I think you have been working very hard to control yourself, but recently you have found that the more you control the more you can't do it, when your mood becomes worse, in fact, you still have to look at your own heart, to think about what the reason is, to take care of yourself more, maybe you should use some other ways, you can express your inner thoughts, don't always suppress yourself. Of course, you can also adjust your expression to make yourself feel comfortable. I think you can learn to control yourself, but it's more about learning to think, to know how to adjust yourself. It is possible that when you are interacting with other people, the other party gives you some reactions that you can't understand, but at this time I think you don't have to worry, he may just be right about things and not right people, a person does not agree with your ideas, does not mean that he denies you as a person, I think sometimes you may think a little too much. Or treat the situation separately, and there will not be so many questions and concerns in your heart.
Friends in a relationship, you now want to have a relaxed relationship, you don't want pressure between you, and you don't want to always guess each other's thoughts. But I feel that you have not been able to find an easy way, the past period of time the other party is still more emotional, but also affected you, your attitude towards him is always changing, I see that you should have lost your temper with him, or more intense kind, you may suspect that the other party behind your back to do something, think the other party will be sorry for you, these speculations make you feel uneasy, make you more and more insecure, so you always hope to be able to test the other party through some methods.
At first, the other party will explain, he will respond to you, will also come to comfort you, and then he began to care less, he did not want to endure your hot and cold attitude, and he also thought that if you always distrusted him like this, he did not have to explain anything, or even want to stay with you. If you want to save it again, I don't think it means much, he has already made up his mind to get rid of it. Friends who have come to this step, I think you should not worry, of course, I am talking about the situation for the public, not that it can be substituted for everyone, I hope you still have to look at it according to your own situation, of course, you must really fall into such a predicament, if you want to go to relief, I welcome you to talk to me. I will help you make judgments based on what I see in more detail, and I hope it will help you. But now calming down is the most critical.
I see friends in ambiguous relationships, if the other party has done a lot of things to please you, but you don't agree in your heart, I suggest that you still control your emotions and don't always pour cold water on him. If he always denies it, it will make him dare not express his sincerity again. There are also some friends whose partners may not be able to communicate with you well, I think it is still a matter of timing, once the right timing is found, you can get along peacefully. If you feel disgusted by anything he says now, then you should also control yourself, don't use a fierce attitude against him, avoid quarrels, and thus avoid more problems in the relationship.
There are friends who are single, and the situation I see is that you think of love now and feel that love should not belong to you, but I think your idea still has to change, you don't always want to get love and make yourself a very special type, don't make yourself a specific persona. Only by bravely being yourself and expressing your sincerity will you attract people who connect with your energy.
What kind of you are in reality, what kind of attitude do you show, I think if other people just like you because of your special personality, one day they will see the truth, or meet someone who is better than your personality, then how will this relationship continue to operate? What is superficial is not a challenge you have to accept, you have to be real yourself, to manage yourself well, to make yourself better, better. If you already have a favorite object, I hope you learn to listen patiently, communicate more, and take the initiative to care for him, so that the other party may be closer to you.