Children see fun, delicious, always can't control themselves want to let their parents buy home, if you don't buy, you may also be on the ground to throw around, good-tempered parents may meet the requirements of their children, bad-tempered parents, may yell at their children, you have bought so much, why buy? The house is full of your toys and so on. Is this done well? The next time the child encounters what he wants, it will still be like this, we may wish to see how foreign parenting experts solve this problem, he shared a very good method, you can learn from it.
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If the child makes an unreasonable request, how should the parent refuse? Half a lifetime of dealing with children, foreign parenting principals have summed up a very good method, rejecting children without yelling or making noise, and seeing how he does it.
First of all, we must not lose our temper, tantrums are helpless, bold children will continue to test our bottom line on various occasions, or directly fall to the ground and roll, crying and making noise, timid children will reluctantly hold back to find an opportunity to rebound. So let's take the first step, let's repeat his appeal with a smile, do you want this toy? Do you like him a lot? This is to tell him that you already know his needs, and he doesn't have to cry and repeat it.
The second step, to express attention, can use body language, such as holding him or holding the child's hand, so that he feels the attention, he does not have to roll around to seek attention.
The third step, we use the way of asking questions to let him explain the objective requirements, you can ask, do we have the same toys at home? You can't count how many other toys you have, can you? Don't answer for him, let him answer for himself, the process of answering himself is the process of his becoming aware of reality.
The fourth step is to divert attention. After the child realizes the reality of the situation, if he still cannot accept rejection, then we divert his attention. Let's go home and count how many of the same toys are in the house. Or give him a multiple choice question, do you want to go home and count yourself, or let Mom and Dad count the little toys at home with you?
Reject your child's unreasonable requests
There is another method, really can not refuse the child's request, when he bought something and want to buy other things, you can say to him, today can only choose one, you want to buy this can not buy another, otherwise one does not buy, the attitude must be resolute, then the child will often choose one of his favorite to buy down, this method I am using now a method, for my two sons is still very effective.
How do you do it in the face of your child's unreasonable demands? It can be written in the comment area for all of us to refer to!