There is a saying: "You don't mess with right and wrong, but right and wrong come to the door." ”
Many times, you always want to get rid of the right and wrong around you, and you don't want to be affected by them. But right and wrong will haunt you and make you miserable.
Young people, more right and wrong, the problem is not big. At the very least, they need to experience, and they need to be honed. Without the tempering of right and wrong, I believe that they will not grow.
However, for middle-aged people, we should not provoke right and wrong, nor should we do some stupid things that harm our own interests. At least, middle-aged people can't afford to lose, and it is difficult to withstand more tossing and turning.
Just imagine, there are old people to support, there are small ones to support, and there are couples in the middle to live, for such a difficult life, do we still have to provoke right and wrong?
Be a person, or keep a low profile, don't cause trouble is best.
The so-called "right and wrong are only for more openings, and troubles are all because of strong heads" is this truth.
With a lot of mouths, that's right and wrong will come to us. If you are strong, all your troubles will come unexpectedly.
Therefore, when people reach middle age, don't provoke the following right and wrong, it will hurt you.
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The right and wrong of "money" will hurt you.
In the workplace, there is a saying: "When making money, don't say too much." When you're poor, don't say too much. ”
You make money, if you always like to talk too much, believe that others will be jealous of you, and even hinder you, affecting you to make money.
On the other hand, when people are poor and depressed, don't say too much. You know, people are poor and are deceived, this is an ironclad fact.
Money is a combination of angels and demons, which will make you confident, but also make you a disaster, leaving you in a dilemma.
How can we make money safely, and how can we protect ourselves?
That is to make money in a low-key manner, to be a low-key person, and not to be silent in everything. In other words, being a person who is "moody and angry" will make you more rewarding.
When others see you so low-key, they will naturally ignore you. On the contrary, when others see you so high-profile, they will naturally calculate you. In this back and forth, it is you who suffers the loss.
Therefore, staying away from the right and wrong of money is the fundamental criterion of being a person.
02
The right and wrong of "taking sides in the workplace" will hurt you.
One thing is inevitable in the workplace, and that is to choose to take sides. In other words, which circle you choose, you are likely to face what kind of outcome.
I have seen some jianghu whites, as soon as they go to the workplace, they panic and take sides, and they don't even know what their positioning is. In this way, their result can only be targeted and excluded.
For middle-aged people, they must not make the behavior of "arbitrarily taking sides", so as not to offend others and end up thankless.
Playing tai chi, or even playing leather ball properly, is the best way to mix the workplace. Just like the sand monks in "Journey to the West", they know that they have no background and no strength, so they can only play tai chi with all parties, and finally they are accepted by many people.
When it comes to "playing tai chi", I believe that many people are particularly disgusted with this way of doing things. It's just that you don't play tai chi, others are still playing tai chi, and the last person to suffer losses can only be too rigid yourself.
Working hard in the rivers and lakes, choosing self-protection, and choosing Mingzhe to protect himself is the choice that a person should have. And the rest of it, whatever it should be, doesn't matter if it hangs high.
03
The right and wrong of "other people's hatred" will hurt you.
In your opinion, is it the good old man who is vulnerable, or the two sides who are like the enemy who are vulnerable?
There is no doubt that in this world, the good old people often have no good results, and can only be entangled in right and wrong, and finally end up with an unfortunate end.
There is such a case.
Old Chen has been a good old man and a peacemaker for many years, so he feels that his kindness can be exchanged for the harmony of others, which is a great achievement and an effective way to have a good relationship with colleagues.
In fact, ideas like this are still a little naïve after all. You know, blindly related to others, blindly mediating the rights and wrongs of others, then the last unlucky person is not others, but the good old man himself.
The one caught in the middle is the most vulnerable to hatred from both sides of the enemy. Perhaps, this is the truth of the so-called "persimmon specially picked soft pinch".
When people reach middle age, they must understand the principle of "sweeping the snow in front of the door by each person, and taking care of the frost on the tiles of others", and must not move their hearts at will, nor do they move their good thoughts at will.
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The right and wrong of "relatives" will hurt you.
When it comes to "right and wrong", we have to talk about such a group of people - relatives.
People like relatives seem to have a good relationship with us. But in fact, their feelings with us are still a little indifferent after all, worse than strangers.
In the case of borrowing money, do you think that if you lend money to your relatives, your relatives will pay you back on time?
It can be summed up in one sentence that fantasy is beautiful, while reality is cruel.
You lend money to someone else, and others want to pinch you and drag on not paying it back. Because others know that you don't dare to tear your face with your relatives for money.
People with traditional concepts generally have the idea of "being able to endure and forbearance". In the end, even if they are bullied by their relatives, they have no resistance.
As a person, there is no need to live so humblely, nor to become someone else's cash machine.
For some relatives with bad intentions, it is better for us to stay away from them. At least, don't contradict them, don't argue with them, that's the beginning of stability.
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