What you love does not love you, what you love you does not love; what you love does not hurt you, what hurts you does not love you. The most important thing about love is fairness, so in many "on top" moments, I have deceived myself and hurt myself.
Even though we all know that a warm enough love should be reserved for someone who loves them equally. But love in the world is the most uncontrollable.
Feelings are the most taboo self-indulgent and self-touching
When liking or falling in love with a person, many people will imagine the multiple possibilities of falling in love or life later, and will also speculate on the other party's love for themselves.
However, fantasy and reality are bound to deviate.
Especially when you are in love, or married to someone who doesn't love you, but loves you very much. Many people always promote the relationship according to their own ideas, but they have never asked each other whether they want it or not.
They desperately expressed their love in their own way, thinking that they could touch each other and fall in love with themselves. But for those who love you, it's love, and for those who don't love you, it's nothing more than your wishful thinking.
In such a relationship, the feelings of not being able to make ends meet torment you all the time.
If you don't like it, why don't you refuse it; if you don't love, why do you continue; obviously I give more, but you are tired?
Along with the problem is a provocative ending caused by a long period of self-belief.
In feelings, there are few sober people, most of whom are good at self-indulgence and self-touching. Pay more, the other party a little dispensable good, can make you sit in the right seat, thinking that the other party has a good feeling for themselves.
Loving someone does mean giving, but the personal pay and the other party's return are not equal or even proportional in love, sometimes you can't move the other party, you can only move yourself.
You fell into the dust because you loved him, and he was unscrupulous because he did not love you.
Maybe you know he doesn't love you that much, but you don't know that he doesn't love you more than you think. It is precisely because I don't love that I dare to hurt.
People who like to eat mangoes will not be happy because you gave a banana.
Such feelings, if the other party does not take advantage of you, maybe neither person is wrong, you love him, you are right, he does not love you, it is not wrong. What's wrong is that you forgot to protect yourself and even hurt yourself because of someone who didn't love you.
No matter how beautiful the moth is, it will eventually turn into ashes.
Don't overestimate relationships, don't underestimate people's hearts
Do you love me or not?
In feelings, this sentence is always inadvertently filled, and in different contexts, different meanings are expressed, such as coddling, questioning, reprimanding, etc., but most of the people who ask such questions are women.
And the results of the inquiry are mostly: love.
But, do you really love?
When I was a child, I loved and hated clearly, but when I grew up, I couldn't even distinguish between love and non-love.
No matter in which relationship, as long as we care, we all want to be the special one, so when we get the answer we want, we rarely pursue the truth behind it.
In love, we can't deceive ourselves the most, but we are the best at deceiving ourselves. Love is too, and so is not love. After all, what people can easily give up are those things that are grasped by hand, and the more difficult it is to get, the tighter it is pulled.
Even those things that are in hand are more precious than the more difficult to get.
Xiao Xiao and her ex have been breaking up for almost half a year, she loves her ex very much, and the two broke up unilaterally by her ex. In these six months, the boy who liked Xiao Shinobu for three years knew that she had broken up and began to pursue it again.
But no matter how good the other party is to her, Xiao Xiao is still addicted to the past, and every day is muddy. It wasn't until I received a text message from my ex again six months later, saying that I miss you.
At that moment, Xiao Xiao was suddenly relieved, did not reply, and deleted his friend. Later, a friend asked her: Don't you really want to get back together, how do you suddenly want to delete it?
Many people always like to measure the degree of love for each other by the degree of touching themselves, and judge the amount of love of the other party by the amount of feedback from the other party.
But in fact, being good to you and loving are sometimes two different things.
In a relationship without love, there will be many reasons, such as: he is not reluctant to get off, but the cost of getting off the car is too high, he has no capital.
Maybe sometimes you don't have much love either, but you just can't accept the frustration of not being loved.
The truth of the matter is that he doesn't really love you that much. And you don't love him as much as you think.
Let go of a thought, and feel at ease
If "one life and one couple" is rare, then love is actually the most common, whether the other party has never loved, or with time, later did not love.
In fact, if you were the one being loved, what kind of choice would you make?
But no matter what the result of the other party, in love, the more people who enter the drama are always hurt more deeply, Xu is too loving, Xu is persistent. After all, it is easy to move the heart, but it is difficult to die.
Now that you're in the mire, you don't have to rush to struggle. The best way to let go of a person is not to erase the person's existence, but to try to accept it.
There is a great law in the world: the more you want to find something, the more you can't find it; the more you think about it, the more you can't get it; and the more you want to forget, the more you can't forget it.
No one can stop you from moving forward, and when you want to chase the light in love, becoming the light yourself is perhaps the fastest way. Some people are depressed because they are not loved once, while others have become better selves.
Numbing yourself with busyness may be the stupidest but also the most effective way to do it.
Maupassant said in "A Lifetime" that life cannot be as good as you think, but it will not be as bad as you think. I think people's vulnerability and strength are beyond their imagination.
Sometimes I may be so fragile that I burst into tears with a single word; sometimes, I find myself gritting my teeth and walking a long way.
When a person walks through those painful days alone, in fact, the other party is not so important. It's just that I haven't experienced a better feeling, so I'm deeply immersed in the happiness of that time, and because I don't accept new things, I can't come out.
Admit it, you're not that hard. Love has no wisdom, no failed love, only people who can't get out.
Even if you love again, you must take the choice in your own hands, and do not pin your happiness on others.
Whether it is a man or a woman, if you do not have the ability to live your own life well, let alone live the lives of two people. Isn't it more important to have a good life than to love or not to love?
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