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We must all have such people around us, obviously have no money, but always pretend to be very generous, no matter who we eat with, we have to rush to pay.
There must be another kind of person around us, the family conditions are not very good, but they are willing to spend money on their children, wear famous brands, send expensive tutoring colleges, afraid that their children will be compared with others.
After all, everyone wants to get the approval of others, but it is a bit too much to treat face as a project.
Now in this era, as a post-90s and post-00s, most of them are also scornful of this kind of face project, and everyone is more willing to live their own small life, and no one is willing to act as a wrongdoer.
But there are exceptions, Yuanyuan met a boyfriend who likes to swing wide.
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Yuanyuan and boyfriend are friends party to meet, at that time felt that the boy is very good and righteous, invite guests to dinner are he pays, friends also think that others are very good, so when the boy chases Yuanyuan, Yuanyuan also agreed.
During the love period is naturally beautiful, the boyfriend is very good to Yuanyuan, Yuanyuan likes what boyfriend tries to satisfy her, spending money on Yuanyuan is also extravagant, fortunately, Yuanyuan is not with her boyfriend for money, and Yuanyuan has also refused to buy those unnecessary things.
The boyfriend's job is not good, and she can't earn much money in a month, Yuanyuan at first thought that the boyfriend's family conditions were very good, and he could afford his wanton splurge until she went to her boyfriend's house for the first time.
The boyfriend's home can be said to be a family with four walls, the small room is only forty or fifty square meters, and the bedroom does not even have a door. The parents divorced at an early age, and when the family was separated, the mother divided the small house, and the father no longer cared about the child's living expenses.
Although there is a house to live in, but life still needs money, in order to provide for the boyfriend to go to school, the mother does all the work, and finally the child is provided.
After Yuanyuan went to her boyfriend's house, she felt that her boyfriend's life was too profligate, and she had the money to save and renovate her home.
Since Yuanyuan knows the situation of her boyfriend, naturally she can no longer be fooled by him, and for Yuanyuan's bitter mouth, her boyfriend is also very useful, and she feels that for their future small family, they must also start to save money.
It didn't take long for the two people to come to the point of talking about marriage, and Yuanyuan's family naturally did not want Yuanyuan to marry into such a family, although it was said that money was not omnipotent, but no money was absolutely impossible.
Yuanyuan this married in the past, not to mention the wedding room bride price, I feel that whether you can eat enough is a problem.
But Yuanyuan is very optimistic, she feels that although the boyfriend's family has no money, the future mother-in-law is very good to her, every time she goes to the boyfriend's house, the meals are prepared very richly, and she does not need to help do housework.
Boyfriend is not to mention, Yuanyuan said one, boyfriend does not dare to say two, now what is the most important ah, is not to find a pain you love you the most important.
In the end, Yuanyuan's family could not help Yuanyuan, agreed to this wedding, the house bride price did not have anything, when they were engaged, the in-laws gave 10,000 yuan to buy wedding supplies, Yuanyuan was already very satisfied.
The two have no money, and the marriage family can't help much, so yuanyuan and her boyfriend early began to save money for a beautiful wedding dress and prepare a decent wedding banquet.
When I was ready, I knew that everything was going to be money, but fortunately, at the end of the year, I was finally ready, and I was waiting for the wedding to be held in the first month.
It is the New Year's Pass, the boyfriend's family and friends want to see Yuanyuan, Yuanyuan should also be invited to attend a large family gathering, but also added the boyfriend's family relatives and friends group, the group is saying that the boyfriend is not only young and promising, but also found Yuanyuan such a good daughter-in-law.
Originally they were all fine, but when they talked about the boyfriend's work, they all praised the boyfriend for working well, being a high-achieving student in the family, earning a lot, the group is a relative who has helped him, and when he has money, he can't forget his previous kindness.
Before Yuanyuan returned the taste, she saw that her boyfriend had sent more than a dozen red envelopes of two hundred yuan in a row, and Yuanyuan was stunned.
That night, Yuanyuan and her boyfriend quarreled for the first time, she was not distressed about money, she felt that the situation of the two people was so difficult now, and she had to fill her head for the sake of face and pretend that she was very rich. Yuanyuan has always thought that her boyfriend has changed this problem, but she did not expect that Jiangshan is easy to change and difficult to move.
In a fit of rage, Yuanyuan proposed to cancel the engagement, and if the future days were like this, she felt that she could not see her head.
Fortunately, the mother-in-law in the future was reasonable, and the relatives at home also explained the situation, and the money was returned, and the son was also educated. Afterwards, the boyfriend also repeatedly promised that he would not do such stupid things for the sake of face in the future, and Yuanyuan changed her mind, but the marriage date was also postponed, or to test the boyfriend again.
03
Life is for oneself, not for others to see, and what is the use of being barren on the surface and barren on the inside?
First: Men who like to "buy" face with money are unreliable.
Many people like to talk about face, and like to package themselves to look very faceful.
For example, eating together, only by rushing to pay to have face, earning money must invite guests to dinner to have face, mobile phones must use tens of thousands of people to have face, in short, you must spend money to look face.
We often say that the more a person lacks something, the more he shows off what he has, and most of the real rich people are low-key, but the poor and white people pay more attention to face.
Some people, who feel that face is smashed out with money, use luxury goods, drive luxury cars, live in five-star hotels, even if the economy can no longer support, can not accept the decline in living standards, can not accept the loss of face in front of others.
As everyone knows, face is the most useless thing. Truly capable people don't care what others say, what others can see, and what they have is the clearest. People who care too much about face are just trying to satisfy their self-esteem.
Many girls like boys who spend money on themselves regardless of cost, and feel that if they are willing to spend money for themselves, they must love themselves and will be good to themselves in the future.
But few girls will invest in the phenomenon to see the essence, boys in the pursuit of a girl, must be to magnify their own advantages, cover up their shortcomings, naturally will also use the method of throwing money, so that they look very faceless.
And is this guy really good? Are people who use money to buy face really reliable?
Maybe when you're in love, you feel good, but when it comes to getting married, would you rather live with someone who seems to have money but actually has nothing, or would you rather be with someone who is down-to-earth but doesn't seem so good?
In fact, capable people will not care about face, they will plan for their future life, accumulate wealth, not for face, all day tired, pour everything out just to look good.
Second: a man who puts you behind face is not worth marrying.
Face-loving people care most about the outside world's gaze, and the decisions they make will be swayed by them. If the boyfriend loves face too much, do you still want to marry?
Many girls feel that loving face is not a big problem, who has not yet had a little vanity; some girls feel that people who love face are too impetuous, unsteady, and not suitable for living a life.
Some people can drive a luxury car while eating instant noodles for the sake of face, and some people will not hesitate to ruin their homes or even borrow money, and they also have to buy luxury goods that they can't afford.
Good face can also be had, but you can't always ignore the outside world, lose your own interests, and even lose the face gained by the interests of your family.
Just like Yuanyuan's boyfriend above, regardless of the situation at home for the sake of face, taking the money from marriage to send red envelopes to "buy" face for yourself, it is a short period of praise, but what is the use, the days are your own life, others will not burden your life because of your face.
So paying too much attention to face is also an immature approach, and really smart people will know how to use their abilities to gain respect, rather than smashing face with money.
Therefore, put down your face and see life clearly, and don't let face become a burden for yourself and your family.
Text/No Pen