Talk about a fart love and make money to go!

Every night, I say goodnight to you

Author/ Ho Shanni

Radio / Ho Shan Ni

Ending song / Xu Jiaying Lost Sandbank

Source / He Shanni (id: shannidiantai)

01

In this era, affection is licking dogs, so more and more boys are less likely to chase girls.

Like is like ah, but whose time is valuable, in fact, the most important thing is the mood, when I don't like it, I have a very happy life every day, although there is no expectation, but at least I will not be disappointed.

But then I liked it, I began to think wildly, and I began to suffer from gains and losses, in short, this feeling was not good.

Maybe it's that we think too simply about liking, thinking that everyone can meet and love each other.

But in fact, most of the time everyone loves it, but it is normal.

Later, I wanted to understand, talk about a fart love, or make money.

At least after the money, their own life is easy, and the family has a better life.

A person is not unable to live, why do you have to have a love.

I sent a circle of friends before: you should love this mountain, this water, everything in this world, and flowers and yourself, rather than sticking to a small love and not letting go of yourself.

Don't say anything more righteous and awe-inspiring, I just want him to be happy, in fact, you want to hug him more than anyone, more than anyone else wants to have.

It's just that I'm a conceited person, I've never been angry, I've always stood with my head held high to make money, there's no way to bow my head for anything, it's a big deal that I give it all up, it's a big deal that I don't have desire, maybe it won't be painful.

02

Yesterday I talked to a friend late at night, and he told me about liking a girl before.

He has been single for many years, and has always declared that he is not in love, but sometimes liking is a matter of an instant, and no one can stop him.

He and the girl were separated by more than an hour's drive, but he was willing to drive more than an hour to meet her every day after work.

Even if it's just a walk with her, even if it's just to pick her up, even if it's just a look from a distance, or even a stroll around her city.

During that time, he was always short of money, the salary was so little, if he wanted to chase girls, he couldn't think of a way to get more money, of course, money was not something you wanted to do immediately, so during that time he always asked me to borrow money.

Thinking that my brother finally had someone he liked, then this matter must be supported, anyway, I did not spend money at that time, so I fully supported it.

It went on for a whole year, but a lot of times I actually hurt him.

When he leaves, he is always full of expectations, but many late nights when he comes back to call me, I can feel that he is not very interested, and even a little disappointed.

I guessed it, there was not much progress, and it was still like that.

Sometimes late at night he came back and we went to the barbecue for a beer and he said he liked the girl very much, but sometimes he felt quite tired.

He said that he also knew that it was I who liked people, how could I be qualified to blame people for not responding, one willing to fight and one willing to be beaten.

Until one day, late at night, my brother came to me in a car, just on the side of the road, and he took a case of beer out of the car and said that he would drink it on the side of the road tonight.

He didn't speak, and I didn't know what to say, so I just looked at the dark night sky that night, drinking wine and thinking about my past.

Sigh from time to time.

Slightly drunk, he suddenly said, "Shani, I gave up."

I'm a little surprised, don't you like her so much? How to give up.

He smiled and said: In fact, the girl did not act excessively, she was also willing to meet me, but the affection of my bowing my head for a long time made me feel that I did not feel like myself, it was not that I did not dislike her, but I did not like myself now.

I have no pride in her, I often want to reach out and be afraid to scare her, I always want to forget myself for her sake, and my likes are only touched by myself.

I responded: You are not afraid of the other party saying that you don't like it enough, and the test you give can't pass.

He took a big sip and said: It doesn't matter, I decided well, I want to go back to my life, make money well, I haven't even raised myself, even if I catch up with it, I can't give people happiness.

I also know that some girls are willing to fight with me, but I am in pain, so talk about love, first make money.

We came home late that night, yeah, or make a lot of money.

At least there is money, one person will not be very miserable, no money, two people can also live a chicken and a dog jump.

03

I also liked other people, and at that time I didn't dare to go near because of my low self-esteem.

I don't have the money to buy gifts, I don't have the money to take her to eat good food, I don't have the money to give her what I want to give.

Yes, it sounds good material, but this is the deepest inferiority of a boy.

Only those who have been poor will understand.

In fact, now life is much better than in the past, i bought a house and a car, and I will no longer worry about my livelihood, but I will still feel inferior, or I will feel inferior to others.

Of course, money is not the key to measuring love, but without money, I dare not go near anyone I like.

Of course I longed to meet the girl who was willing to fight with me, and I thought I would be touched by her belief and encouragement.

I will also be eager for the future to give her everything I can give.

It's just that now I don't have to, all the suffering I have already endured, I have the capital to get married, but I have lost the ability to like someone.

Having experienced too many people and too many things, I can't simply measure my attitude with liking, or hide my humility with affection.

The older I get, the more I look forward to simple relationships, those who can't say things that can't be said don't want to say, and those who can't love don't want to love.

Maybe in the end I will choose the person who likes me, which may be selfish, but at least a little more comfortable.

04

I mean, when you're young, think more about how to make money, but you have to grasp that comfortable love when it comes, but don't waste too much time pursuing someone, because this thing is more insecure and more illusory than making money.

As long as you work hard, you can always make money, as much as you want.

But love, not your efforts will have results.

In contrast, I would prefer you to make good money, and the love thing goes naturally, expressing likes, and then resigning yourself to fate.

But life will not give you the opportunity to relax, you grow up, take advantage of the young to learn more things, now all walks of life are not able to roll up, you are not strong, you can only be eliminated.

Love is becoming more and more realistic in this materialistic era.

Many times no one says it so bluntly, but the people you meet always have to match you like you, and to put it bluntly, it is a kind of exchange.

The so-called love without a sense of need is very rare at the moment, who is not trying to do something.

I know you'd say I'm not romantic enough, and indeed, living a normal life has exhausted me, and once I know to keep some romance for you, then I really like you.

05

A few years ago I specifically consulted about adoption.

I had long been prepared not to get married for the rest of my life, but I still wanted to experience the role of father, so I thought about adoption.

Sometimes I think very absolutely, a lifetime is so long, no matter how you choose, you will regret it, then you still obey yourself, how comfortable to come when you can choose.

At this age, I have long passed the stage of caring about other people's opinions, and it really doesn't matter what others say, I only care about whether I am willing or not.

You don't have to think the same way I do, I'm just used to preparing for the worst in everything.

Then after things happen a little better, I can be happy for a long time.

I don't like disappointment, so most of the time I don't give myself expectations, and without desire there would be no pain.

Young people, work well, catch when love comes, and if you can't catch it, forget it.

Anyway, love in life can't be the norm, and you're not the only one.

Those who regret will eventually be relieved by time.

Years later, you may laugh and tell your friends that I liked her for a long time at that time, and I still like her for a long time afterwards.

Later she got married, looking into her smiling, crooked eyes in the circle of friends.

Suddenly I figured out that love doesn't have to be with that person, and the world is still turning away from anyone.

And one person leaving another person will not die out.

He would just be sad for a while, and then live a normal life.

Those pasts are just stories, recorded in the mind, occasionally remembering a slight smile.

Later, I felt that if we had been together, would our current life be different, that's all.

It turns out that the love we want is not who we have to be with, but whether we are willing in this love.

Author: He Shanni. The masterpiece "Low-quality social is not as good as high-quality solitude". Published the inspirational emotional book "Because I Like, So Willing". Public number: He Shanni (ID: shannidiantai)

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Shanni has published a book

"Because I like it, I am willing"

Available on the whole network, I hope that the little ear will support it.

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