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There are melons in the entertainment industry, more melons in the financial circle, small melons from time to time, and large melons are rare!
Recently, netizens have eaten a big melon that shattered the three views, and the well-known quantitative investor Ding Peng's view of parenting love has brushed the screen.
This high-ranking intellectual actually let his son "slag a little", and bluntly said that his son now has two girlfriends, which is better than himself.
Seeing his strange remarks, netizens directly called out the three views shattered to the ground, did not expect that there is such a father under the sky, everyone is a pit father, it seems that he is going to pit ah.
Ding Peng may not be able to experience it now, but he does not know that it is too late to realize everything, and under his education, the child's concept of love is deformed, which is likely to cause irreparable tragedy.
01: Parents' view of love will affect the child's life
I have to say that the parents' concept of love has too great an impact on the child, if you can teach him how to love, then the child will be grateful to you for a lifetime; if you establish a wrong view of love for him, the child will hate you for a lifetime.
Through Ding Peng's chat history, we can see:
Ding Peng's son is currently in the second year of junior high school, in order to make his son slag a little, he has money to invite female classmates to dinner, he has saved tens of thousands in his son's mobile phone.
When I learned that my son already had two girlfriends, I was not ashamed but proud, which was really hard to agree with.
Moderator Dong Qing once said:
"What kind of person you want your child to be, it's very simple, you want to be what kind of person."
Judging from Ding Peng's strange concept of parenting, he is likely to be such a person, or he may also have such a thief's heart, and he does not dare to have such a thief's guts, pinning his own expectations that are difficult to achieve on his children.
Almost everyone knows that love has exclusivity, and being loyal is a responsibility.
On the other hand, Ding Peng directly contradicts it, in his view, love is to make more girlfriends and have more children.
Not only does he think so, but he also encourages children to do so.
I would like to ask, if a person constantly changes partners under the guise of love, what is the difference between him and animals?
Under his kind of education, the child is really likely to grow up to become a scumbag, using feelings as a plaything, becoming a selfish and thin person, who will not love or get love for the rest of his life.
I have seen such a sentence:
"Parents' correct concept of love can help children establish self-esteem, self-love, self-reliance and self-improvement, and let children enter the right track of youth."
I think so!
Parents should know that a good view of love is a lifetime of wealth for children, which will make them understand loyalty and responsibility; a bad view of love will affect children's lives like a tumor and let them live in pain.
02: The correct concept of love is very important
Perhaps for the time being, Ding Peng does not know how much his concept of love has a great impact on the child, and the child also enjoys the concept of love woven by his father.
If he is not properly guided, it may be difficult for him to understand love in this lifetime.
In the eyes of children, love is to use money to make more girlfriends, have more children, and base everything on material things, not emotions.
Even if the two people are together, on the double bed, I am afraid that there is also a sea.
The correct concept of love is what every child needs and needs to be actively guided by parents.
Some time ago, a 14-year-old girl named Teng Fei was on fire, and the reason why she was hot was because of her concept of love.
In an essay entitled "We Don't Understand Love", Teng Fei embodies her very mature view of love.
In this article, Teng Fei said bluntly that compared with those vigorous and lingering love stories, the love of grandparents is the true appearance of love.
She borrowed the stories of her grandparents to express her understanding of love, and finally concluded that love is a long-term responsibility and loyalty, which is an excellent interpretation of the true meaning of love.
Why does Teng Fei have such a feeling?
This is inseparable from his father's education, compared to Ding Peng, Teng Fei's father may be very ordinary, but his correct concept of love can directly hit Ding Peng's strange concept of love.
It can be seen that the formation of a correct concept of love has nothing to do with academic qualifications, and people with high academic qualifications may also be scum in love.
Teng Fei's father said that they are very worried that their daughter will be hurt when she grows up, so they will intentionally or unintentionally chat with her about the love of the people around her, help her form a correct concept of love, so as not to be hurt by the scumbag, and follow each other.
Frankly speaking, Teng Fei's parents' precautionary approach to their children's feelings is fantastic, and with the help of her parents, Teng Fei often observes the way others get along, so that she has a correct understanding of love.
Everyone wants good love, but if the parents do not do well when the child is young, he does not know how to love.
The correct concept of love is not to let the child escape from love, but to let him face it head-on and fulfill his responsibilities in love.
As the saying goes:
"Good love is to make the child feel that love is a little bit of care for the other party, not a touching promise, or a vigorous beginning." 」
As parents, we are the best love teachers for children, who can answer children's confusion about love in time and dispel the doubts in their hearts.
Only in this way can they have a correct view of love and grow up healthy and happy.
03: When parents do this, children know more about love
Since the correct view of love is so important, what should you do as a parent?
We can't directly encourage children to fall in love like Ding Peng, because this is wrong; nor can we smell the discoloration and the relationship with children becomes tense.
Personally, I feel that on the issue of treating children's concept of love, it is more important to guide than scolding.
It is normal for adolescent children to be curious about love, which shows that they also crave good feelings.
In a book, I saw this sentence:
"Love is always sweet at first, and then there may be all kinds of tastes, bitter or astringent, but the initial sweetness is still fascinating. You are in love, I am very happy, but don't worry about everything, the sweetness of love should be tasted. ”
As parents, when there is a problem with the child's concept of love, we can do this, often with half the effort.
Treat it with tolerance and reason
Adolescent children basically do not understand love, they just feel that love is beautiful, want to have this beauty, if you find a problem, it is best not to roughly interfere, to be rational and tolerant.
Take precautions and prevent them
Why does Teng Fei have such a good view of love?
In the final analysis, her parents have done a precaution, and when their daughter is about to enter adolescence, they have launched an education on the concept of love, and subtly influenced her to understand what true love is.
When you do this, the child will naturally not be worse.
Lead by example and be a good example
Obviously, when dealing with the child's concept of love, Ding Peng is completely wrong, and his concept of love is deformed, which is bound to make the child form a deformed view of love.
For the time being, it seems that there is no problem, and there will be big problems in the future, and it is too late to regret it.
As a parent, if you don't set a good example, don't blame your child.
Because the upper beam is not correct, the lower beam is basically crooked.
I hope that Ding Peng can stop the loss in time, know the harm of doing this to the child, help the child form a correct concept of love, and the child will use a lifetime to thank you.
About the Author:
Su Xiaobei is a young writer and marriage counselor. Hope to use simple words to warm your heart.