With the birth of the baby, some mothers are still particularly entangled, in the end is it to let the child sleep by himself? The reason why we think about such problems mostly comes from the fact that we find in the Western parenting system that in Western countries, they all let children have a separate stroller and a separate crib, which is an advanced concept in our country's view, so we have to learn.
But in fact, in the process of specific application, we will find that the baby has just been born, is placed in a separate room, they sleep at night is not very good, so the crying noise may disturb the already poor sleep parents are more difficult to quiet down.
In fact, the newborn baby is very insecure, at this time, they need more is the person they are most familiar with, the mother can accompany themselves, can give themselves enough warmth and comfort.
Why do Westerners ignore this?
In fact, their concept is also derived from a psychologist, but this psychologist himself has a very serious mental illness, because when he was young, he lived in a family without a mother, and the father was an alcoholic, he suggested that the child sleep independently, crying is not to give hugs of this educational concept, although the achievement of some parents at that time, let them feel that parenting is more relaxed, but also led to the whole era of children growing up, psychological and spiritual problems increase year by year, And the psychologist's own child was also admitted to the hospital for depression and other psychological diseases, and committed suicide.
It can be seen that the wrong parenting method can really affect a child's life. Therefore, in the process of parenting, we must rationally treat the issue of educating children and raising children.
First of all, we have to consider that a small baby is warm and safe in the mother's belly, but suddenly, they have suffered a huge physiological torture, and when they come to this world, he is strange to this world, and at the same time he feels cold, so if they can be in the mother's arms at this time, can they hear the mother's familiar heartbeat? Being able to feel the warmth and smell of the mother's body will bring an unprecedented comfort to the child's psychology.
However, we want to emphasize that the child needs the company of the mother, but does not need the mother to sleep with her arms around the whole time. Because sleeping with the child in your arms, this behavior itself may bring some danger to the child. After all, mothers are also people, when they sleep with their children, they will inevitably have sleepy emotions, once they fall asleep, it is likely to crush the young children under them, resulting in crushing or suffocation of the child.
So, what should we do to accompany the child in the process of raising the child without hurting the child?
Here we mention a concept called sharing a room without sleeping alone. That said, we recommend that mothers be able to live in the same room as their babies, but for the safety of their children, we can arrange a small bed next to the parent's large bed and let our baby sleep alone in the small bed.
When the baby needs a mother, the mother can help the baby to hold it in time, or pat the baby and hug the baby, and when the baby has a problem, the mother can also find out and deal with it at the first time.
So you see, don't blindly believe in other people's parenting philosophy, but according to your own personal conditions, from, remember the dual needs of physiology and psychology, in order to make us the best mother, let the child become the best him in the future.
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