A letter to the parents of primary and secondary school students throughout the district

Dear Parents,

Hello everyone!

During this period of epidemic, you have taken into account both work and children's learning throughout the day, and demonstrated to your children the excellent qualities of hard work, steadfastness and perseverance inherent in the Chinese nation with practical actions. It is with the full support and unremitting efforts of parents that online teaching can be smoothly promoted, here, earnestly to you: you have worked hard!

In the extraordinary period of repeated epidemics, "effort" is a positive choice, "online teaching" is also a normal teaching method, and online and offline teaching switching will be a norm. Families, schools, and society are all doing their best to ensure that children can better learn online.

Children are the hope of the family and the future of the motherland. Liang Qichao said: "A strong youth is a strong country." "So, you and I have the responsibility to inspire teenagers to be strong and upward. So, let us come up with an attitude and method of understanding, tolerance, trust and encouragement to help children grow up positively and healthily in this extraordinary period.

The following recommendations are hereby made to parents:

First, a little more understanding, let the child go to abundance on their own

Life is the raw material, understanding is brewing. We often say, "Long live understanding." "When we communicate with children, we must have a "child's perspective" and a "child's position", that is, we must learn to "think in a different position" and try to understand the child from the child's point of view. During home learning, it is inevitable that we and our children will have some unpleasant experience due to poor communication. Children are not yet mature in their minds like adults, so we need to understand more.

During the fluctuation of the epidemic, children's psychology will also produce bad emotions such as anxiety and worry, and will also produce some negative emotions because of the inability of online learning, and there will be some impatient behavior. At this moment, we must choose to communicate benignly with the child and ask the child more: What kind of difficulties do you have? How can I help you? How about we solve this problem together? It is easy for children to have parents who can understand themselves. Children will be more active and happy to solve the problems they encounter.

Second, have more appreciation and let the children grow on their own

Gold has no feet, no one is perfect. During the period of children's home learning, more tolerance and appreciation for children can sometimes solve very difficult problems. We replace the "theory of shortcomings" with the "characteristic theory" and replace the "adult thinking" with the "child thinking" to obtain positive psychological hints. In this way, you will often feel that it is not impossible for a child to solve problems in this way, and it is really remarkable that a child like him can do things for adults. We just need to appreciate and expect that the next time the child does this, it will definitely get better because the child is respected and appreciated. Respect and appreciation are the source of motivation that stimulates a child's inner energy.

Third, more trust, let the children improve themselves

Online learning, using the analogy of driving: interest makes him ignite and start, urges him to start, and trust makes him full of motivation. The epidemic has been repeated, and switching between home learning and offline learning has become the normal learning method that we have to choose. Children have slowly adapted to this way of learning, and parents must also have confidence in their children. A child who is trusted will perform far better than a child who is not trusted, and we, as adults, also like to feel trusted. If you go out and say, "Child, we are out of the house to work, you are studying at home, you will be seriously responsible." "Maybe the child is not very happy in class, the child may not be able to achieve 10 points, and when he achieves 8 points, he should also be trusted." The follow-up class problems are solved by the whole family, cultivating the child's positive and optimistic attitude, and easily facing the learning problems, which is not a difficult task.

Fourth, a word of encouragement, let the child explore on their own

The child has done something to achieve our goal and deserves encouragement. Children sometimes do not do well, fail, and need our encouragement even more, blindly blaming may lead to the slack of children's learning and life during the epidemic. Failure is a common thing, and the key lies in how to face failure. As parents, we must master the "five more, five less work method", that is, show more smiling faces and less frowns; talk more about us, talk less about you; walk more and call less; give more thumbs up, less index fingers; teach more methods, and less blame. During home learning, children face more challenges and frustration. If at this time, we do not guide and encourage the child in time, there will be adverse consequences, resulting in the child's sluggish learning, and the important thing is that the mentality of facing difficulties will also change. In the face of frustrated children, I hope you say more: It's okay, the next time your parents look at this problem with you, everything can be solved.

Fifth, communicate more and let the child solve it by himself

Any crisis in family education is an opportunity to improve the educational literacy of parents, and it is still too late to start adjusting and learning. During online learning, the biggest confusion of parents is that mobile phones are easy to "pick up" and difficult to "put down". As a parent, don't have a fierce conflict with your child because of your phone. How to communicate well with children, what to say, how to say, are all exquisite. If it is not good, it is better not to say it first. It is recommended that parents grasp three principles: one is "do not do to others what you do not want"; the second is "what you want, be careful to others"; the third is "listen quickly, speak slowly, and slowly get angry". You must also be able to listen, one must hear the content of the child,the second must hear the child's emotions, and the third must understand the child's psychological needs. In particular, you can't discipline your children when you are angry, and you must "deal with the mood first and then deal with things", otherwise you will not only do half the work, but also may go in the opposite direction and not reach the speed. Online home learning is like an in-depth physical examination of family education, some parents are very strange, how can the same method not be able to get the child who has always been very well-behaved at home?

Dear parents, "Li De Shu Ren" is the general tone of current and future education, knowledge is important, physique is important, and character is more important. We should think deeply for our children, understand, tolerate, trust and encourage children more, have less scores and less anxiety, so that their learning and life during the epidemic will be enriched and their personalities will develop in an all-round way. Only those who laugh at the sun and the wind and rain can achieve their true selves. Once again, I would like to say this to you sincerely: you have worked hard! It is precisely because of you that the child's cloud sail will be high, and the child's future will be brilliant! Let's do our best together for our children to grow up safely and healthily!

Binhai New Area Education and Sports Bureau

March 28, 2022

Source: Tianjin Binhai Education

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