At the end of 2021, many people in Shenyang turned to such a circle of friends: eager to find their youngest son! The child is 9 years old, wearing a black sportswear, arguing with his parents before running away from home, there may be a bad temper and unwilling to go home, please call after the well-wishers find the child, thank you!
When I saw this circle of friends, I helped forward it, and called on all my Shenyang friends to forward it, and everyone has been paying attention to the development of this event. The next morning, Shenyang police issued a notice to salvage the child's body in the river.
The winter in Shenyang was particularly cold, but the child still chose to throw himself into the river, how helpless and desperate was his heart at that time?
It is understood that before this, the child ran away from home many times, and was beaten by his parents each time.
However, the results showed that not only was it useless, but even deepened the child's escape psychology, and in the end, it went to death.
Children run away from home, parents should reflect deeply on themselves!
In the process of raising children, everyone has a time when their emotions are out of control, and I understand very well, because even I have been angry with my own students.
But how to deal with these emotions, how to help children resolve emotions, and even how to maintain their connection with their children are all skills that parents must master.
1. Replace quarrels with hugs
When we reach an emotional climax, we stop debating, because in the present moment, only emotions prevail and reason is long gone. At times like this, no matter how angry you are, hug each other. As adults, let's take the initiative.
2, pay more attention to the child's emotions
The rational brain of minors has not yet fully developed, so it is very emotional to do things, and these emotions cannot be accumulated, but must be eliminated. Therefore, when the child cries and quarrels, let him vent first, wait for him to calm down, and then reason with him. Don't confront him when he's in high spirits.
As the saying goes, "Good medicine is good for the sick, and good advice is good for the ear." ”
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[Author of this article]: Director Li of Orangutan Village
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