Every parent loves their children very much and is full of expectations for their children's growth, but most parents do not know how to love their children correctly and do not know what a successful education looks like.
If your child has these signs, congratulations and it means that your education has been successful.
Willing to talk to you from the heart
If your child is willing to share his little secrets with you frequently, his daily life routine, his thoughts, preferences and dreams, it means that your child trusts you very much.
On the contrary, if the child is not willing to chat with you, likes to nestle in his bedroom and does not come out, and excludes you from entering his space, then you need to pay attention to it, indicating that your education style needs to be improved.
Children have good self-care skills
Whether a child's self-care ability is strong or not is a good reflection of whether his parents have gradually let go in the process of education and whether they have let the child assume his due responsibilities.
If the child is willing to participate in family work and has strong self-care ability, it means that you are a very structured parent, because you know that a child's ability is as important as his knowledge.
The child has a spirit of not accepting defeat
Many children are very good and have achieved a lot in their growth, but when they encounter some failures and setbacks, they will bring him a great blow, become discouraged, and even collapse.
But you must know that people live in the world, and no one's life is smooth. When children grow up and enter society, they will still face many problems and challenges. Therefore, whether there is a spirit of not being afraid of losing and not accepting defeat, and having the courage to challenge the more setbacks and more courageous, that is, anti-business and anti-frustration, is also a great reflection of the educational achievements of parents.
Children know how to be grateful, and their popularity is very good
Each child's personality and characteristics are different. Some children are very popular, helpful, know how to be grateful, and it is very comfortable and warm to be with them; some children are accustomed to being self-centered, blindly letting others pay for themselves and accommodate themselves, and there are few friends. Behind this also reveals whether the parents' education is successful.
Children love to learn
As the saying goes, "attitude determines everything", learning is what all people need to do, and learning is a necessary condition for people and society to make progress. Children, in particular, can only acquire knowledge through learning and have the opportunity to obtain a more promising future. Only with a correct attitude and love of learning can children consciously learn on their own, making learning easy and interesting.
But learning is not just a child's business, some children do have a talent in learning, very self-disciplined. But many children do need to pay more efforts in learning, and at the same time need parents to make correct guidance, in the subtle influence of parents, children will like to learn, more self-discipline and excellence.
Educating children is not just a matter for the school, but also the responsibility of parents.
In family education, educational methods are generally divided into four types: absolute authority, coddling, neglect and indifference, and democratic authority. Parents' different parenting styles can have a very different impact on their children's development.
Absolutely authoritative parents are very strict with their children in educational behavior, criticizing and accusing when there is some mistake, denying more than affirming, there are many restrictions, and there is very little tolerance. Children under such education may be cowardly and timid, and they are accustomed to avoiding things; or they are grumpy and used to resist. But what they have in common is that they can't accept themselves, are emotionally upset, and have poor autonomy.
Spoiled parents are accustomed to being obedient and responsive to their children in life, and taking excessive care and protection of their children. Children in this education usually have poor autonomy and independence, are very dependent on people, are accustomed to self-centeredness, selfish and arrogant, lack of responsibility and patience, and no one wants to associate with him.
Parents who ignore the indifferent type do not pay attention to their children, and there is often a lack of affection in few communications, and there is little love and restriction. Such education can easily create a "generation gap" and disagreement between parents and children. Children under this education are emotionally unstable, aggressive, and at the same time more ruthless to others and have poor self-control. Some of them have a serious lack of self-confidence and lack of a spirit of exploration, while others have a strong sense of self-reliance and creativity.
The best way of family upbringing is democratic and authoritative, and parents pay attention to creating an equal, relaxed and mutually understanding family atmosphere for their children in educational behavior, while providing children with broad development space. They understand the child's needs, know what the child is interested in, respect and accept the child's different personalities and behaviors, are willing to communicate with the child on an equal footing, and encourage the child to do things according to their own wishes.
Children in this way of parenting are more emotionally stable, optimistic, positive, independent, like to explore, can actively solve problems, be kind, tolerant, able to understand and tolerate others, have many friends, whether in academic performance, or personality, psychology, all aspects of ability can be better developed.
What kind of style of education are you, welcome to leave a message to discuss.