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In the Korean drama "Please Answer 1988", there is such a clip:
Deshan, who comes from a poor family, brings two friends, Maggie Cheung and Wang Zuxian, to play at home, and Deshan says that his family is very poor and lives in the semi-underground, so he has been embarrassed to invite them to come, and poverty is sinful.
Maggie Cheung, whose appearance is not proud but has a solid family, said: What is the sin of poverty, and it is sin to look ugly.
Loving beauty is the nature of women, so many women will be like Maggie Cheung, the appearance of the face is extremely important, and even some girls, the reason for being single blamed on their own ugliness.
However, this is not the case.
In relationships, men and women are two different creatures, so they measure feelings by different standards.
Women often think that men only care about a woman who is beautiful or not, is a visual animal; in fact, many men may be more materialistic and realistic than women in dealing with feelings.
They actually care more about the woman's "hard conditions" than their looks.
What is a "hard condition"? Good birth, good family situation, career with "money", high-quality connections, etc., if these conditions are "hard" enough, then as for what women look like, perhaps in the eyes of men, it really doesn't matter!
Because many smart men understand that the appearance will one day be bored for a long time, and no matter how beautiful women look at it for a long time, they can't feel how beautiful, but the "hard" conditions of the woman herself will bring a steady stream of benefits to men.
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A woman's "hard condition" is an important shortcut for men to change their destiny.
In real life, there are actually many men who live "sober in the world", and they know incomparably well that if they do not have a good family background and no outstanding career ability, it is even more difficult to get ahead than to ascend to the sky!
Even, although some "phoenix men" have the gorgeous transformation experience from grassroots to phoenix, it is not easy to continue to buy a house and a car in a big city!
Some people say that the direction is greater than the effort.
So, they give up their efforts and concentrate on finding a direction that will make people jump. And finding a woman with a good family or good conditions to marry is undoubtedly an important opportunity for them to change their destiny.
If they happen to meet a woman with good "hard conditions", then they are very likely to ignore the woman's appearance, figure and other conditions, and talk to her in the name of love and enter marriage.
Because, than looks and figures, a woman's family background or material conditions can bring more tangible benefits to men.
A friend's cousin is a rich family, but unfortunately, her appearance is very low, and she is fat and dark, even so, I heard a friend say that her cousin has never lacked suitors around her.
Later, her cousin married a tall and handsome man, the man was very poor, but since marriage, she "sparrow became a phoenix", immediately held an important position in his wife's mother's company, and since then, he has changed his fate.
Since ancient times, "rich and ugly women do not worry about marriage", because there are always some men who do not care about a woman's appearance, but look at her "hard conditions".
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But women should understand that in the marriage matter, "marrying out" is not the ultimate goal, not "marrying out" will be all right! Marrying right and living happily is the subject of a lifetime.
For men who care about women's "hard conditions", women still have to be more vigilant: although he does not pay attention to looks, is he really in love with you? Or is it the "hard condition" of true love for you?
If it is the former, then it may be possible to marry; but if it is the latter, then do not marry.
You know, what an unfortunate thing it would be if you marry a man who only cares about your "hard conditions"!
Marriage is not afraid of attempts, and fear is only attempts.
Remember the "Pregnant Woman Thai Cliff Case"?
The party Nuan Nuan almost died because she married a man who only coveted her "hard conditions".
When pursuing her, the man did everything in his power to please her, and after entering the marriage, he wanted to take all her property for himself, so he finally planned the lamentable cliff fall incident!
Men who only try to "hard conditions" for women are often interested in interests and are obsessed with money, and they see no women at all, only money and wealth, only practical interests.
Women and marriage, in their minds, may only be a way to achieve ulterior motives, a springboard.
Therefore, for this kind of man, women must be cautious and careful.
From this point of view, instead of marrying a man who values your "hard sex conditions", a woman should marry a man who values your appearance.
Because you attach importance to your appearance, at least like you as a person; and only pay attention to your "hard conditions", then it means that he does not even like you at all, such love and marriage, are scams and traps.
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When we are deeply in love, it is often difficult for us to answer why we like him, which is the so-called "love does not know what to do, always deep affection".
True love seems to really seem to be for no reason, for no apparent reason! But in fact, whether it is love or marriage, there are plans.
However, some attempts need to be silent and difficult to express!
For example, when a man says that he likes a woman who is beautiful, gentle, and virtuous, these pictures can be put out in the light of righteousness; but if a man's heart is trying to make a woman's family situation and a good birth, this cannot be said in a dignified manner.
In the TV series "In the Name of the People", Qi Tongwei and his wife Liang Lu are a masquerade couple, they look very incompatible, Liang Lu was Qi Tongwei's teacher at that time, and he was ten years older than him.
But later, Qi Tongwei still proposed to Liang Lu with flowers in his hand, why? Because Qi Tongwei wants to get rid of the fate of being manipulated, he knows very well in his heart that only by marrying Liang Lu can he rewrite his life.
But this attempt cannot be said in a dignified manner, and can only use love as a cover to make love a means of realizing interests.
In short, love and marriage are meant, but women should understand that some of a man's attempts are acceptable; but some attempts are absolutely unacceptable.
Women with "hard conditions" may be easier to meet love and easier to enter marriage, but they should also be more vigilant and do not choose the man who only values your "hard conditions"!