Haiqing's "two-sided life" has sounded an alarm bell for all women

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In the recent hit drama "Heart Residence", Haiqing played a foreign daughter-in-law feng Xiaoqin, a yellow-faced woman without assets. From opening his eyes to closing his eyes, he was busy serving four generations of her husband's family and grandchildren like a top.

When the eldest sister Gu Qingyu ate brunch and did yoga under the care of the nanny, she had already bought good dishes, made breakfast, made tea for her father-in-law, and squeezed bitter melon juice for her grandmother.

Gu Qingyu's face only had a few thousand skin care products, while Feng Xiaoqin's face only had the oil residue of fried fritters.

According to the reason, such a multi-year and day-to-day effort should be respected, but Xiaoqin's body is full of "family should help" and "I am poor and I am reasonable" thinking, which makes people a little unable to love her:

Knowing that his and her husband's economic conditions are limited, he still asked the other party and his eldest sister to "borrow" a down payment of one million to pay the house, and put on the name of locking the school district house for the next generation of the Gu family;

She thinks that they are all family, and it is a concession for Sister A to introduce her sister Feng Xixi to work, and it is a concession not to see that the sister-in-law has been living in her brother-in-law's house for many years.

In the opening few episodes, we can see Feng Xiaoqin's desperate urge to grow up, whether it is through unmarried pregnancy in Shanghai, or forcing her husband to examine and borrow money, she did not get the final result she expected.

Because of her husband's accidental death, the core of her struggle collapsed. Not only could the house not be grasped, but her heart began to wander.

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What about Haiqing outside the episode?

As a national daughter-in-law professional household, Haiqing is very good at grasping the characteristics of the character, she slightly carries the small details of Haikou tone, squatting on the side of the road to pull a box lunch, all of which portray the role of Feng Xiaoqin in the slightest, and this also shows that the real Haiqing is completely different from "Feng Xiaoqin" -

Haiqing was born into a famous family, and there are more than 300 rooms in the ancestral home, which is the largest existing private residence in the mainland and a national key cultural relics protection unit.

Unfortunately, when Haiqing was born, the family fell in the middle of the road, not to mention living in a private garden, and the family could not even afford to buy an umbrella.

In order to break through the sense of lack in life, Haiqing once learned to dance for more than ten years, but because he practiced his head with great strength, everything from his shoulders and neck to his ankles was injured.

In desperation, she chose to be an actress.

In 1997, Haiqing was admitted to the Beijing Film Academy, studied under Huang Lei, and it seemed that life finally had to give her a good color.

Before she could breathe a sigh of relief, reality gave her a slap in the face again: in the entertainment circle of beautiful women, Haiqing's appearance was not outstanding at all, and the few opportunities passed by because of her resolute unwillingness to accept the unspoken rules.

I'd rather suffer than bow my head. At the poorest time, for the sake of his friend Wen Zhengrong's desire to eat a roast duck, Haiqing also went to sell blood.

I have tried to buy lottery tickets to get rich overnight, and I have also wanted to marry someone to change my life. In the end, Haiqing, who really did not want to put the initiative in life elsewhere, chose to go back to Beijing and float.

There is no chance of a protagonist, she will match the popular actor at that time, whether it is the woman of the big guy in "Landing please open the mobile phone" or the rich second generation miss in "Jade Guanyin", as long as the role has challenges, she will accept it all.

When the actress was still taboo to act in the mother-in-law mother family drama, she waited until "Double Sided Tape".

So life gave her the pressure and torture, and she paid it all back through the role.

In this play, Haiqing interprets the image of the small citizen Hu Lijuan into three points. What if it's not glamorous?

Watching her play is like watching Haiqing herself, seeing how she sinks deep in a muddy swamp, and then slowly breaks through with herself as a support.

Since then, "The Beautiful Age of daughter-in-law" and "Snail Residence" have become Haiqing's representative works, and the stubbornness and courage in her own personality have given her the ability to interpret the vivid vitality of each character;

And those ordinary, awkward and daring characters who dare to fight back against life have fed herself back, making her firmly believe that external substances are easy to lose, and only our inner strength is eternal.

In fact, for every woman, the inner strength of tenacity, not giving up, and clenching our teeth to move forward is the magic weapon that makes us truly luxurious, no matter what situation we are in, can pull us out of the abyss.

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The life of an aunt in the neighbor is like taking the script of the eight-o'clock dog blood drama.

Housewife for many years, life is plain and comfortable. It's just that she and her husband have been out of nowhere, and they got pregnant and gave birth to a son, but they found that the child had congenital kidney disease and could not do without dialysis.

How many couples start with feelings and end up with the trivialities of life, so do they.

Soon, the man blamed the financial pressure and the child's illness on the fact that the aunt was a disaster star and he wanted a divorce.

The aunt did not hesitate, the house and car were taken at will, she only needed the custody of her son.

An average woman may not give herself much of a reason, but the most important thing is that she knows what to do:

Quitting as a housewife, she found a small garment factory to work, from garment fabrics to merchandise patterns, she learned over and over again.

She then mortgaged the small house she had received from the divorce to the bank, and in the era of the unexcited individual economy, rented the gold stalls of two local shopping malls, specializing in selling cheap and fashionable hot goods.

Over the years, her booth grew to six, and she not only paid off bank loans, but also saved enough savings to maintain dialysis and kidney replacement for her children.

Is this enough? Of course not.

In 2015, Taobao emerged, and her aunt invested in the Taobao store; in 2019, when the epidemic struck, she followed the young people to learn live broadcasting. Today, she has become a walking clothes rack, speaking only for her own live broadcast room.

She said that thanks to her ex-husband's divorce grace, let her know that there is such a way of life, it is constantly moving forward and constantly searching, and constantly willowing and bright. Even if life gives us a bad hand, as long as we can still see our own value, there is a possibility of turning the tables against the wind.

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Walking on the road of life, we will always set many goals for ourselves, looking forward to life to give us good luck in the quiet years.

In fact, all expectations should start with ourselves – what do I want? How happy am I? How hard do I try?

Some people live in mansions, but they are like cages; some people rent snail houses, but they do not fall into ambition.

Some people hope that the people around them will provide them with a vine to move forward, and some people only want to grow their own foundation.

Just like Feng Xiaoqin after waking up, she is no longer self-deprecating in other places, nor is she competing with Gu Qingyu, but she finds her own strengths and opens a nursing home.

Who ever thought that a woman who revolves around the family can open the way to the mountains and build bridges in the water on the road to doing business, and do the planning and investment. This courage and determination are not related to Feng Xiaoqin's status and academic qualifications, she just accepts and assumes her responsibilities from life.

The farthest road in the world is to use "waiting" as a shortcut.

And the easiest "shortcut" in the world is to ask yourself to do these three things -

Please see self-worth

In any relationship, if we don't feel valued, it's hard for others to see our value. Because we are self-deprecating, every cell in the body will emit a message that I can ignore, can be despised, can not be respected, and can not be cared for. So, don't care what others say about us, please empower yourself.

Please love yourself

If there is a person in the world who can love you and never be separated, that person can only be yourself. Becoming your lover is the right way. "Loving yourself" means never abandoning your imperfect self and focusing more on yourself

Please be responsible for your own happiness

Never wait for others, rely on others, ask others to solve problems, but we take responsibility ourselves, starting from ourselves. From the perspective of self-responsibility, rather than attacking and accusing others of not putting ourselves in our shoes.

When we plant ourselves as seeds, we will have the whole inner power to slowly expand the inner realm

It is not so much a practice to be a wife, a mother, or a child, but rather to say that "for yourself" is the core of the flow of everything.

Even if you have been confused, complained, shouted, begged, please use them all as a driving force for moving forward.

Like Xiaoqin in the play and Haiqing outside the play, they have pursued all the way and have not given up.

Contributing Author: Ma Half Bowl

Editor: Fan Yan