The delivery room is a "mirror" of life, a woman married to a person is a demon, in this short few days of hospitalization, you can see it all at a glance.
This sentiment is because a colleague of the Easter egg dad is a bit "excessive".
01 Is a qualified father, but not necessarily a qualified husband
Colleague Xiao Qiu has just been promoted to father, as a colleague, Easter Egg Dad and several other colleagues, bought some gifts to go to the hospital to give Xiao Qiu Hexi. Just outside the delivery room, I heard the mother's muffled crying.
When Xiao Qiu saw us, he also felt quite faceless. Then, The Easter Egg Dad and Xiao Qiu went to the corridor to chat for a while. Only then did she know that the mother was crying because she felt that Xiao Qiu had not taken good care of herself.
Xiao Qiu is indeed a good father, he contacted the single room ward early, and his daughter-in-law is going to give birth, and he has been guarding it. After the birth of the child, holding the baby, getting vaccinations, applying for various documents, changing diapers, changing clothes and washing clothes, etc., are all Xiao Qiu. Even the doctor praised that Xiao Qiu was a good father.
However, Xiao Qiu is really not a good husband.
During the day, it was Xiao Qiu's mother who was in the hospital, and at night, only Xiao Qiu could accompany him. The mother wanted to go to the toilet, shouting Xiao Qiu could not wake up, but as soon as the baby cried, Xiao Qiu woke up, and Xiao Qiu said: "I am too sensitive to the baby's crying." ”
The mother asked Xiao Qiu to clean up the bed, and Xiao Qiu said that her mother would come tomorrow morning. But the old man came the next day near noon, and when the doctor inspected the room in the morning, he directly reprimanded: "How can the lochia of the mother not be cleaned up!" This is not only unhygienic, but also easy to infect! ”
Xiao Qiu immediately admitted his mistake: "Okay, good, my mother will come right away, and I will get it when I come!" ”
The doctor said to Xiao Qiu again, "Isn't this what your husband should do!" Still waiting for your mother to get it, this is your daughter-in-law! ”
Xiao Qiu still didn't get it, so there was the scene we saw, and the mother was crying alone. Xiao Qiu was depressed and said to me: "This woman's family affair, let me a big old man do it?" It is to clean up the lochia, it is to wipe the sweat, and it is not impossible to come by herself, I have already brought the child, what is she not satisfied with? ”
02 In the first three days after childbirth, some "shy" things should be done by the husband himself
If the Easter egg father also does this, maybe the Easter egg mother does not want to live with me for a long time.
Pregnant, women have endured a lot, after childbirth, women have experienced a life and death catastrophe, the body is very weak, need very careful care. At this time, the husband is the best candidate for nursing.
As a person who came over, Easter Egg Dad felt that as a husband, in the first three days after his wife gave birth, these things must be done personally. Not for selling a good husband, I only hope that my wife can be more comfortable psychologically and physically.
Although the elders do this, some are "shy", but if you change to the mother-in-law to do this, "shy" and awkward, it is the mother.
First thing: wipe your sweat and change your clothes
Easter egg mother at that time after giving birth, has been sweating, Easter egg dad feels that the summer hottest time, sweating is not so bad. Moreover, this postpartum sweating is also accompanied by physical weakness and discomfort.
In order to avoid colds and ensure maternal comfort, it is necessary to wipe the sweat of the mother from time to time. If the clothes are already wet, then the husband should also help the mother change them in time. Changing clothes may seem like a simple act, but it is also difficult for frail women, especially those who have a caesarean section.
This kind of thing, the mother-in-law does, it seems awkward, the mother does, it also takes a lot of effort. So, even if you are shy, husbands should do it themselves!
The second thing: cleaning and cleaning up private parts
In ancient times, men were not suitable for contact with these, but that was only superstition.
The Easter egg father actually does not understand, but also the nurse said that postpartum private parts care is very important, otherwise, it will be infected. Cleaning up this kind of thing in private parts, in addition to the mother-in-law, the Easter egg father is the most suitable candidate, if it is replaced by my mother to help the Easter egg mother clean up, she is determined not to be happy.
Third thing: accompany the mother to the toilet
In front of your partner, can you go out of the bathroom? The answer is yes.
But can I go to the bathroom in front of other people?
It is actually very difficult for pregnant women to go to the toilet. Especially for women who have a caesarean section, the first time they go to the toilet after the urinary catheter is removed, it is very painful, and it is likely that they will not be able to walk on their own.
Therefore, unless the mother has a normal birth and does not need to accompany her to the toilet, in other cases, the husband should help his wife to go to the toilet. Although this kind of behavior seems shy, it is full of her husband's full of concern.
Fourth thing: take care of the newborn
I remember a colleague who said before getting married: "Boys are determined to be in all directions, who can be restrained by their wives and children!" ”
Later, after getting married and having children, he became a proper child slave, and everyone laughed at his previous "ambition", and then he did not have a little embarrassment, but showed off: "Such a small child, held in the palm of his hand, that feeling, is really amazing!" I felt that this life was amazing, he was my son! Of course I have to take care of him! The other one gave birth to me with his life, and I naturally had to be spoiled! ”
The care of children by men is not something to be ashamed of, on the contrary, it is an admirable thing. For the father's love is as great as the mother's love.
In the first three days after childbirth, when the mother is the weakest, the husbands can not let the mother bring the baby, but should bring the baby themselves. And throughout the confinement period, we also try to let the mother only need to breastfeed.
Moreover, do not underestimate these 3 days, the companionship of Bao Dad will also make Bao Dad full of fatherly love, which is conducive to the establishment of parent-child feelings.
The fifth thing: talk to the nurse more about the "Parenting Sutra"
Nurses are mostly girls, although Bao Dad is a big boss who always goes to find a nurse, which is a bit awkward, but in order to better take care of newborns and mothers, Bao Dad can only "thick" his face.
Because, taking care of newborns and maternity is really not simple.
For example, newborns with yellow skin, long red spots, feeding, etc., maternal stomach pain, lack of milk, chest swelling, etc., can go to the nurse.
03 The most important thing after childbirth: pay attention to the psychology of the mother
Another thing that many families, especially careless husbands, will overlook, is to care about the psychology of the mother.
In fact, from the beginning of pregnancy, the hormone levels in the mother's body have changed, because of the arrival of the baby, "progesterone" is produced. After the baby is born, the secretion of progesterone is terminated, and other hormones in the mother's body cannot quickly return to the pre-pregnancy state, which causes the mother's body to be in a state of low hormone levels.
This is like sucking away the happiness of the mother at once, making the mother become sensitive, vulnerable, and prone to depression, and it seems that she cannot be happy at all. If you are stimulated a little more at this time, it will really be depressed.
Therefore, the most important thing to care about after childbirth is the psychology of the mother. Pay more attention to them and meet their psychological, physiological and other needs, then the mother's mood will gradually recover.
Message
It is not easy to have children, if the husbands can understand these difficulties and take good care of the mother after childbirth, then the mother will also feel that she is married. But if the husband only cares about the child, and even the child does not care, then the mother is naturally not happy, or even regrets, in this life, it is considered to be the wrong marriage.
So, for the sake of family harmony, for the sake of better growth of children, for the sake of faster recovery of wives, husbands, be intimate!