For the development of children's education, as a parent, the most worrying is not middle school, primary school, but the kindergarten stage, kindergarten as the first time for children to accept group life, physical and psychological are facing a series of huge challenges caused by environmental changes, just like a blank piece of paper, began to paint the first stroke.
And such an important stage of enlightenment, the babies can not participate, everything must be handed over to the baby to complete independently, to the teacher to participate in the baby's kindergarten time.
In kindergartens, it does not matter whether the child is hungry or sleepy, and what parents are most worried about is that in the enlightenment stage of the child's life, they encounter some problems beyond the child's control range, if they are not handled well, it will cause trauma to the child's psychology, and even have a negative impact on the entire kindergarten and enrollment.
The "new bullying" is in kindergarten
With the improvement of the overall quality of the people, parents' education of their children tends to be more civilized, and the situation of bullying in schools is gradually decreasing, but "new type of bullying" is gradually occurring.
Friends said that the child recently every morning before entering the kindergarten to cry a lot, express resistance, remember before, friends children are that kind of cheerful, optimistic and lively state, very puzzled, into the kindergarten for a year, how can it be silent, quiet?
It turns out that the child does not want to go to kindergarten because the child does not like the teacher, to be precise, it is the influence of the teacher's way of handling it.
Because I like to move, like to jump, once the teacher did not sit quietly when lecturing, was criticized by the teacher, the students laughed at her after hearing it, and later in the classroom, they did not dare to take the initiative to answer questions loudly, always sat quietly, slowly, the personality began to be dull, began not to participate in activities, began not to like to go to kindergarten.
But the teacher said that he did not scold the child, and did not let the child stand in front of the children, but only verbally criticized, maintaining the order of the classroom, is that the child is too sensitive.
After the communication is ineffective, the friend has to transfer the child to another kindergarten, for this kind of thing that makes the child suffer a certain psychological blow because of the behavior of the group, it is "bullying" for the child, if it is not handled well, the impact on the child is difficult to assess.
At present, the main kindergarten "new bullying" can be divided into the following three types:
※ Collective booing "bullying"
Just like the friends of the child encountered, the teacher lacks patience, the child is naughty and active, although it is only a verbal criticism, but the lack of teaching, the child is only criticized, does not understand the reason, and even bears the cost of more than the behavior.
The world of children is so simple that there are only two kinds of "who is good and who is bad", once the "bad" students are named by the teacher, the children will unconsciously "isolate themselves in groups" and "do not play with bad children". This kind of collective booing is even a kind of "new type of bullying".
※ Ignoring "bullying"
Children like adults, have their own needs, the difference is that children will not be accurate expression, and in kindergartens, twenty or thirty children only two or three teachers to take care of the situation, many needs are not responded to, not to mention the needs of children when they are emotionally unstable, just imagine, when we take our own children, there is also irritability, just want to be quiet situation, twenty or thirty small mythical beasts gathered together, teachers naturally have no way to meet the small needs of each child.
Teachers do not have the energy to consider the "personalized" needs of children, and will use the same standard to "unify the pace" for everyone, and children who exceed this circle of time will feel lonely and not integrated after a long time.
※ Humiliating "bullying"
Children are all sensitive, and the little one leaves the woods and goes to strange places, is asked to fit in, to participate, to progress, but not to be encouraged, to be praised, to be understood, to be embraced.
Once you encounter a treatment that is unreasonable or beyond the scope of the child's understanding, it is like a seed, "planted" in the child's psychology.
Therefore, parents should always pay attention to their children's activities in the kindergarten, and understand more about what happens every day with their children, even if it is a small thing, as long as it will have a bad impact on the child, it is a big thing and must be fundamentally solved.
Parents should strive to help their children overcome the "new type of bullying"
To help children face the problem of "new type of bullying", parents must do these points:
1. Strengthen communication with kindergartens
Teachers have limited energy, in addition to undertaking teaching tasks, there are health, assessment, training and other work, then we parents will refine the needs of children, through our understanding of their children, analyze the most suitable needs for children, and then communicate with the teacher, in the teacher's heart, open a window of their children's personalization, as far as possible in the case of cooperation with the requirements of kindergartens, more to meet the children's personalized needs, so that children have a sense of attention, satisfaction, and happiness.
2. Strengthen communication with children
Parents have no way to participate in the child's kindergarten time, there is no way, but do not understand, do not go to ask the child's kindergarten life, that is, parents are lazy, to communicate with the child more, understand the child's growth, timely maintenance of the "boat" sailing environment, better escort for the child.
3. Conduct "anti-bullying education"
In the end, the children's own things are still to do themselves, when the children themselves have the ability and awareness to resist "bullying", have the ability to protect themselves, and become strong, all the problems will not be problems.
Therefore, in response to the problem of friends, I recommend that friends take their children to read the "Anti-Bullying Enlightenment Picture Book", so that children can understand bullying behavior, and learn how to deal with bullying behavior through stories.
This set of books is divided into eight books according to bullying behavior, teaching children to recognize these new types of bullying behavior and how to deal with these bullying.
The plot is arranged according to the eight bullying behaviors that children are most likely to encounter, and almost all the bullying behaviors that children may encounter.
The topics are:
"I don't like to be called", "I don't like to be ridiculed", "I don't like things to be robbed", "I don't like to be rumored", "I don't like to be pushed", "I don't like to be excluded", "I don't like to be nicknamed", "I don't like to be touched".
Everyone is good at activities in their own familiar field, when the children recognize these behaviors, and through illustration of bullying behavior has a certain situation imagination, once encountered, children can react as soon as possible, or with the soup ma ma ma for help, there is no emotional internalization, you can avoid the subsequent bad effects, to take the child to read, to be more "powerful" and more "powerful" children.