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In "Dream of the Red Chamber", Baoyu has been pampered by his grandmother since he was a child, mixed with many sisters all day, has a gentle and kind temperament, and cares carefully for every girl in the Grand View Garden.
He also said: The daughter is made of flesh and bone made of water, the man is the flesh made of mud, I saw my daughter and I was refreshing, and when I saw the man, I felt turbid and smelly.
If you don't understand his temperament, listening to his words, you will definitely feel that this is a "playboy".
What's more, he also went around begging for rouge from other girls' mouths, and even said to the girls, "I broke my heart for you", as if to confirm his somewhat clumsy nature.
However, you have found that although he is close to others, he is also distinguished in his heart, and he is also measured when he gets along, because he gives all his love to one person, Lin Daiyu.
Perhaps, in ancient times, there was no such thing as a "soul mate", but we can see everywhere from their daily relationships what a man looks like when he meets a soul mate.
He is close to the attacker, but whenever the raider says that Dai Yu is not, he will always go back; he respects Bao Chao, but because Dai Yu is afraid of "golden jade karma", he will deliberately keep a distance from Bao Chao; he likes to fight with Xiang Yun, but when she advises him to read more about the economy, he will send a cold face.
Only Daiyu, he was different from her, he hurt her, respected her, loved her.
Only because Dai Yu understands him, knows his heart, understands his thoughts, they appreciate each other, and they test each other, even when there is a quarrel, they will agree with the old lady's statement that "it is not that the wrongdoers do not gather."
Therefore, after a man identifies with you as his soul mate, there is only one way he looks: he will invariably have a tacit understanding with you, appreciate you, recognize you very much, and want to be good to you.
Understanding you is the tacit understanding he gave you
Xu Zhimo once said: I will visit my only soul mate in the vast sea of people, and I am fortunate to have it;
The sea of people is vast, how many people can really enter your heart and live in your heart? I'm afraid it's hard to come across.
Just as Xu Zhimo will sigh: If I can't meet, it is my bad luck.
So, if there is a person who understands you, knows that you have not spoken, understands your desires and stops, and can understand your heart, it is really beautiful.
When you're tired, he'll follow a shoulder; when you doubt yourself, he'll give you an affirmative look; he'll give you a hug when you're at a low ebb...
Whether you have just met or have been together for a long time, he will let you find a balance in bread and love, and will make you feel that you have become a community of interests, you will tie your fate together, you will tie the future together.
His "understanding", there is a natural destiny, there is also a precipitate of love with you, is the "tacit understanding" he wants to maintain with you.
Because it is you, so he will understand you, change others, he is too lazy to understand; also because it is you, so he wants to understand you, let himself understand you better, change others, he will not do this.
Therefore, the tacit understanding between you is not comparable to words.
In this life, many things, people are not as good as heaven, but "understanding you" is the most beautiful thing he can do for you to break free from the arrangement of fate.
If two people do not understand each other, it is difficult to get along, and if they do not agree, they will quarrel, and if one cannot look past, they will dislike each other.
And the man who sees you as a soul mate, the way he gives you, is: I understand you.
Appreciating you is the recognition he gives you
In "Huan Zhu Ge Ge", Xiao Yanzi disguised as a false eunuch and wanted to sneak out of the palace, but was caught by Yong Qi who was patrolling the night, and Yong Qi did not reprimand her, but said: How many surprises and surprises do you want to give me?
In the eyes of the lover, there is really a presence.
Although you are far apart, whether it is distance, or psychology, whether it is identity, or appearance, no matter what you look like in the eyes of others, you are in his eyes, you are worthy of his appreciation, worthy of his affirmation.
A man who appreciates you, you don't need to be particularly good, but he will be very good with you; you don't need to have many small achievements, but he will find many shining points in you.
With him, you will have a feeling: it turns out that I can be so good, and it turns out that I am so great.
The more you will be with him, the more you will regard him as your spiritual pillar, the more you will be with him, the more you will find yourself inseparable from him.
And if a person does not appreciate you, he cannot find out how good you are, and in his heart, you just need to be a foil.
Once a friend especially liked brush writing, every night when the child was writing homework, she would write a few pages on the desk next to the child, and then they held a private calligraphy and painting exhibition in the community, and she took her own works to participate in the exhibition, and everyone said that it was not like she had only practiced for a few months.
Only her husband, standing next to her with a cold face, finally came with a beautiful sentence: the child's homework is not tutored, and he only cares about these things.
This short sentence may immediately be able to see through this pillow person, whether he appreciates you, whether he recognizes you. Maybe he also loves you very much, will take care of you in life, will have a sense of responsibility, and will not mess around outside, but he will turn a blind eye to your preferences and turn a blind eye to your soul.
Just because, he loves you, but he doesn't appreciate you, and he doesn't approve of you.
So, soul mate, recognizing you, is essential.
If a man sees you as a soul mate, he must be: your beauty, your good, your bad, you are unique, in his eyes, worth thousands of dollars.
Good for you, it is his affectionate love
Liao Yimei once said:
A good marriage can stimulate the natural side of human nature, and a bad marriage will stimulate the worst side of human nature.
Therefore, we can observe that some women will live more and more radiant after marriage, and the more they live, the more watery they are; while some women will live more and more sluggishly, the more sloppy they live.
Perhaps, when two people first met, they were also romantic and sweet, but with the accumulation of time, love has deviated, some couples, the more deeply they love, and some couples, the more they love each other, the more they hate each other.
The person who truly sees you as a soul mate will involuntarily turn you into the most important person in his life. No matter what he does, whether it is wind, frost, snow and rain, or chai rice oil and salt, he will only put you on the tip of his heart.
When you eat something delicious, he will first want to share it with you; when he meets something fun, he will want to be with you; if you are in trouble, he will want to share it for you; if you are wronged, he will want to give you comfort...
Because I care about you, even if you are separated by two places, the distance is not a problem; because I care about you, even if you haven't seen you for a long time, I will always think about it.
He will turn loving you into his own habit, and he will turn spoiling you into his confession and responsibility.
In life, whether it is a couple without defects, there will be some small regrets and small problems, but for you, these have become tacit understanding and become the precipitation of love.
For you, time is not the graveyard of love, but the treasure of your love, and the ideal and reality are equally full.
You are connected, you are attached to each other, you are dependent on each other, and you grow old quietly.
Conclusion:
Bi Shumin once said: No matter what shoes, the most important thing is to fit the feet; no matter what kind of marriage, the most wonderful thing is harmony.
Perhaps, the so-called soul mate, the key point, lies in these two words: fit and harmony.
You appreciate each other, you don't have to please each other, you have a common heart, you feel sorry for each other. You understand my hardships, I understand your hardships, we support each other, warm each other, carry each other forward.
So, a man who sees you as a "soul mate" makes you see that although you are not perfect, although you are just an ordinary mimosa, in his eyes, you are the most beautiful flower in his eyes, just like the "unique rose" in the eyes of the little prince.
The so-called "soul mate", the most important thing is the word "companion", the soul can know each other, can accompany.
Feelings are not a one-man show, no matter how good a person is, if you can't meet a person who appreciates you, recognizes you, and understands you, it will be "gold without feet, no one is perfect" in the eyes of others.
Only when you meet someone who understands your soul can you know that it is so beautiful to have someone to know, love, cherish, and accompany you.
There is no tenderness in this world.
Finally, may every woman be able to meet a good person who appreciates you, understands you, recognizes you, and wants to be good to you for a lifetime.
Author, Frank Fox
Figure, network
May you find in my words the ordinary years, a strong affection! Thanks for your attention!