People in the past would say that raising children to prevent old age, but also said that daughters are like spilled water. It can be seen that in the traditional concept, giving birth to boys and girls is really different.
Times have changed, and people have jumped out of this perception. There are even many people who have begun to admire the birth of daughters, believing that girls are China Merchants Bank and boys are construction banks.
So, what exactly is it about procreation? Is it good to have a boy? Or is it better to have a girl? The most powerful voice is still some of the people who have come over.
Aunt Su: 83 years old, three children, male and female According to the reason, this family with both children and daughters is perfect. But this perfection in the mouth of the eldest bride has changed the taste. Since she was a child, she has been partial to the two boys of the second and third families, but she did not think that when she and the eldest uncle were old, the real brother who could pick up her brother was her eldest daughter.
20 years ago, the uncle was suddenly sent to the hospital because of cerebral hemorrhage, and the two sons were busy at first and then ran after running, but with the increasing medical expenses, even the son did not enter the hospital much. At that time, the eldest daughter raised money to pay her father for medical expenses and reprimanded her two younger brothers.
If there is no boss in the family, this family suddenly does not look like a home.
Whenever she thinks about this, Mrs. Su feels guilty about her eldest daughter, after all, she took too little care of her when she was young. Who were the two sons born? The focus of all his life is still more on the eldest and second, the two boys.
As a person who came over, he said that he still hoped that all parents would have a bowl of water in the face of giving birth to boys and girls. Indeed, with the release of the second child, the release of the third child. The family has changed from one to two or three in a family, and there must be no shortage of gender distinctions between men and women.
Then, as the elder of the family, if you want to live a happier life when you are old, then you must pay attention to the following aspects.
1. Treat every child fairly and justly
Whether a boy or a girl is born in the family, parents should pay attention to the harmonious atmosphere of the family and treat every child fairly and equally.
2, hope that the child is filial piety, then parents should lead by example
If you don't want to be old, no one is filial to you, if you don't want to be old, lonely and old, then it is recommended that you lead by example, honor your parents well, give our children a model, and set an example. Children who grow up under the influence of their parents will certainly know how to be grateful like their parents.
3. From an early age, we must consciously cultivate children's independent personality
Now that pensions have become a problem, is it because today's young people themselves will not do anything themselves? Coupled with the pressure of economic life, they are powerless to do anything about filial piety between the elderly.
So you don't want to be old, no one is filial piety, then you must make a little effort when the child is still young, so that the child learns to face difficulties independently from an early age, has an independent personality, and has the ability to make money. In this way, if the child wants to go on after adulthood, he has this ability, otherwise even if the child is kind, it is useless. It is hard to imagine how a person who can't even take care of himself, who doesn't even love himself, can honor their parents?
4. Parents have three correct views and distinguish between right and wrong
The three views of parenting are very important, only talk about interests, and it is difficult for parents without emotion to educate a child with flesh and blood.
In the end, parents are the mirror of the child, and the child's behavior is closely related to the influence of the parents. If there are any problems in the child, the first thing parents should criticize is not the child, but ourselves.
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