In recent years, we have seen more and more incidents of violence in schools through various channels. For example, an international student in China was kidnapped by classmates in Los Angeles and violently humiliated.
If one day, your child comes up to you and says, Dad/Mom, my classmates bullied me, they beat me.
Would you say let the child fight back?
First of all, it should be said that when the child needs parental support most, parents also need to give specific advice to ensure that the child will not have the same situation again.
This happened around me, the child went to kindergarten for a few days, he was picked up and thrown down by a little boy who liked him, bumped on the stool, and his chin swollen. But for the violent child, it was his way of expressing love, and he did it only because he liked my child too much.
When this happens, I tell the child that the next time he encounters this situation, if he picks you up again, you must break free, to pinch his ear, so that a drag, he hurts, he will put you down. There was a third time, and I kept doing this until I knew that the child had changed this way.
The so-called school violence is actually a problem that all mankind is facing. Adolescence (which extends from the late primary school to the secondary school stage) is also a period of high incidence of child violence.
At this stage, we parents should pay attention to two problems: one is that their children should not bully others; the other is that their children cannot be bullied by others.
First of all, their children do not bully others, which is a tutoring problem. Parents must let their children know what can be done and what cannot be done. The more powerful you are, the more you can't bully children who are weaker than you. The really powerful person must be the one who is looking for the strong to challenge and defeat the opponent.
Secondly, how to prevent children from being bullied? One way to do quickly is to instruct your child to physically exercise from an early age. As long as the child exercises, there is explosiveness, and with explosive power, it is not easy to be bullied. On the contrary, if the child never exercises, the body is relatively weak, it is easy to be bullied, and it is bullied again and again, and there will be no end.
Of course, a good father must tell his children not to hurt others or anything, and to have a sense of rules. The more people enter the martial arts, the more they pay attention to the rules, which is also a learning process, so it is recommended that parents can properly let their children learn a martial art. If the child does not start with the action, there can be no sense of rules, let alone how to protect themselves.