I don't know if parents and friends have ever seen such children, they never seem to feel lonely, and when no one plays with them, they can also "play hi" by themselves.
They will also immerse themselves in their own world, especially little boys, holding small toys in their hands, or even holding nothing, and they can stage a "mecha war" with lines or aircraft cannons in their mouths.
Some children have strong self-control and will only play with themselves for a while when they are idle, while some children can even be distracted, even if the teacher lectures on the podium, they can play happily below.
Of course, this is a more obvious situation, and some children are not so clear, in the eyes of adults, children are always in a daze, or distracted at every turn.
A parent once complained that his daughter had a hard time getting up in the morning, filling her mouthwash cup with water, standing on the edge of the sink for twenty minutes without washing, and when the parents looked again, they found that the child seemed to have done nothing, and had no idea what he was doing.
There are not a few parents who encounter the same problem, everyone is very anxious, children are always immersed in their own world, how can they go to school? What should I do in the future?
To solve this problem, the first thing we parents need to do is to observe – to observe how the child is immersed in their own world.
Children are immersed in their own world, there are two different types
Talk to yourself continuously about the same things and do the same actions
This is rare and often occurs in children with ADHD, autistic tendencies, and sensory system disorders, although if the child suddenly receives some stimulus, this behavior will occur in the short term.
In this case, when parents talk to their children, it is difficult for them to focus their attention on adults, and even their eyes cannot keep their eyes on them.
Such children are difficult to concentrate in some aspects, and even resist and reject, but they will be too stubborn about the things they are interested in.
When the child has this situation, it is best for parents to take the baby to consult a professional medical personnel.
Indulge in different content, high interest, and can usually have normal conversations
This situation is more normal, children immersed in their own fantasies, usually various types of "role play", this kind of play with themselves will also be affected by the child's usual entertainment methods, children who like to watch TV series may play their favorite roles, play the plot again, or divergent thinking to re-make up a new plot, and children who like to dance knives and guns will imagine themselves fighting on the battlefield.
Because the child is immersed in the content that he is very interested in, it is easy to enter a state of extreme concentration, completely forget the outside world for a while, do not know who is talking to him, and even forget what he is going to do.
For these children, this is just a way for them to entertain, and immersion in it for a long time is a manifestation of greed.
If something more interesting in real life catches their attention, they can quickly get out of that state.
Parents don't have to worry, such children are very healthy.
Children are too immersed in their own world, how can parents correct it?
First of all, it is worth affirming that children who like to immerse themselves in their own world and play with themselves must have a stronger imagination and empathy than their peers.
When making up various stories in their brains, or reproducing situations, they can not only form clear pictures, plots, and even sound effects in their brains, but they can also "act" familiar stories in a different way.
Some children may seem to be unspoken and shy, but if he is constantly addicted to his own world, then he must have great potential.
Under this condition, we are very clear that what parents must do is not to forcibly drag the child out of his world, but to let the child form a stronger self-control ability and give full play to his own thinking ability.
If parents don't have enough patience and time, they can also try to encourage their children to socialize with their peers, especially those who share common interests.
If you find that your children always like to play Transformers, and in their free time, they are also "brain patching" various Transformers dramas, then you may wish to take your children to strengthen more friends with common hobbies, or take your children to see a blood-boiling mecha war cartoon.
When children's enthusiasm is released, they find the connection between the "self-world" and the real world, understand that there are many equally interesting things outside of their personal world, and also realize that their hobbies have received the attention of their parents, and they will naturally communicate more actively.
Every child is full of curiosity about new things, and immersed in their own world, they are always constant things, and under the stimulation of the outside world, their attention can be distracted into the real world.
★ Don't easily make negative evaluations, don't deny children
As mentioned earlier, many children who are immersed in their own world are relatively lacking in social interaction, in fact, in the hearts of many children, they are addicted to their own world, which is also a way to escape from reality.
For example, if the class is boring and boring, the child will "find fun" on his own. Or children who have difficulty integrating into their new environment and peers will be more willing to play with themselves and immerse themselves in fantasy.
Children's preferences are very honest, their behavior is also very simple, in short, they are not deliberately trying to distance themselves from the "real world", but it is more comfortable for them.
As a parent, the most taboo thing is to easily label the child's behavior and make arbitrary negative evaluations.
Parents and friends can recall what you think when you see that your children always play alone, preferring to immerse themselves in their own world rather than communicate with friends of the same age.
Some parents began to be anxious: "Why is my child so lonely, interpersonal skills are too bad!" ”
Some parents think even more simply: "How do you children nag, who wants to play with you in the future?" ”
Compared with parents, they are also knife mouths and tofu hearts, all of which are anxious for their children, but in the eyes of children, this is the typical performance of not acknowledging them.
They feel that social boredom, no one can understand their interests, under such conditions the closest parents to deny themselves, which is undoubtedly to pour cold water on them, increase the gap and generation gap between parents and children, children are more reluctant to communicate with their parents.
The more this happens, the more they like to immerse themselves in their own world.
Message
The famous educator Tao Xingzhi said: "The whole secret of educating children lies in believing in children." ”
Children like to be immersed in their own world, and if they can control their degrees and help them establish good habits of self-discipline, then this will become a potential beyond their peers.
And such a child can endure loneliness, will not care too much about the views of others, for the things they like, can maintain a strong concentration, if this can be carried forward, the future results are naturally not worried.