Text: Xi Xihuan
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Friend Fan Yuxing is a "straight man of steel" in the eyes of everyone, especially in the face of emotional problems, he does not know how to speculate on the psychology of women, always gets along with women according to his own ideas, and finally becomes more and more confused in the relationship between the sexes.
In fact, women's minds are not difficult to guess, their emotional fluctuations, their attitude towards men, are derived from whether they have been met by emotional needs.
For women, what men say is sometimes not what they want to hear, and even if men are really kind, they may make women unhappy because of a word.
After Fan Yuxing fell in love with a girl, he often greeted the girl with warm greetings at the suggestion of his friends, hoping to impress the girl with his heart.
But he always chose the way to be good for the girl according to his own wishes, but he never thought about whether the girl needed such a way.
In this way, after the two people got along for a few months, the girl proposed to break up first, on the grounds that she did not feel Fan Yuxing's respect and care.
In particular, fan Yuxing's words to girls often make the girl feel that he does not care about himself at all, but is a bit macho.
How men talk and say what they say in many cases actually directly determine the emotional changes of women, and even affect the direction of feelings between two people.
If a man can talk and know the skills and ways of communicating with women, then he will undoubtedly do more with less and can get the woman's affection.
Therefore, there are some words that men should say more, so that women will be more inseparable from you.
01 "Don't be afraid, I'm here"
In the traditional concept of most people, women seem to be easily vulnerable in the relationship, although women are becoming more and more independent, but due to physical and psychological characteristics, women also have vulnerability and need help.
Especially after having a person who loves each other, a woman hopes that she can become the most special existence in a man's heart, and can do the favor in his heart.
And what kind of performance and attitude a man has when a woman needs him the most also directly determines the degree of women's feelings and dependence on him.
Colleague Fang Ya has always been a very independent woman, no matter what kind of trouble she encounters, the first thing she thinks about is to find a way to solve it herself, rather than asking for help from others.
Later, after being with Zhao Gang, colleagues suddenly found that Fang Ya had changed a lot, from an independent strong woman who seemed to have changed to a small woman who was more dependent on her boyfriend.
In fact, at the beginning, Fang Ya was not used to the taste of being taken care of, because she was independent and accustomed, no matter what difficulties she encountered, she was carrying it herself, and suddenly there was a person who would always send an umbrella to herself when it rained, would send herself a supper when she was working overtime, and would drag herself to the hospital when she was sick and wanted to resist, all of which made Fang Ya feel that there had been a great change in her life.
When her father suddenly fell ill, Fang Ya was on a business trip in the field, she suddenly panicked when she received a call, her father was her only relative, her mother died a long time ago, her father brought Fang Ya up alone, and Fang Ya knew her father's hardships.
Fang Ya wanted to buy the earliest flight, but the ticket could not be grabbed at all, when she was crying in a hurry, Zhao Gang immediately called her after learning the news, and the first sentence was: "Don't be afraid, there I am, I have sent my uncle to the hospital, now there is no danger, you don't worry." ”
At that moment, Fang Ya's heart suddenly landed, and she finally realized what is the satisfaction and security of dependence.
Later, the two people got married, and in the life after marriage, big things and small things were done by Zhao Gang, and Fang Ya felt particularly relieved, and she was at ease to be a little woman behind Zhao Gang and felt particularly happy.
Women actually want very simple, they do not want a superior material life, nor a man's sweet words, but want a man to give her a sense of solidity.
A man's "don't be afraid, there I am" will make the woman put all her uncertainties down and will also make the woman more dependent on the man, because she knows that the man will always be there and will give her the dependence she wants when she needs it most.
02 "I want to be with you"
In love, two people often feel that what is most lacking is time together, just like the saying says, a day is like three autumns apart.
Two people in love always feel that time passes too quickly, and maybe they have just separated, and they have begun to miss each other, even if the two people just watch movies together and chat, they feel particularly satisfied.
Especially women who want more security, they sometimes want to test men, this is because men do not reassure her, nor give her enough security, so she will not have a sense of certainty, not sure whether she is the person that men really care about in their hearts, and not sure whether men really want to spend the rest of their lives with her.
After her cousin lost love, she did not come out for a long time, no matter how good the people around her introduced her to a good man, she did not even have the interest to meet.
The original relationship lasted five years, and it can be said that she gave the best of her youth to the other party, and even for the man, the cousin stayed away from home and parents in the city where the man was.
However, just when the cousin was dreaming of the future of the two people and saving money for the marriage of the two people, the man proposed to break up, because he never counted the cousin in his plan for the future.
No matter what the man goes out to eat or does, his plan is always by himself, and the cousin wants to participate, but he is always rejected by the man.
Later, the cousin met a man because of the relationship between work, the two people are very chatty, men like to do everything to pull the cousin together, sometimes even if she refuses, the man can always persuade her to agree.
Slowly, men become more and more fond of being with her, whether it is eating or traveling together, he will be excited to tell his cousin about many of his plans, and this plan will always have his cousin's participation.
Women actually have to understand that when you're really important to a man, he won't exclude you or see you as superfluous.
Whether it's an arrangement for his current life or a plan for his future life, he should want to be with you, so he will like to say to you, "I want to be with you", which is a commitment to you.
If he always excludes you from the boundaries of his own life, then there is no doubt that you are not the only one in his heart and will not become dependent on him.
Only those men who know how to make women feel valued will make women inseparable.