Men of different ages have different needs for love, and young boys in their twenties may label the love they want - sweet, insensitive, heartwarming, passionate; middle-aged men in their thirties and forties may only understand love - comfortable and stable.
When many women fall in love, no matter how calm they are, they are like changing people, they like to contact each other frequently, they want to know where that person is and what they are doing, and they hate to share all their insights with each other in detail.
Placed on young boys, such love makes people excited, put on middle-aged men, such love is suffocating.
If you want to conquer a middle-aged man, women must not think with normal thinking, but have a little reverse thinking. When you still want to connect with each other as you did when you were in a relationship, tell yourself that you don't have to contact every day, and it works better to hold on to his soft underbelly.
With a middle-aged man, it is very simple to grasp his weaknesses, as long as you meet his two emotional needs, you can make him think about you day and night.
The need for "security" and the desire for someone to see his vulnerability
Men and women get along, there are always people who feel that men are strong and brave, and when there is no vulnerability, they do not need to be protected.
This depends on what kind of relationship it is placed in, if the relationship between the man and the other party is flat, of course, it will not be easy to "expose himself". If a man is emotional about that person, he will be different, he also has the desire to talk, and the courage to take off the mask and show his vulnerable side.
For most middle-aged men, love is a feeling, he feels safe from being with you, feels comfortable and at ease with you, and love follows.
A middle-aged man who has been single for a long time may be the stability of "wife and children hot kiln head". You can drag your tired body face to face after a busy day to eat together, a simple meal, accompanied by small wine, drinking and talking, is the best look of love.
A middle-aged man with a less successful career, he may long for, when he is sad, to meet the woman who allows him to be mediocre, to live an ordinary life with him, and to live a plain life.
A middle-aged man with a not-so-good family, he may long for someone to understand his inner vulnerability and know how to soothe his emotions when he is emotionally unstable.
A divorced middle-aged man with a baby, he may long to meet a woman who knows how to take care of people, is kind to children, and is virtuous, and shares the heavy responsibilities of life with him.
The specific emotional needs of each middle-aged man are different, but the vast majority of men have a vulnerable side, and that vulnerable point is his weakness. Only by seizing and satisfying a man's need for security will he be willing to be conquered by you.
Middle-aged man's love carries a little "utilitarianism", and he cares more about "with you, what have I got?" Whether my giving is directly proportional to what I get, it is not necessarily material, it may be spiritual, such as positive emotional value.
Women love him miserably, contact him every day, want to see him, and keep telling him "how much I love you", which is a kind of trouble and pressure for middle-aged men.
He wants you to be comfortable with each other and not have to spend too much energy and time maintaining it.
Contact when you miss it, get busy when you don't want to meet, think of each other when you encounter difficulties, and be the best listener to each other when you want to talk. They are dependent on each other and independent of each other, and they understand each other and understand each other.
Women who want to conquer middle-aged men do not have to love and please hard, they only need to use a little routine, grab his weaknesses, and give him the sense of security he wants.
The need for "face" is eager to be recognized and seen
There is an indisputable fact: whether it is a man with a successful career or a mediocre and ordinary man, he wants face and longs to be recognized and seen.
Men reach middle age, career is the biggest obstacle, the opportunity for promotion is getting less and less, if you can seize the opportunity, you may usher in a wave of career rise small climax, if there is no more opportunity, the career will plummet, the mentality is not good to be depressed.
For most middle-aged men, love and career can not be compared, career is his life, face is his day, love is just the icing on the cake.
A woman saying a hundred words I love you is better than saying "you are excellent", "I see your efforts", "you should be seen by more people" brings more feelings to men.
Successful men meet women who adore him and affirm him, and their hearts flutter, they feel that their charm is multiplied, and they will also look at the woman who sees their own value.
Frustrated men meet women who identify with him and affirm him, and their cold hearts will also feel the warmth of the slightest, as if they have suddenly found the direction of life.
Imagine a woman who says "I love you" seven or eight times a day, each phone call is just to share their own observations and thoughts, express their desire, after sharing, do not forget to add a sentence - see so-and-so suddenly miss you, do you want me? How will a man feel in his heart?
Maybe a man is worried about his job, sad about this promotion or not having himself, worried about not knowing when he will suddenly lose his job, he will only feel that a woman who keeps calling himself and only says things related to himself is selfish and annoying.
In particular, when this woman keeps saying "her own proud things", the more sensitive man will still feel that you are laughing at me?
For middle-aged men, he craves a woman's "know" more than "I love you".
Understand his anxieties, give him space when he needs space to be alone, choose not to disturb him when he is quiet, don't skimp on praise when he craves recognition... That's what really moved him.
The book "Five Languages of Love" mentions that the language of affirmation can not only make people mentally happy, but also motivate each other and make them more willing to reciprocate emotionally.
Therefore, if a woman wants to conquer a middle-aged man, she must first learn to be a person who understands him, gives him face, and gives him a sense of identity, and your identification and understanding are the keys to open the door of his heart.
Middle-aged men are more rational, can make a middle-aged man think about the woman day and night, not necessarily how beautiful, but must understand him very well, can detect his vulnerability in time, grasp his weakness, and give comfort at the right time.
People search all their lives, nothing more than to find the person who satisfies our inner emotional needs, makes up for the lack of inner emotions, and explores the emotional world together.
It's hard to meet the right person just right.
Most of the time, love is a game, smart women only to understand, understand, step by step slowly "penetrate", in order to be in the relationship in the initiative.
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What do you think is the weakness of a middle-aged man?
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