In Gu Qingyu's youth, that gentle and elegant teenager often appeared in her dreams.
At that time, Shi Yuan liked to wear a white shirt, wear a pair of black-rimmed glasses, and stand at the entrance of the alley to read English, just like a light, so that Gu Qingyu's entire life was bright.
Shi Yuan is Gu Qingyu's first love and the direction she is chasing.
Shi Yuan not only has good academic performance, speaks fluent English, but also is good at playing basketball and playing the piano very beautifully; Gu Qingyu stands by his side and always feels that he must be better to be worthy of him.
Shi Yuan knows Gu Qingyu very well, he knows her preferences and is willing to take care of her small emotions, Gu Qingyu is in front of him, he can rest assured to be herself.
Gu Qingyu's mother died, she was too sad to speak, Shi Yuan said to her very intimately: "If you want to cry, cry out, I will block you." Gu Qingyu burst into tears in an instant.
Not long after, Shi Yuan followed his parents to a foreign country, and before leaving, he promised Gu Qingyu that he would definitely return to Shanghai and come back to find her again. Gu Qingyu believed that it was true, looking forward to the return of his first love, but he did not expect this difference, that is, twenty years.
Shi Yuan did not attend the appointment, there was no news, and Gu Qingyu inquired about his whereabouts everywhere, but there was no result.
The first love is like a beautiful illusion, Gu Qingyu is deeply trapped in it, unable to extricate herself; she studied hard and was admitted to a good university; she worked hard and became an executive of a well-known company, all the way through thorns, thinking that maybe one day she could stand on the same step as Shi Yuan.
When I met Shi Yuan again, Gu Qingyu was 36 years old, she was no longer young, but elegant and beautiful, and her career achievements gave her great confidence; because she was obsessed with the feeling of first love, Gu Qingyu had not been able to get married.
In contrast to Gu Qingyu's brilliance, Shi Yuan's desperation and restraint are contrasted.
He was in Shanghai, but he did not come to her because his family and life had suffered changes, almost falling to the bottom of society, and his former spirit had long disappeared.
The college entrance examination failed, the career was ordinary, just a humble little tour guide; his mother was ill and owed millions of foreign debts, and Shi Yuan felt that instead of letting Gu Qingyu see his unbearable appearance, it was better to keep the beauty of his first love in his memory.
Gu Qingyu understood Shi Yuan's difficulties, did not dislike his conditions, and thoughtfully talked to him, during which Gu Qingyu mentioned the unexpected death of his brother Gu Lei, and Shi Yuan once again blocked in front of Gu Qingyu and gave her an outlet to vent her emotions.
Gu Qingyu seemed to see the white shirt teenager again, firmly protecting her in front of her, she felt that her Shi Yuan was really back, and the feelings of the two of them grew by leaps and bounds, and they quickly got a license to get married.
Reuniting with the first love and cultivating positive results, such a romantic love, for Gu Qingyu, is like a gift from heaven, and she welcomes Shi Yuan to move into her big house with a joyful mood.
However, the marriage of the two did not have the expected happiness, but everywhere revealed restraint, politeness, screwing, and all aspects of mismatch.
For Shi Yuan, Gu Qingyu made a lot of efforts, because he cared too much about the other party, but he used too much force, which was counterproductive; Shi Yuan was around Gu Qingyu, living very depressed, and he even lied to Gu Qingyu that he was on a business trip, in fact, he played mahjong with his old friend for one night.
Shi Yuan wanted to escape from Gu Qingyu's mood, it was impossible to hide, seeing clearly what Gu Qingyu did in the drama "Heart Residence", he knew that a woman like her would not be happy if she married anyone.
First love complex
Gu Qingyu's attachment to his first love almost reached the point of psychological distortion, after Shi Yuan left, Gu Qingyu also tried to talk about love several times, and the other party was much younger than her.
Gu Qingyu only likes young men in their early twenties, because her first love is not old, and her ex-boyfriend once said that she had a quirk and would force him to wear a white shirt and black-rimmed glasses to imitate the outfit of her first love.
Those little boys are either naïve or just want to eat soft rice, none of them can make Gu Qingyu really satisfied, after the breakup, Gu Qingyu will throw their things out and look for the next object.
Gu Qingyu is still looking for Shi Yuan's stand-in in her thirties, and the existence of Shi Yuan in her memory makes it impossible for her to fall in love, get married and have children like a normal woman, so she is still single at the age of 36.
Gu Qingyu's behavior of living forever in the shadow of her first love is really very frightening, she has actually lost the ability to love, she is looking for what she is looking for, just the feeling of a girlhood, she is lost in her own obsession, but she is tireless.
After Shi Yuan learned of Gu Qingyu's infatuation, his heart was very moved, and he did not expect that Gu Qingyu would put him in such an important position, which also put a lot of pressure on Shi Yuan, because he wanted to maintain his image in Gu Qingyu's heart and could not bear to ruin her first love.
Its implementation source at the bottom of the crawling these years, has long been associated with elegance, Gu Qingyu but took him to listen to the symphony, Shi Yuan did not want to refuse Gu Qingyu's good intentions, can only accompany her, Gu Qingyu does not know, compared to art, Shi Yuan now prefers smoking, playing cards, rubbing mahjong.
In the dirty and messy alley, Shi Yuan smoked a cigarette, stepped on a chair, and played mahjong happily, Gu Qingyu saw this scene and couldn't believe his eyes, the Shi Yuan she married was not the teenager of Sven Wen.
Gu Qingyu had a gap in her heart, but she could only hide it, she didn't want to hurt Shi Yuan's self-esteem; why didn't Shi Yuan feel pain? In order to disguise the perfect appearance, he lost his freedom, even playing mahjong had to be sneaky.
Strong women and weak men, the gap between the two people is really too big, Gu Qingyu can afford to buy tens of millions of pieces of real estate, and Shi Yuan will be worried about dozens of dollars of parking fees; even to buy bed sheets and covers, it is Gu Qingyu rushing to check out, looking at the price of more than ten thousand yuan on the bill, Shi Yuan inhaled a cool breath.
Shi Yuan lived in Gu Qingyu's house, the economic inequality, so that Shi Yuan extremely inferior, he married Gu Qingyu because of love, not want to eat soft rice; he offered to sign a prenuptial agreement to protect Gu Qingyu's property; after marriage also insisted on living expenses together, he wanted to be a dignified man.
Gu Qingyu's "first love complex", so that both people are uncomfortable, Shi Yuan in front of her, simply can not let go, the family has difficulties do not dare to talk to Gu Qingyu, career planning does not dare to ask her opinion, due to the lack of effective communication, the two contradictions are more and more, Gu Qingyu finally revealed her true face.
Control
What makes Gu Qingyu even more suffocating is her extremely strong desire to control.
Shi Yuan got up in the middle of the night to work and take over the part-time translator, in order to pay off the foreign debt as soon as possible, he saved up the operation fee for his mother; because of poverty, Shi Yuan had to hang the antique piano at home and sell it on the Internet; Shi Yuan carried Gu Qingyu behind his back and worked several jobs a day, all of which Shi Yuan did not want Gu Qingyu to know.
Shi Yuan's "deception" is not malicious, but a lie he had to lie for "self-respect".
However, Gu Qingyu still knew, because she installed surveillance in the bedroom and borrowed Shi Yuan's laptop. She was in the surveillance, saw Shi Yuan get up in the middle of the night to work, and saw the information that the piano had changed hands in the computer.
Gu Qingyu knew that Shi Yuan was in urgent need of money, and very "kindly" found someone to buy the piano, did not bargain, and happily sold the deal; Shi Yuan learned that it was Gu Qingyu's operation, and the piano was also placed in Gu Qingyu's suitor Zhan Xiang, and the two had a big fight.
Feng Xiaoqin said: "This husband and wife are like fighting guerrillas, man, you have to take care of his self-esteem, the wife is richer than herself, and there will always be knots in her heart." ”
Gu Qingyu has done a lot of things for Shi Yuan, she wants to make Shi Yuan happy very hard, she offers to help him pay off his debts, take the initiative to send gifts to his mother-in-law, improve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and contact the hospital for her mother-in-law behind her back, she wants to give everything she has to Shi Yuan, she doesn't care about money, she is willing to paste it upside down, as long as Shi Yuan can live a good life with her.
However, Shi Yuan refused to accept her "alms", no matter how tired he was, he had to earn money himself, Gu Qingyu did not understand why Shi Yuan had to carry it hard, she was obviously very careful, she said that she did not give Shi Yuan any pressure, girlfriend Li Annie said:
"I'm not saying you put pressure on him, but in this case between the two of you, to be honest, I think even if you behave as gentle and frugal as you are, even if you are like a Japanese woman, it is useless to be obedient to him." Some things, once sprouted, do not need to be watered, bloom on their own, that is - inferiority. ”
Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan's marriage was frustrated, not because she was not good enough for Shi Yuan, but because the two were neither right at home nor evenly matched, Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan did not think clearly, and they flashed marriage at will, which was a mistake in itself.
In order to improve her relationship with Shi Yuan, Gu Qingyu used clumsy means such as surveillance and tracking, and had to grasp Shi Yuan's every move at any time, which was really too suffocating.
Shi Yuan brought the tour group, and during the chat with Gu Qingyu, Shi Yuan casually told her that the tour group was going to eat hairy crabs, and Gu Qingyu immediately booked a seat in the hotel and secretly followed.
Shi Yuan smiled at the guests and helped them peel crabs, Gu Qingyu watched him humbly curry favor with the men and women at the table; his heart turned over the river and the sea, and he once again experienced the feeling of shattered dreams of his first love.
Shi Yuan used to be such a proud and tall boy, but now he wants to make a living, low three or four, running east and west, Gu Qingyu saw his unbearable side, and when he returned home, he had to pretend that he had not eaten, not wanting to affect Shi Yuan's mood.
Gu Qingyu pressed forward step by step, always wanting to keep an eye on Shi Yuan, and the end could only be a lose-lose situation.
There's a good saying:
"The best emotions are often able to give the other person space because anyone needs to self-regulate and talk. Relying too much on intimacy is not a manifestation of self-confidence, good emotions are often experienced contradictions and ups and downs, and in the end no one can be separated from whom. ”
A good marriage relationship should not only give each other long-term companionship, but also give each other enough personal space, so as not to make the marriage become a repressive shackle.
Superiority
Gu Qingyu wants to control Shi Yuan because she is used to being the person who coordinates the overall situation, this is true in the company, and it is also true at home.
Gu Qingyu is intelligent, beautiful, shrewd, and a Shanghainese, her father is a retired old teacher, and her sense of superiority is brought about in her bones.
Therefore, she did not look up to her sister-in-law Feng Xiaoqin, and felt that Feng Xiaoqin's kind of "foreign sister" who desperately wanted to stay in Shanghai was ill-intentioned and sinister. Gu Qingyu wronged Feng Xiaoqin 3 times with a lofty posture, exposing Gu Qingyu's self-righteousness, meanness and conceit.
The first time, Gu Lei's death
After Feng Xiaoqin married into the Gu family, she lived with four generations of the Gu family, she did her best to serve the old and young of the Gu family, her son Xiaohu was six or seven years old, Feng Xiaoqin did not have a separate house, felt very inconvenient, so she said to her husband Gu Lei, let him manage Gu Qingyu to borrow 1 million yuan to buy a house.
Gu Qingyu refused Feng Xiaoqin's request to borrow money, Gu Qingyu's consideration is reasonable, Feng Xiaoqin was married to Gu Lei only after the house, after Gu Qingyu's investigation, Feng Xiaoqin also had an "illegitimate son" before marriage, such a sister-in-law, so gu Qingyu had to guard.
So Gu Qingyu called his old father Gu Shihong and his younger brother Gu Lei to a small room in front of Feng Xiaoqin, and held a "small meeting", Gu Qingyu asked them not to lend money to Feng Xiaoqin.
Feng Xiaoqin felt very wronged, she had been working like a nanny in the Gu family all these years, but she had to be guarded by her sister-in-law like an outsider, and in a fit of anger, Feng Xiaoqin was clamoring to run away from home.
Gu Lei chased out, Feng Xiaoqin was angry, and during the two pulling, Gu Lei fell down the stairs and just hit the glass that the downstairs neighbor had placed in the corridor.
Gu Lei died, Feng Xiaoqin insisted on taking the downstairs user to court, Gu Shihong and Gu Qingyu both felt that Feng Xiaoqin was unreasonable, they were all neighbors, why should they be so stiff? Gu Lei's death was an accident, so he made a fortune and did not look good.
Gu Qingyu felt that Feng Xiaoqin would fight a lawsuit in order to ask for compensation, and Gu Qingyu proposed that the tuition and living expenses of her nephew Xiaohu were packaged, so that Feng Xiaoqin could rest assured.
In fact, Gu Qingyu did not understand Feng Xiaoqin at all, and what Feng Xiaoqin wanted was not money, but justice. Downstairs in the public area to put glass, is responsible, Feng Xiaoqin asked the other party to apologize, and only claimed one dollar, hit Gu Qingyu's face hard.
Gu Lei's death, in fact, all four parties are responsible, the neighbors who put the glass are, Feng Xiaoqin, Gu Qingyu, and even Gu Shihong are responsible. Gu Shihong called Gu Qingyu back to his mother's house and interfered in Gu Lei and Feng Xiaoqin's affairs; Gu Qingyu instigated his family to beware of Feng Xiaoqin, and Feng Xiaoqin ran away in anger, and the combined effect of these forces led to Gu Lei's accident.
The Gu family should not only blame Feng Xiaoqin's head.
The second time, the piano incident
Gu Qingyu bought Shi Yuan's piano and temporarily placed it in Zhan Xiang's home, Feng Xiaoqin happened to be present, Feng Xiaoqin came to start a business in partnership with Zhan Xiang; Gu Qingyu looked at Feng Xiaoqin and Zhan Xiang's ambiguous relationship, and specially sent a voice to Zhan Xiang to let him be careful of Feng Xiaoqin.
Zhan Xiang was released, Feng Xiaoqin heard it, Feng Xiaoqin did not expect Gu Qingyu or refused to let her go, she did anything Gu Qingyu had to insert a bar.
Gu Qingyu thought that God was unconscious, so he helped Shi Yuan solve the trouble, and it would not hurt his self-esteem, who knew that Shi Yuan soon knew that the piano was bought by Gu Qingyu.
Zhan Xiang said that he absolutely did not say it to the outside world, it was confidential, Gu Qingyu set his eyes on Feng Xiaoqin's body, Feng Xiaoqin was innocently wronged, he did not fight a bit, admitted that he did it himself, she said that she was not good.
Shi Yuan said that he saw the video of moving the piano in the owner group, and Gu Qingyu realized that he had misunderstood Feng Xiaoqin.
The third time, the Zhang family was stolen
Gu Qingyu's prejudice against Feng Xiaoqin can be seen by outsiders.
Even if the Zhang family's cash and jewelry were stolen, Gu Qingyu could also suspect Feng Xiaoqin's head, because Feng Xiaoqin and the Zhang family's grandmother were close, and the grandmother was old and confused, and she was deceived by Feng Xiaoqin; and Gu Qingyu saw Feng Xiaoqin sneaking into the drawer, sneaky, Gu Qingyu naturally thought that Feng Xiaoqin was a thief.
Gu Qingyu directly asked Feng Xiaoqin if the loss of The Zhang family jewelry had anything to do with her. Feng Xiaoqin couldn't believe her ears, she couldn't bear it anymore, and she wouldn't steal anything.
In fact, Grandma took the initiative to hand it over to Feng Xiaoqin and let Feng Xiaoqin help keep it, fortunately, Grandma recorded a video at that time, which proved Feng Xiaoqin's innocence.
The attitude towards his sister-in-law Feng Xiaoqin tore open Gu Qingyu's disguise, and the sense of superiority in a person could not be hidden, so Shi Yuan would feel pressure; Shi Yuan coldly watched Gu Qingyu spilling at his mother's house, and he was not disappointed in the girl he first loved.
Zhou Guoping said: "In love, it is also when you realize that you have brought happiness to the people you love, and you yourself feel the happiest." ”
Gu Qingyu felt that running this marriage was very tired at the same time, Shi Yuan also felt the same way, the two obviously could not go white and old.
epilogue
Gu Qingyu after marriage in "Heart Residence" has become more aggressive, and before marriage, she can analyze rationally and have normal thinking; after marriage, she talks like a cannonball, and sees who is not pleasing to the eye.
Gu Qingyu did not forgive Feng Xiaoqin, even Gu Shihong could not look down, could not help mentioning his daughter, Gu Shihong said to Gu Qingyu:
"There is no basis for things, I would rather think of people as good than bad, and a person who used to be old and angry is now more and more fond of drilling the horns."
Gu Shihong advised Gu Qingyu to open his mind, think more about happy things, be generous in life, and not be too preoccupied.
Gu Qingyu is so targeted at Feng Xiaoqin, not only because she and Feng Xiaoqin have been resentful for a long time, but also because gu Qingyu's marital status is related, she is unhappy, her heart is not happy, and she has to find someone to vent.
Gu Qingyu is self-centered, self-consciously superior, and always wants to hold others in the palm of her hand, so she will investigate Feng Xiaoqin's background and monitor Shi Yuan.
When things were out of her control, she panicked.
Marriage has a great impact on Gu Qingyu's emotions, in fact, Gu Qingyu does not understand, love and marriage are two different things, love is a romantic symphony, marriage is chai rice oil and salt without beauty.
There is a saying that goes like this:
"Love too hard is a disaster. Whether it is love in action or care in words, it needs to be moderate, otherwise it is too late. ”
Obsessed with the beauty of first love for more than twenty years, Gu Qingyu's paranoid view of love is destined to hurt Shi Yuan and disappoint himself.