Many people have faced such a choice, should they find a partner similar to their own personality, or is it better to complement each other? Which is more appropriate? In fact, the so-called suitability does not have an absolute quantitative standard, after all, there are individual differences between people and people themselves, and their cognition of things and values are also different. Faced with the same thing, one person may feel that the problem is very big, and the other person will feel that it is not a problem. These differences will cause us to inadvertently do a lot of things that make the other person feel uncomfortable, and the accumulation of inevitable quarrels and quarrels that will break out one day. Many couples are like this, originally quite loving, but for a long time, when some contradictions occur, they can't help but wonder whether we are really suitable, whether we should break up, many people say that two people are not suitable, it depends on whether the three views are consistent. So what exactly is the consistency of the three views? I think if you have these kinds of performances when you get along, then you can say that you have not found the wrong person.
First, it feels safe to have him around.
In fact, when we are in love, many times it is really not for money, not for someone to help you cook, and it is not for someone to help you clean your room. The most important thing about love is emotional value, that is, with you, can make me happy, warm, at ease, lonely, painful, sad, maybe you have no way to help solve the problem, but you gave each other the warmest companionship, this companionship is the most precious thing, but also the most important value of love. He would make me understand that the world is so big, but I'm not alone in the fight. Someone is behind us, and this peace of mind cannot be replaced by anyone.
Second, in front of each other, you can be the real white self.
Because you believe in each other, you will involuntarily let go of your ego. In the eyes of others, she is an independent and confident new female representative, but in front of you is a child who has not grown up, and will cry and laugh for the mentally handicapped idol drama, and will lie to you for half a day because of thinking about ice cream. He is a rational and cold man in the eyes of others, but you know that when he sees cockroaches, he can't help but scream, and he will also feel sad because he sees the old woman who is still selling vegetables in the middle of the night on the side of the road. You have secrets that are hidden deep in each other's hearts, and you tacitly keep these secrets for each other, you will carefully protect the real and somewhat fragile child in each other's hearts, and you will feel particularly cute and cute about the huge contrast between each other in front of you and your family.
Third, there's a lot of crap when we're together.
Two people always have endless words, and they don't have to deliberately think about the topic, and you can talk about anything you see. Even if there is no topic sometimes, sending a meme can be chatted back and forth for half a day, childish like two primary school students, your chat has no purpose, no direction. There are so many back and forths, and it can be summed up in just a few words, I think of you, I love you, I care about you. In fact, a kind of happiness in the world is that there is a person who talks a lot of nonsense with you, aimlessly, happily, and easily chats.
Fourth, quarrels do not remember revenge.
Two people together will inevitably have differences, quarrels, but when we are annoyed, we will also hold back the most hurtful sentence, even if we know that if you say that sentence, you will win. Because we know we can lose this fight, but we can't lose the other side. We cried and laughed, but in the end we would reconcile. I never seriously remembered the vendetta, we remember it was all love, and two people together can love and kill each other, laugh at each other, be unscrupulous, and make fun of each other. You call him short legs, he fattens you, but if someone else dares to offend you a little, he will be even angrier than you, and he will definitely call that person good-looking.
In fact, there is a simplest way to judge whether two people are suitable or not, which is to see if you are laughing more than tears in this relationship. Love is not enough for us to accommodate each other without a bottom line, two people together to find a mode of getting along that both sides feel comfortable with is the most important, spiritual fit will not get along tired, occasionally pinch each other, love and kill each other, will not really affect the feelings of two people. After all, after confirming the eyes, you are all in the same way. May each of us meet the right person!