Being good to you is a basic item, not a plus.
Recently, he is chasing Ma Sichun's new drama "Jiang Zhao Dawn".
In the play, the heroine Li Xiaonan, played by Ma Sichun, is a good life woman who has been married for more than a year, and in the eyes of outsiders, the husband and wife have stable feelings and a happy married life.
In the eyes of outsiders, Li Xiaonan's husband Su Rui, he is young and promising, down-to-earth and steady, not only has a good personality, but also loves his wife.
At first, Li Xiaonan also felt that Su Rui was honest and reliable, and he was very good to himself and took good care of himself, so he plunged into the bottomless whirlpool of marriage.
Even though her mother did not agree to their being together and repeatedly persuaded her not to marry Su Rui, she still did not hesitate to get married.
Li Xiaonan said that in her heart, everything about Su Rui coincided with what she imagined, and it could even be said that Su Rui was a perfect ordinary person.
In order to get close to Li Xiaonan and attract her attention, Su Rui was really good at first.
When he saw that Li Xiaonan could not drink a cold drink at the bar, he immediately poured hot water for her; when Li Xiaonan had an asthma attack, he always stayed by her side; when he learned that Li Xiaonan's sister died unexpectedly in a car accident, he also talked to her and dismissed her.
Teacher He once said:
"When a person is perfectly present in front of you, perfectly in line with all your expectations, without any flaws and flaws, as if born for you."
You must be careful, without such a person, he must have a purpose to approach you, do not believe in fairy tales so much. ”
Su Rui was, not long after the marriage, his fox tail was exposed.
He not only often beat and scolded Li Xiaonan, but also mentally controlled, intimidated and threatened her, and later cheated on her behind her back.
"In the relationship, being good to you is only a basic item, not a plus.
You can fall in love because someone is good to you, but you can't get married because he's good to you. ”
Moreover, if you don't want anything, just the result of his good, it may be a full loss.
Many girls describe the advantages of their boyfriends when they are in love, and they generally say "he is very good to me".
But the specific good points, in fact, can not be said at all.
Like a short drama video I watched before, the girl and boyfriend were in love, and they were strongly opposed by their parents.
The girl's mother said that the boys were not their natives, and that the family had no car or house, and that their jobs were unstable.
They live together like this, and they have to face a lot of pressure. Moreover, girls have been pampered and raised in the palm of their hands since childhood, and they absolutely cannot eat the suffering of reality.
The girl retorted to the mother:
"Don't you just think that his family has no money, why are you so realistic?" When you were with my dad, wasn't he also a poor boy? ”
No matter how much her mother tried to persuade her, she would not listen.
She said: "Although he is poor, he is really good to me. ”
He would pick her up and drop her off at work, accompany her shopping for dinner, and take her to meet friends.
She casually said that she wanted to drink milk tea, and he sent it from afar.
His small favor made her, who had never been in love, feel unable to extricate herself, thinking that she had really met the destined love.
But later, because he did not get the car and house he wanted from the girl, the boy's attitude changed completely in an instant.
He began to dislike her pampering, not being able to cook, not being able to do housework.
He told her in front of her: "I will not marry a woman who cannot do housework." ”
Some people say that men are very realistic creatures and that they like a woman because she is beautiful, sensible or obedient, not just because she is good.
But women are different, women will be touched by a man in the middle of the night to cook you a bowl of noodles, take you to a movie, eat a meal, these cheap and low-cost good.
It seems like it really is.
It can be seen that just trying to be good to one person without considering other practical factors is a very risky and impulsive thing.
Because compared with the ambiguous advantages of his goodness, his character, personality, emotions, three views, and his economic ability are more important.
In feelings, figure everything is good, but you can't just figure out how good one person is to you.
After all, we are not the age to hear love.
Adult love should take a long-term view.
If he is really good to you, he should plan you into the future, be responsible for the rest of your life, and write an affectionate confession into long-term companionship.
Like this line in the movie "Beijing Meets Seattle":
"He might not take me on a yacht for French food, but he could run a few streets for me every morning to buy my favorite soy milk fritters."
At any time, love and care need to be proved by action.
What you want to do is not only a person's goodness to you, but also his respect, understanding, care, pampering, and the long stay for the rest of his life for decades to come.
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Author: Jiang Classmate & Xin He, 97 years of sagittarius female, love to eat hot pot, I have wine, waiting for you to come to me nagging. Public number: Jiang classmate with a story (ID: meiya54264), please contact the background for reprinting.