be angry, and we are easy to control our emotions, yell at the child and even move. If you are full of anger at your child's education for a long time, it will have many negative effects on your child's body and mind.
One. Physiological effects:
1. Hearing loss.
Living in an environment with too large decibels for a long time will cause damage to hearing. Especially when the child is still developing, the development of various body organs is not yet perfect, and once the damage is caused, the consequences will often be more serious than imagined.
2. Imperceptibly imitate
The phrase "parents are the best teachers for children" is not just saying. Because the child's imitation ability is very strong, first put aside the psychological impact, parents communicate with the child at a larger volume for a long time, which will bring subtle influences to the child, unconsciously in life, the volume will also increase, aside from whether it will cause hoarseness during the voice change period, etc., simply leaving people with the stereotype of "big voice" is also what we do not want to see.
Two. Psychological Effects:
1. Lack of self-confidence, easy to self-denial
Often shouting at children, the most direct impact is that children will lack enough self-confidence, feel that they can not do anything well. As the saying goes, "the more urgent the more wrong", in the same way, the more the child feels that he has been denied, the easier it is for the child to do things wrong, so that he will fall into a vicious circle. It is also a very negative impact on the child's growth path.
2. Prone to cowardice or indifference
Parents who criticize their children loudly for a long time will have a negative impact on their children's personality and make their children's personalities cowardly or indifferent. When encountering problems or difficulties in daily life, it is often easy to have fear and resistance, and it is particularly easy to withdraw and escape. Over time, children will lack due responsibility and will not be able to have a sense of responsibility for most things. Over time, it becomes unsociable and unable to integrate into the collective environment/social environment.
3. Trigger the child's rebellious psychology
According to past examples, it is not difficult to find that some children have a very serious rebellious psychology after experiencing the long-term "anger" of their parents, choosing to take the initiative to alienate their parents, no longer communicate with parents, and even argue with parents, and the serious ones will run away from home. The main culprit that leads to all this is this improper "anger" education method.
The child is an individual with special learning rules and characteristics. And children at different ages, there are different limits to their cognition of things. Therefore, it is crucial to carry out different education and guidance according to the age of the child. Although love has different ways of expressing it, it is all for the sake of children.
"Education is a long run", with the Jun.