There is a saying in "Strange Story": "Whether marriage is a beautiful thing depends on whether the person who marries you is a beautiful person." "I deeply believe that the essence of marriage is to support each other and achieve each other, so whether a marriage can be happy and whether it can go to the end depends on both husband and wife."
In other words, when you enter the marriage with the mood of running the marriage with your heart and living a good life. How your partner treats your marriage becomes key. As Samuel said, "The success of a marriage depends on two people, and one person can make it fail." "So, for girls who want to have a happy marriage, it's important to marry someone.
So what kind of person is the right person? Some people only consider it from an economic point of view, and some people feel that as long as the door is right, it must be a marriage that is a general match. But in fact, feelings are the foundation of a marriage. And the feelings in this are not just sweet words on the lips, but the inner sincerity and honesty.
If a person is as deep as the sea on the surface, but his heart is full of calculations, then such a person is certainly not the right person. After all, when we get married, we fundamentally want to find someone to work with to resist the potential risks in life, rather than looking for someone who will bring you wind and rain. Generally speaking, once someone has a calculating heart in the relationship, the day they are discovered by the other party is the day when the relationship breaks down. Even for various objective reasons, feelings still exist, and your calculations will inevitably become a thorn in the marriage.
Wang Qian and Wang Tao are colleagues, although the two have similar work treatment and similar universities, but on the whole, the two can't talk about going to the door. Although Wang Qian is not snobbish, she is also unwilling to let her native family become a springboard for the other party. What's more, Wang Tao's appearance and personality are not the type that Wang Qian likes. Therefore, Wang Qian never thought that one day she and Wang Tao would become husband and wife.
The relationship between the two, in Wang Qian's case, has always been the relationship of ordinary colleagues. The turnaround occurred because Wang Qian was wearing small shoes by colleagues, and when all the evidence was biased towards each other, only Wang Tao turned to her, helping to find a way, and finally found the evidence to refute. Wang Qian was naturally moved, and the relationship between the two was also very close. But what really made the two men and girlfriends was because of an unexpected thing.
Wang Qian went to the appointment to celebrate Wang Tao's birthday, and both of them drank wine, and in a confused situation, a relationship occurred. Wang Qian is more conservative and stubborn, and she is paranoid that whether there is affection or not, the first time is left to her husband. So even though she didn't like Wang Tao, she still agreed to Wang Tao's so-called responsibility the next day. At first, Wang Qian's parents naturally disagreed, but after pulling for about a month, Wang Qian realized that she was pregnant.
In this way, Wang Qian's parents can only compromise and put the marriage between the two on the agenda. When Wang Qian's parents graduated from college, they bought a two-bedroom house for their daughter, and Wang Qian lived alone, without a living room and no feeling, feeling enough. Wang Qian knew that Wang Tao's family could not afford to buy a wedding house, and it was more difficult for the two families to make a loan down payment together, and the money in Wang Tao's hand was estimated to be only enough for the wedding.
Therefore, Wang Qian did not ask for a marriage room, anyway, she was pregnant, and she did not like to be lively. The wedding was simple, the bride price also took a form, and then Wang Tao and himself lived in this two-bedroom house. But Wang Tao said that there was no problem, and at the same time, he hinted that after the birth of the child, the space was too small. Wang Qian did not comment, but her parents were distressed, so in the end it was the mother's family who paid for it all, and re-bought a three-bedroom and two-hall house as a marriage room, and the original house was rented out as an additional income for a small family.
The days after marriage are still quite warm, no matter what she thinks in her heart, at least Wang Qian feels that she is still quite happy before she knows some things. After all, Wang Tao's cooking skills are good, after Wang Qian became pregnant, her appetite has been bad, Wang Tao carefully prepares meals every day, and also bears Wang Qian's various emotional fluctuations, which can be regarded as twenty-four filial pieties and a good husband.
But life is a cycle of cause and effect, Wang Qian was eventually hurt because of her original paranoia, and Wang Tao, also because of calculation, the bamboo basket hit the water empty. When Wang Qian was almost four months pregnant, her eldest sister came to visit the door. When Wang Qian saw her eldest sister come with the child, she said to Wang Tao: "I asked my mother to accompany me to the hospital for pregnancy testing, and you can accompany your sister and the child to reminisce about the past." ”
Wang Qian was very glad that she had made this decision that day, otherwise she didn't know when she would know that all her husband's tenderness to herself was a disguise. When things happened suddenly that day, Wang Qian originally told Wang Tao that after coming out of the hospital, she would go back to her mother's house for dinner and would not return until the evening. But the mother's brother had something important, after the pregnancy test, Wang Qian's mother only sent Wang Qian downstairs, and she left in a hurry. Therefore, the time for Wang Qian to return was far earlier than the time when she agreed with Wang Tao.
In this way, after Wang Qian opened the door, she heard the conversation between Wang Tao and her eldest sister. The eldest sister smiled and said, "Brother, my method is good." You said you picked a few girls in the company, but you couldn't pursue any of them. I'll ask you to sum up your respective personalities and the things you care about, and you're not happy yet. You see, the trick of cooking mature rice with raw rice is not very useful for an old man like his sister-in-law? ”
Wang Tao smiled and said, "I didn't listen to my sister's words earlier, and I regret dying." The two laughed together, and the child's noisiness passed into Wang Qian's ears, which was extremely harsh, and her stomach began to faintly hurt. But the next words of the eldest sister directly made Wang Qian fall into the ice kiln. After laughing for a while, the eldest sister continued: "Now that you are also married, there are two houses, you promised at the beginning, Wang Qian's small house before marriage was transferred to me, let my children go to school, you can grasp it, you will use it next year." ”
Wang Tao said goodly, at this time, Wang Qian couldn't stand it outside the door, and she directly collapsed to the ground. The sisters and brothers in the room heard the voice and finally saw Wang Qian, and the two quickly sent Wang Qian to the hospital, but it was too late, and the child was not saved. Wang Qian was sad that the child was gone, but she felt very fortunate that if the child was still there, she might have to continue the marriage because of the child. Now that the child is gone, what is there to remember for a husband like Wang Tao?
Sometimes, we disguise ourselves in life, not to hurt others, but to protect ourselves, and there are some ideas and concepts that are not suitable for everyone around us to know. If Wang Qian could realize the true meaning of this sentence at the beginning, she might not have become Wang Tao's target.
There is nothing wrong with self-esteem and self-love, but not paranoia, and two people enter marriage because they love each other, not as a last resort. And a person's respect for marriage and love is the purity and sincerity of the heart, not the so-called physical "purity".
Marriage is not a child's play, if you do not have a reverence for marriage, do not use your heart to run the marriage, use marriage as a springboard, and calculate feelings from the beginning, then the final result is often not as you wish. The cycle of cause and effect, like the male protagonist in the text, is calculating feelings from beginning to end, and finally the chicken and egg are beaten, empty-handed. The children are gone, the house is gone, the marriage is gone.
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