Everyone's view on the matter of taking children is different, which belongs to the benevolent and wise people. But there is one thing we need to admit, that is, whoever takes the child before this age, he will be closer to whom.
Ms. Liu's child is now two years old, but she doesn't spend all her time taking care of her children, because she feels that work is also very important. Coupled with the fact that Ms. Liu is a workaholic herself, she will not put work aside because of her children. So under consideration, Ms. Liu sent her child to the child's grandmother.
I thought that there would be no problems in taking care of children in this way, but the next problem was very serious. After half a year, Ms. Liu went to the child's grandmother's house to pick up the child, but she did not expect that the child's relationship with herself became strange.
Just when Ms. Liu wanted to hold the child's hand, the child actually said: "I don't want to hold hands with you, you stay away from me." When Ms. Liu heard the child say these words, she was instantly heartbroken. She really didn't expect that a child would actually say such a thing, and actually become so strange to herself.
In fact, this is a very standard example, with children this thing should not be entrusted to others, because this is definitely not a good thing for us. Especially before the child is this age, who can take the child, he can be closer to whom. If you miss this golden period, it is very difficult to make up for it.
Whoever brings the child before this age is closer to whomever is closer
Whoever the child is brought before the age of three will be closer to whom, which actually has a certain scientific basis. The reason why this phenomenon occurs is because children will have some such psychology before the age of three. For example, the relationship between parents and children will develop before the age of one, and if we can have physical contact or emotional display with our children, then we can make our children remember us clearly.
We must interact with our children more so that they can pay all their attention to us. When the child is one to three years old, the child will develop a playmate relationship. In other words, if we can accompany the child during this time, then the child will have a better relationship with us.
At the same time, we also need to have a good interaction with the child in this process, if the child does not feel the attention of the parents in this process, then they will transfer the attachment object, so we must accompany the child more before the age of three, so as to ensure that our relationship becomes better.
There are also some issues to be aware of
Today's parents have done one thing wrong, they always want their children to be independent, in fact, this practice is not correct, although the child says that they need to be independent, but they should not let the child be independent when they are actually immature, such as sleeping in separate beds.
Especially for children before the age of three, their development in all aspects has not yet reached the point of perfection, if they are forced to sleep separately at this time, then the child will feel insecure, so it is easy to cause side effects.
There is another thing we need to understand, that is, in the process of taking care of children, we must not let the elderly intervene in this matter. Although many parents will feel that it is a very common thing for the elderly to bring up children, such a practice is not good for our relationship with our children.
So even if the elderly join the queue of caring for children, they need to control everything. We need to put most of our energy into our children, rather than letting the elderly do these things for us. Otherwise, over time, the child will become closer to the old man, and he will become more distant from us.
If we really want to make our relationship with our children better, then don't always threaten them. If you often choose to treat your children in this way, then over time the children will lose trust in their parents.
Therefore, when the children are relatively young, we must be gentle with them, only in this way can we make the distance between each other closer, and at the same time let the children see the parents' caring side, which is of great help to their physical and mental growth.
Therefore, through this angle, we can see a problem, that is, we must accompany our children more before they are three years old, and never give them to the elderly to take care of, because this will only make the distance between each other more and more distant. Don't always think that work is very important, in fact, it is also very important to accompany children, children are our everything, children will only become optimistic and cheerful if they spend more time with their parents.