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Children's education has always been a problem that parents are more concerned about and attach importance to.
In the TV series "Little Shed", we can see the differences in the way different families educate their children.
Huan Huan received a happy education, and her mother Nan Li only hoped that she could grow up happily and have no trouble with learning.
Zi you received a chicken baby education, and her mother Tian Yulan paid special attention to her child's learning, hoping that her child would achieve excellent results and not lag behind others.
Mi Tao's family is ordinary, the parents are ordinary migrant workers, can not give the child help in learning, can only try to earn money for the child to study, but the parents still hope that the child has a career, and the future hope of the family will depend on the daughter.
These 3 children have different family backgrounds and different concepts of parental education. Later, when they grow up, which one has the greatest success rate? Different angles, different answers.
One. "Little Shedd" rice peach, Huan Huan and Zi You, who is the easiest to succeed when they grow up? The answer is different from what you think
The first point: from the perspective of IQ, Mi Tao is the highest IQ among the three people, and Mi Tao is the most likely to succeed in learning
Huan Huan's test score is only 45 points at the bottom, although Ziyou has good grades, but her ability to do questions is not as good as Mi Tao, it is precisely because Mi Tao's results are excellent, Teacher Zhong loves Cai, he broke the box to leave her a place in the training class.
Although Mi Tao's parents are not highly educated and have limited income, they understand the importance of reading.
Although Mi Tao is a girl, her parents did not let her drop out of school, but let her continue to study, and did her best to provide her with books, which is much better than those parents who think that it is useless for women to study.
The second point: If you look at the economic strength of the family, Mi Tao's family help is the weakest, and ZiYou is the easiest to succeed when he grows up
Although her parents brought her to the city to go to school, their financial support for her was limited, and her parents did their best to enroll her in a training course.
Although she is a proud protégé of the teacher, the financial expenditure of the training class requires continuous investment, and it is difficult for her parents to insist on supporting her with materials.
Because of her good grades, parents feel that there is light on their faces, the child's body is not the most important, good grades are on the line, parents also said: "But I can count on you!" ”
Many parents raise their children to prevent old age, children will have a job in the future, parents also follow the blessings, they hope that the rice peach can change the life of the whole family in the future.
However, her parents' expectations of Mi Tao were too high, but they could not give her sufficient material support, her pressure was the greatest, and after visiting the House of Huan Huan's family, she had a greater psychological gap and shouted: "Why are you so useless?" Why should I always be sensible? ”
Because of the comparison, Mi Tao will feel that there is a big gap with her classmates with good family, and she cannot accept the mediocrity of her parents, so she angrily accuses her parents of incompetence.
Unless she can overcome this psychological gap and study in a down-to-earth manner, the psychological burden and the gap with her classmates' family situation will only become an obstacle on her way to success.
Ziyou family conditions are good, his mother grasps his learning more tightly, his grades are relatively stable, although the IQ is not as good as Mi Tao, but whether people can succeed, the family's financial support is also very important.
If Ziyou's mother does not continue to force him to study hard, but allows him to have enough play time, combining work and leisure, the chance of success after Ziyou grows up is the greatest.
The third point: If you look at the parents' educational philosophy, you may be the happiest after rejoicing
Huan huan's parents respect quality education, although Huan Huan's grades are not the best, but her dance and other talents are more prominent, her personality is also lively and cheerful, and the child has no pressure to learn.
Later, because of the countdown of the Huanhuan examination results, and also lost the position of the class cadre, the children's results in the training class did not catch up.
Huan Huan's parents paid too much attention to her studies, making her feel broken, and the mother and daughter had contradictions and estrangement.
I believe that after the parents of Huan Huan are painful, they will change this concept and will not be too embarrassed by their children in learning.
As Liu Yu, an associate professor at Tsinghua University, mentioned, "My daughter is becoming an ordinary person unstoppable. ”
If the child is really not the material for reading, we accept the child's imperfections and let the child be a happy person.
Two. Children's education is not easy, parents educate their children, it is best to do 3 points
1. Parents should let their children know that no matter how they learn, parents will not reduce their love for their children
NanLi insists on "happy education", pays attention to the quality education of her daughter, and huan huan cultivates a lot of interests and specialties, but the learning is a mess, and even the exam fails, the child is uncomfortable and tears, afraid of becoming a poor student, no one likes himself.
"Happy education" allows children to avoid the troubles of learning and grow up in a happy atmosphere, but unfortunately, Nan Li is obsessed with grades later, and will go farther and farther away from the relationship with her daughter, and her daughter cannot feel the love of her mother, and feels that her mother only cares about her own achievements.
Fortunately, she later woke up and tried to repair her relationship with her daughter.
Parents should not let their children misunderstand, we should not link grades with parents' love, but let children know that children love you, and have nothing to do with grades.
2. Parents should do what they say and don't let their children down
Tian Yulan admires chicken baby education, her son has excellent grades, she is very proud, and often shows off her children's achievements at family gatherings.
However, Tian Yulan repeatedly clashed with his son because of the study arrangement. The child's grades affected her emotions, but later Tian Yulan's son cried and said to her, I think my mother does not love me, she only loves me with good academic performance.
In order to let the child study well, Tian Yulan always persuades the child to study well, but forgets that he always regrets what he promised the child, but never considered that the child will be sad and depressed.
3. Learning does not conflict with hobbies, and choosing to learn does not mean that there are no interests
Tian Yulan painstakingly persuaded his son that you would work hard for another year, and when you were admitted to Hanlin Junior High School, you could play as much as you wanted. Zi You cried angrily and was admitted to Hanlin Junior High School, didn't he still want to go to high school?
Tian Yulan did not keep her promise, but also let her son not believe what he said, even if his son and teammates agreed to play the next day, she also resolutely stopped the child's football class.
Although a child's learning is important, it does not mean that the child cannot have any hobbies. Children are not learning machines, children should have room for relaxation and breathing in addition to learning.
Parents maintain their children's interests and hobbies, so that children can fully relax their mood in addition to learning, and the combination of work and leisure will make children's learning more effective.