For ordinary people, marrying into the royal family is a kind of nirvana of life, from which life enters a highlight moment, and the scenery is infinite. Judging from the few royal families, it is not uncommon for princes and princesses to have unhappy marriages in recent years.
From Haya who escaped from Dubai, to Wen Yali in Denmark, and even Diana in England, who has long since died... Marriage failures abound.
Looking back at the queen's marriage, it is almost regarded as a model: sweet and firm, the marriage has lasted for more than 70 years and is full of praise from the outside world.
However, in such a marriage, people often only see queen Elizabeth's tolerance and tolerance, but often ignore the efforts and persistence of Prince Philip.
Yes, in this marriage, the really difficult person is Prince Philip, although he is poisonous and all kinds of "cheating", but it seems that he is only venting his repression in the royal family.
It is clear to the outside world that In order to come together with the Queen, Prince Philip gave up a lot, whether it was his own territorial inheritance or his beloved naval career. In order to get married, he had to throw them all away.
Not only that, but after marrying the queen, they became sons-in-law, and their children could not bear their own surnames, because they belonged to the royal family and belonged to the kingdom of Great Britain.
For this matter, Prince Philip was distracted when he thought about it, and confronted his wife, with the Queen, and even with the British government for many years. In the end, it was the Queen who showed compassion to her husband and gave all children other than William the surname "Windsor Mountbatten".
In this case, do you think Prince Philip's efforts stop there? Far from it, because the premise of his desire to become the queen's husband also includes: he must first be the man behind the queen.
Opening the biography Of Young Prince Philip: His Turbulent Early Life, the royal writer Philip Eder gives a well-to-do description of Prince Philip's personal feelings: the Queen lived at Clarence Palace when she and Prince Philip were married, and the Princess and Philip enjoyed several years of carefree time as newlyweds before she (the Queen) ascended the throne in 1952.
That is to say, the marriage that the Queen can really give to Prince Philip is actually a few years, whether they are external or substantive, it is a real mode of getting along as a husband and wife.
But since the Queen ascended the throne, all this is doomed to not continue, and from the most basic way of getting along with husband and wife, Prince Philip may have lost something that most men can't accept.
First of all, although Prince Philip is the queen's husband, he must always walk behind the queen, which is the identity of the king and his subjects, which cannot be crossed.
Secondly, on any occasion, the husband and wife shall not touch it. Even if Prince Philip and the Queen have a deep affection, they can only look at each other in the outside world, be affectionate, and stop at reason.
Such a mode of husband and wife, how many men can accept it?
I'm afraid even women themselves can't agree with its rules, right? But Prince Philip has lived like this for decades, and has already lived as a loyal servant of the queen, and has become an unchangeable scenery around the queen.
Of course, this is not the most important, because for couples, working together during the day and resting together at night is the normal mode of getting along. Even if it is an ordinary, humble couple, as long as the time when the two get along, it is the most relaxed moment.
But for Prince Philip, this idea is somewhat superfluous, because the royal family clearly stipulates that a man who marries the queen can live in the same room at all other times except on the day of the big wedding.
This rule is not surprising, looking back at the life of the emperor in the past, the emperor lived alone, and then flipped the card according to his own needs, and the rain and dew were all wet.
When the emperor was busy, or in a bad mood and was not in good health, the concubines could only live in their own palaces and live a single life.
The same is true of Prince Philip, who marries the Queen, and apart from spending the day and night before he ascended the throne, the Queen who ascends the throne is no longer his real wife: it is his King, and he can only appear when the Queen needs him, and the rest of the time he stays in his room.
Of course, the queen did not have "three wives and four concubines", and Prince Philip did not have to worry about "falling out of favor".
But the reality of sleeping in separate rooms will still make a man very unhappy, the so-called "wife, children, hot kangtou", what is the marriage picture? Isn't that the taste of life?
Fortunately, Prince Philip is more romantic, there is a door between his bedroom and the Queen's bedroom, although they sleep in different rooms, they can chat and talk at any time.
"The Queen and Prince Philip would place the dressers in each adjoining room close enough to their 'exchange doors' so they could chat while sorting out their clothes and makeup."
Ed wrote this in his biography, which is enough for the outside world to see: Prince Philip could not share a room with his wife, and in order to connect with each other's feelings, he only thought of trying to shorten the distance between the two people.
"When they (the Queen and the Prince) start the day, they will open this door to the maximum (the door that leads to the bedroom), joke through the door and go to each other's rooms for hours."
In this regard, Prince Philip's personal maid John Dean has the most say, he knows and knows the moment of interaction between the Queen and the Prince, so he must walk away with interest.
But even then, other employees are likely to encounter the most embarrassing things.
Once, an employee named Ramsey Macdonald, who was at Prince Philip's side, got up in the morning and entered the prince's room.
It was a routine operation for them to take care of the prince's dress and decorate the bedroom.
As a result, Ramsey was embarrassed, for he did not expect the queen to lie on the prince's bed, wearing silk pajamas, and was asleep. And the prince? The whole body seems to be "naked".
This is perfectly normal for couples, but it is clearly unusual for members of the royal family. The queen and the prince did not obey the royal rules, and they did not sleep in separate rooms that day.
Ramsey was also a one-size-fits-all employee, and he was "righteous" and told Ed:
"I am innocent, this does not usually happen, and the prince does not care about the fact that he is not wearing clothes, and he usually does not like to wear pajamas."
Well, anyway, we all seem to see that Prince Philip is not easy, living with his wife is "wrong", and spending the night with his wife will also become a "law-prohibited" thing.
Think about it, under such a husband and wife model, what kind of feeling should Prince Philip feel in his heart?
He left everything to marry the queen, because there was no warm family life in his early years, so he was willing to give his own things in order to get love and family.
Unfortunately, since the Queen ascended the throne, the Prince has returned to being "single" again, forever sleeping alone in one room. Such a contribution can not be described as huge, and the strength and difficulty of the prince can also be seen.
As the queen's "full-time husband", the prince really pays a lot.
According to relevant data, since 1952, he has to appear an average of 342 times a year, and basically where the queen appears, he has to follow behind and honor his wife as "queen".
During his lifetime, Prince Philip gave more than 22,000 speeches and, by the time of his retirement, participated in 22,219 personal events.
To this end, British Prime Minister Theresa May praised the prince when he retired at the age of 96: "All his life to serve the country", such a prince is really not easy, you say?