Once received such a case, a father who was very concerned about his children, came to me one day, sighed and said, "Hey, teacher, what should I do, I really can't do anything." ”
This is the father of a 13-year-old boy who has listened to my classes in the past. The child has always achieved excellent results, is also very obedient and sensible, the family is also harmonious, the child's education is usually managed by the father, and the mother is not very concerned. However, in the second half of the first half of the first year of junior high school, the child suddenly stopped going to school and said that he was uncomfortable. At first, I thought that the child's body was growing fast and there was a problem with the body, so I went to the hospital for examination, there was no problem, and the psychological examination did not find a problem. Children play games at home, do not go out, and do not communicate with their parents. I did psychological counseling, and even found a godmother to show the child, a few months passed, there was no effect, and finally there was no way to find me here.
Home is a haven, but it can hurt people.
In the communication with this father, I learned that in the relationship with the child, the father often motivates the child in a way that praises, encourages, and reasons. The child looks very good on the surface, but in fact the child does not believe in himself internally. Because when he does well, his parents are treated in one way, and when he does not do well, he is treated in another way, so he has caused this child to feel that he only likes him when he is good, and only when he is good can his parents like him, and only then do he feel that he is a good child. So when he can't do it, he feels bad, he has no value, and he no longer has the courage to go to school. The ultimate fact is that the child has unconsciously closed the door of the heart.
A parent who strives to change can naturally make the child more excellent, which is the deepest routine of the godson.
Under my guidance, this father participated in the study of our professional parents and began to seriously reflect on his past practices, and later his mother also came to the classroom. They began to try to accept the child in the right way, to nourish the child, to love the child. Slowly, the child came out of the Internet addiction, the self-confidence also improved, and the relationship with the parents also changed. After three months, the child successfully returned to school, was seriously responsible for his studies, had his own hobbies, and had a very good relationship with his classmates. At the same time, the couple's relationship is getting better and better, and the real feeling of happiness is back on their smiling faces.
Bless them...