The third sister-in-law next door asked me, what would I do if I were Feng Xiaoqin? The first thing I said when I opened my mouth was: Move out, live separately, rather than sending people to the fence, it is better to rely on yourself.
There is a saying that what happens to others is called a story, and what happens to oneself is called an accident. Of course, we don't want unfortunate things to happen to us, nor do we want to happen to others, but we should find some experiences and lessons from others.
Let's say that the protagonist of the drama "Heart Residence", Feng Xiaoqin, no matter how painful your mouth is and how refreshing you are when commenting, you are standing and talking without waist pain.
If you were Feng Xiaoqin in reality, what would you do? How would you face such an exclusive family. From my point of view, I will give Feng Xiaoqin three suggestions:
First, find a job.
Second, live separately.
Third, self-reliance.
The daughter-in-law of the three aunts next door often said the same sentence: Earn money by yourself, spend it yourself, and you have to look at other people's faces when you reach out for money. When Feng Xiaoqin bought a house, she also had to use her brain to find a way to encourage her husband to cut some money from her eldest sister.
But the more she did this, the more she made her eldest sister look down on her. She might as well go to the big sister herself to talk to the big sister, so as not to let the big sister be so suspicious and suspicious, so that everyone has more and more opinions about her.
But then again, why don't you open your mouth? If you go to work and earn money by yourself, do you still have to look at people's faces to live? It's not that I don't have the bottom line.
Their own economic strength is the confidence that determines the family. Just like why Gu Qingyu can teach this and that every time she goes home, she can teach this and that. If she doesn't make money, does she have the confidence?
Second, live separately, even if it is a rented house, do not live with the elders.
Four generations live together, and there is a sister-in-law who visits from time to time, and friction and contradiction are certainly indispensable. Husband Gu Lei is also a big baby who is loved by his father at home, Feng Xiaoqin often does not give face to a meal, can the old man not dislike her in his heart?
Coupled with the big sister who loves to stir up the wind, Feng Xiaoqin is an outsider on your own, everyone is a family, and you say who has the upper hand. I am strong and stubborn, and I am not wronged to blame!
If the elderly need to be taken care of, they can come during the day, come over after work, and go back to their own homes at night. If you have any hatred or resentment, go home and fight by yourself, you don't have to run away from home without moving, your own home, you can do whatever you want, and you don't have to look at anyone's face.
Third, self-reliance, motivating the husband is not as good as motivating himself
People are influenced, not motivated all day. Even if Feng Xiaoqin urged her husband so much, her husband still did
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Thinking about the Fa all day long perfunctory her. Do you think you have the ability to transform your husband into what you want to be?
Since you are married to such a husband, don't abandon him for achieving nothing, and be satisfied with the status quo. If you want to have a career, you should fight for yourself, don't count on others. Others are not you, your husband is not you, don't impose your own ideas on others.
Maybe after you inspire success, your husband will see your efforts to be motivated, maybe you will be infected, and the husband and wife may be able to run the future at the same time, after all, it is difficult for a person to insist on the road to success.
Don't expect the big sister to help, don't expect your sister's work to also count on the big sister to help, you have not been able to stand firm, how can people help your sister.
Besides, every day you eat in a pot at home, what is the situation of your sister, people have long known, people do not want to help you at all. Therefore, it is better to rely on who is better than to rely on yourself, only when you are strong can you help others.
Is Feng Xiaoqin pitiful? It is very pitiful, reminding me of a character in Lu Xun's pen, "Tofu Xishi", who mourns his misfortune and is angry with him. Bless Feng Xiaoqin, the day without her husband is strong!