As a second-born mother, a handful of bitter tears on the road to parenting, I am afraid that only people who come over can understand.
But hard work, the process of taking the baby is also full of infinite joy, especially in the infant period of 0-6 years old and the preschool stage, the little people's every move can make parents "cute".
Two weeks ago, I went to my cousin's house to visit the door, just in time to see my cousin reprimanding her three-year-old little daughter with a straight face: "Mom has told you several times, why don't you obey?" Always loved wearing Mom's shoes! ”
My lovely cousin niece, with her head hanging down and not answering, with tears in her big eyes, looked very wronged.
I quickly asked my cousin what was going on? The answer was that when the cousin went downstairs to pick up the courier, the niece secretly wore her mother's high heels.
"Children are small, it is normal to love imitation, you don't have to be so fierce to children." After listening to the beginning and end of the matter, I advised my cousin to be more patient in parenting.
"It's because she's young, wearing my high heels, and her balance is not good, what if she falls?" Then there are bacteria in adult shoes, children have poor resistance, what if the bacteria are infected? The cousin said she was worried.
I signaled my cousin not to be in a hurry, and the wisdom of adults was also tested on the way to parenting. In the eyes of adults, children love to wear adult shoes is a foolhardy, naughty performance; in children's minds, wearing adult shoes is also purely out of curiosity, nothing to find a fun. In fact, at the level of infant and young child education, the behavior of children wearing adults and children is a manifestation of imitating behavior, which proves the enlightenment of children's brain thinking and their keen insight.
"So, are kids who still wear adult shoes smarter?" My cousin asked me back.
"You can say so!" I replied affirmatively to my cousin.
Decide if a child is smart or not? Usually we refer to IQ. However, from a scientific point of view, the so-called intelligence is the general mental ability of biology, which covers the comprehensive ability of memory, thinking, imagination, judgment and so on, and the ability to imitate and learn is naturally also counted as one of the categories.
However, if the imitation power is not "modified" and simply stays in the stage of imitation, then in the end it is only "painting the scoop according to the gourd" and losing creativity. And some people are both good at imitation and creative, and a large part of it is due to the creative enlightenment of their youth.
Parenting experts also emphasize: 0-6 years old stage, is the child imitation sensitive imitation period, at the beginning they are purely imitating adult behavior daily, such as: body movements, oral language, etc., until they gradually grow up, the brain structure is getting better and better, they are not only good at imitation, but also on the basis of imitation to increase their own ideas, which is also the stimulation stage of creative thinking.
Therefore, all the parents who hope to become a dragon, when they see children who love to wear adult shoes, imitate adults' speech, imitate adults' actions, etc., they must quietly seize the sensitive period of children's imitation, give correct guidance on this basis, give full play to their strengths and avoid weaknesses, let children absorb the strengths of each family from imitation, and upgrade the primary learning ability of imitation to the advanced creative ability.
Therefore, for babies who have budding imitation consciousness, parents should not stop it one-size-fits-all, and do not think that imitation is an impolite behavior of children.
What should parents do for babies who love to imitate? Please pick up the dry goods!
Create a favorable environment for imitation
The "radius of life" of babies in childhood is very narrow, and most of the objects they imitate come from those around them.
Therefore, if parents want to create a favorable imitation environment for their babies, it is important to set a positive example. Parents must not "say a set and do a set", pay attention to words and deeds, in order to let the baby learn useful things in daily life. For example: the civilized language of parents, the polite treatment of parents, etc.
Also, we must learn to "see the stitches and needles" to create opportunities for children to learn, especially some of the early life skills, which can completely allow the baby to learn through imitation, such as: to imitate the baby to eat with chopsticks, dress themselves, etc. In the process of imitation, parents provide some guiding help, and unconsciously let the child master the skills of life.
Create good situational imitations
At first, the baby's original intention to imitate adults was because of curiosity, thinking that the actions that parents could complete could also be completed by themselves. After successfully completing the parents' actions, the baby will have a sense of pride, which also makes the baby's imitation passion increase day by day.
But if it stays at this stage, it is also very bad, except for the simple "copying" of imitation, the child's imitation talent has no place to show. At this time, it is necessary to provide scenario-based guidance, such as providing some game props for the baby, letting the baby play the role of a doctor to treat the patient, and playing the role of a supermarket cashier for cash registering.
In this process, in addition to allowing the baby to fully experience the fun of "advanced imitation", it is more important to learn to teach in contextualization, such as teaching the baby to know the cashier coin, teaching the baby to know the teeth and mouth, etc. This kind of interesting way is completely different from the "flat" knowledge taught by parents or learned from picture books, and the "three-dimensional sense" of interaction and acceptance of babies will deepen their impression and make them easier to accept and understand.
Stop your child's dangerous imitation behavior
In this era of information explosion, children have been exposed to electronic products for a long time and receive a wide range of information. Many times it is difficult to avoid dangerous behaviors in TV shows, because the baby itself lacks the ability to distinguish between right and wrong, so these pictures are only novel and fun in the eyes of the baby, and they imitate it correctly, which is very dangerous
As qualified guardians, parents remember to filter some information for their children, and although I don't advocate such an absolute practice as banning children from watching TV, it is necessary to choose some health programs. At the same time, parents must eliminate potential safety hazards in their homes, such as the installation of protective windows in high-rise buildings, knives and other dangerous items should be placed in safe places that children cannot reach.
More importantly, I am particularly opposed to parents with children also brushing mobile phones, doing their own things, do their own things, must not let the child leave your line of sight, to know that the accident may be a momentary thing, will not give you the opportunity to rehearse beforehand, after the fact, so love the child, you must protect the child.
Imitation is the learning means that most children must go through, cherish their talent, cultivate properly, children will be more outstanding!
I am the Mengwa Brigade, once a bully of 985 colleges and universities, and now a full-time researcher with a baby's second-child mother. Parenting is not easy, and it is good and cherished, welcome to pay attention to me, I will share with you a real parenting experience!