Fu Gua (24th Gua): The purpose of education is to eliminate education

Author: Zhang Jianyun

The purpose of education is to eliminate education, which is my view of education.

Suppose, as soon as a child is born, the people he comes into contact with, including all the elders, relatives and friends including his parents, are civilized and upright, thick and honest, brave and promising, and they are all readers, all have a gentle personality, a polite appearance and a healthy physique, then there is no reason for the child to become a contrarian.

A hypothesis is a hypothesis, and we continue to assume.

Children born in another environment are very different: parents, grandparents, grandmothers, uncles, uncles, aunts, aunts, all pregnant with ghost fetuses, profiteering, opportunistic, flattering, wrong-minded and grumpy, then there is no reason for this child to be noble.

There are no assumptions in the world, no assumptions about family style, no assumptions about education. The families of children born in the former do not need education, because excellence itself is education, and children will be able to strengthen themselves. The families of children born in the latter are also not educated, for it is useless to educate, just as it is futile to raise a wolf into a docile sheep.

It turns out that the vast majority of our families are complex beings, that is, there is a conscience in the lowly, the lowly in the high, and the lusts in the surface of civilization. At this time, education plays a role, educating children who are not attentive to learning into concentration, educating children who do not queue up to buy tickets into abiding by the rules, and educating children who are lazy, gluttonous, and obsessed with playing games into being diligent and early, eating moderately, and putting down their mobile phones to read classics. Wait a minute.

The most ineffective, or the most immoral education, is that parents can't put down their mobile phones but worry that their children can't quit games, parents are low-level and despicable but want to make their children noble and great, parents quarrel every day, often angry but hope that children must not learn from their parents to be a person who is alone.

The real, useful, and necessary education is to educate oneself first, and then to educate one's children second. Suppose, we talk about the hypothesis, their own education is complete, will find that children do not need education at all. This brings us back to the assumption we started with.

Parenthood is to educate oneself at every moment, Confucius said that "there is no end to food between benevolence", which means that even the kung fu of eating a meal does not let go of their own education, and it is precisely eating education that is a big education in China. From a child's eating behavior, politeness and attitude towards food, we can see the literacy and family style of the child's parents and grandparents.

The third (63) of the I Ching Fu Gua says: Frequent repetition, strong, no blame.

Frequency is frequent. Compound, here can be interpreted as education. Strong, is harsh, fierce. To whom to be harsh and cruel? To yourself. Everyone is a little harsh on themselves, a little better for others, adults and children will not have any big mistakes, this is: no blame. This is called educating oneself.

When you see a child's problem, you must first think of your own mistakes. Because most of this problem is from the parents. When you see a wife (husband) problem, you must first think about your own problem, because the husband and wife are of the same level and have the same cognition, and his problem must be your problem. I have summarized and experimented with years of home style techniques that have been fruitful: I am the core of the problem, everything in the family is my problem, and all the mistakes are my mistakes. This perception is useful in the family and the evidence is conclusive.

This is a great righteousness, and to bear is to do righteousness. Confucius said: "The power of frequent repetition" is beyond reproach. Parents must cultivate the spirit of responsibility of their children who dare to take responsibility and scrupulously fulfill their duties. Because how much responsibility we have, how much can we do and how big things we can achieve.

It's a lot like a mother who sees a beggar educating her child, and most mothers will say, you have to study hard, or you will become a beggar when you grow up. The mother, on the other hand, told her child that you should study hard, serve the motherland, and strive to make beggars have a home, and there will be no more beggars in society. Children under this kind of responsible education can be worthy of the heavy responsibility!

The Fourth Gua (六四) said: The Bank of China is alone.

What is BOC?

Don't go astray, don't be narrow, don't be too aggressive, enlarge the pattern, and make the pace smaller. No matter how much ambition there is, it must also be taken step by step from the foot, and no one who takes a big stride and is eager to achieve success will go far.

After establishing a clear direction and correct ambition for the child, and then helping the child develop a good habit of step by step, steady concentration, and knowing how to be brave and tolerant, reading and doing good, this is the way of the middle line.

What is solitary?

Prudence. A person should put his efforts in a place where others can't see it, and there is no need to show more in front of everyone. Teachers are in the same or not, exams and non-exams are the same, winning awards and not awarding a prize, always pay attention to their own hearts, worthy of the feelings of others.

To be worthy of one's own heart is sincere; to be worthy of the feelings of others, even if it makes others comfortable, is kindness. The main purpose of prudence is sincerity and kindness. Confucius said: "The Middle Bank is alone", in order to follow the Tao.

From the road, it is to walk on the road. The road of life lies in educating yourself, and the descendants are still good, spring and autumn!

The original text interpreted today is:

1. "I Ching Fu Gua" words:

The third (sixth three) words say: frequent repetition, strong, no blame.

The fourth master (June Fourth) said: The Bank of China is alone.

2. "I Ching, Xiang Chuan, Fu Gua":

"Frequent repetition of the force", righteousness is not to blame.

"The Bank of China alone" to follow the Tao also.

Zhang Jianyun

Writer, scholar of traditional Chinese studies, member of the All-China Women's Federation Family Construction Expert Think Tank, member of the Chinese Writers Association.

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