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A few days ago, I saw a topic in the mother group: In the second-child family, will you give the second treasure a second-hand item of the big treasure?
The answers are varied, but most moms say they will.
In the eyes of the family, there are many advantages to using second-hand items for children, the most intuitive point is that it can save family expenses, and secondly, in terms of clothing, Dabao's clothes have been repeatedly washed and dried, and they are safer than newly bought clothes.
It is common for parents to use second-hand items for young children, but as children grow older, their sense of independence is also awakening, and at this time, many children will protest against their parents for using their brothers and sisters' "second-hand goods".
The sister complained that she always used her sister's "second-hand goods", the sister god made up the knife to amuse netizens, and the sister cried even more fiercely
Not long ago, a video on the Internet triggered a heated discussion among many netizens.
The protagonist of the video is a pair of sisters, facing the camera of her mother, the sister is very aggrieved to cry that all her things are leftovers by her sister, even the shoes worn on her feet are "second-hand goods".
The little daughter's complaint made her mother cry and laugh, so when she asked for a new school bag, her mother immediately agreed.
The sister's tears had not completely dried, and at this time, the sister sitting next to her suddenly came to a divine repair knife: I forgot one thing, my mother's stomach is also second-hand!
This sentence made the sister cry even more fiercely, and the sister on the side laughed very proudly, and the atmosphere at the scene was very cheerful.
Although the sister's words are deliberately ridiculed, in the comment area of the video, many netizens are hugging for the sister, and some people say that as a second child, they can understand the mood of the sister very well, because the feeling of picking up second-hand goods behind the brother and sister is really unpleasant.
"Reality and heart, my family has 3 sisters, I am the youngest, I have used the things left over from my two sisters since I was a child, until junior high school, and then I have always been very inferior, so now I have a daughter, and I will not let her use second-hand goods again."
"My two daughters, 3 years apart, my sister's clothes will continue to be worn by my sister, but at the same time I will buy some new clothes for my sister alone, shoes, water cups and school bags."
"Many parents give Erbao what is left over from Dabao for the purpose of thrift and thrift, but after the child goes to primary school, don't do it again, otherwise the child will also be aggrieved and inferior."
How old is the child to be for accepting second-hand items?
Children's use of second-hand items can not only save money for the family, but also help to develop a good habit of saving without wasting.
But it is undeniable that with the germination of children's self-awareness, if parents continue to use their brothers and sisters' second-hand items at the age of school, it is easy to cause two extreme effects on their psychology.
The first is the inferiority of personality, thinking that they do not deserve to have good things, once this psychology is formed, the child will slowly lose his sense of self-worth, encounter things and get by, unwilling to resist, thinking that he should be born like this.
Another more extreme manifestation is the emergence of a compensatory psychology.
Such children often complain to their parents because they often use their older siblings' second-hand items, and once they have the ability to make money in the future, they will satisfy their psychological deficiencies that they could not get when they were young through unlimited shopping.
Therefore, in the second-child family, there is no problem in the second-hand items of the parents to give the second treasure to the second treasure, but do not continue this habit indefinitely.
When parents find that their children begin to become sensitive to their own dress, and there is a clear distinction between the new and old things, then the child's desire for new items should be properly satisfied.
In addition, not all second-hand items are suitable for children, parents should try to avoid close-fitting clothing, wear deformed shoes and mouth-to-hand contact with water cups and other items, do not let children contact the more private "second-hand goods".
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