Sooner or later, the rebellion that should be there will return, and the self that should be awakened will eventually be found.
Author: Natsuno
Parents Research Institute (ID: mama_cn) original debut
The last time I heard Ma Sichun, I was ridiculed by the whole network because of the pain of youth literature;
And this time, Ma Sichun conquered the whole network because of his strong acting skills!
In "Jiang Zhao Dawn", which was named the "Best Suspense Film of the Year", many netizens felt Ma Sichun's acting skills and charm.
Only to see Ma Si vegan facing the sky, comb low ponytail, dressed very plainly, full of tiredness, and the role - during the day is the real estate agent selling crowns, at night is the night market selling fried noodles to earn extra money, married women Li Xiaonan, reached a 100% match.
When Ma Sichun no longer longed for figure and indulged in the pain of youth, she finally chose the role of life that was most suitable for herself.
It is also because she finally presents her real state, but it has become an opportunity for her to turn against the wind.
The appearance of Li Xiaonan exploded the affirmation of many netizens for her "fat but real".
All the praise leads to two words - fit.
It is because it fits, it will be comfortable.
Whether it's performance, or the senses.
It can be seen that Ma Sichun's performance this time is free from the inside out.
And this is the current Ma Sichun: no longer the beautiful girl who was always remembered, but now a straight girl who is a little thick and round.
01
Well-behaved woman – used to flattering
Ma Sichun's first half of life went smoothly and perfectly, and this was hidden under a key word - obedience.
The idea she was indoctrinated since childhood was "to know how to think about others", and when she was a child, her family would constantly instill in her the ideas of "you have to obey", "you have to be sensible", and "you want to let others".
Yes, she has become the well-behaved and sensible girl expected by her parents, and her personality is gentle and kind.
Mom doesn't let you eat snacks, she never eats;
When her mother didn't let her come home late, she never attended class reunions;
Her mother asked her to study broadcasting in college, and she obediently complied...
I thought that obedience could win the love of my parents;
Unexpectedly, on the contrary, she only got more disregard from her parents.
When encountered school bullying, squeezed by classmates, difficult, and various pranks, the helpless Ma Sichun asked his parents for help, but only got one sentence: "Don't pay attention, you have to work hard to prove that you are better than her, ignore her." ”
Ma Sichun, who had nowhere to turn for help, gradually became inferior and silent.
Lack of love will only make children delusional to get the respect and attention of the other party through flattery.
She becomes depressed, habitually suppressing her own emotions and needs, and implementing for the sake of others;
She became cautious, afraid of trouble, and habitually put other people's emotions ahead of herself.
Even if you are angry, you will not show it, because you are afraid of trouble or influence others.
When I was in the car, I wanted to go to the toilet, but I didn't want to bother the driver, so I chose to hold back.
All the grievances and caution gradually formed pressure in her heart, until the pressure exploded and she suffered from depression.
She once confessed:
Never slept a good night's sleep during depression, often waking up once an hour or two in the middle of the night;
Once lost 7 pounds in 3 days, and because of the control of emotions by taking medicine, 3 days gained 8 pounds;
At its worst, her body would become stiff, her legs would be soft, her eyes would be briefly blind, and she would have severe asthma.
Many people like "obedient" and "sensible" children, because these children are worry-free;
As everyone knows, children who become sensible because of their parents' expectations will gradually lose their nature and sacrifice their emotions and feelings to accommodate the whole world.
Such a child is worthy of everyone and the whole world, but he owes himself and does not know it.
02
Belated rebellion – exploring in a wall
But man is such a strange and complex creature.
They must have gone through several rebellions to form their own personality.
And obedient children like Ma Sichun, no matter how obedient they are, rebellion will still come quietly at a certain moment.
Most girls' adolescent rebellion is mostly stuck in her teens, but Ma Sichun did not completely release her rebellion until she was in her twenties and ushered in her post-adolescence.
When she met the role of Li Bara, she could not suppress the surge in her heart, because every hair and nerve of this role grew on the opposite side of Ma Sichun.
In Ma Sichun's view, Li Bara is the beginning of her rebellion.
She also once said bluntly: with the help of roles to complete her regrets, to make up for the "obedient and plain" youth.
If rebellion brings the bruising of failure, the sooner it comes, the better.
Whether it's love, or career.
Since the exposure of the relationship, the online messages about Ma Sichun's "marriage and pregnancy" have been disturbed.
Netizens constantly worry about her, and even some fans go to her Weibo to leave a message:
"Ma Sichun wake up quickly and stay away from the bad boys!" "Sister run, he's not a good guy!" "Sister, I've got you on my knees, please stay away from him!"
Compared with the agitation of the public, Ma Sichun is still as committed to this unpromising relationship as I am.
Just like Li Bara, for her, is a role that lives on her opposite side;
Then in her boyfriend Xiaole, she really felt the look she longed for - challenging authority, disobeying, rebelling...
That's why, good girls are always easily impressed by bad boys.
She herself is quiet and courteous, will not hurt others, and will not cause trouble for others.
But when the other party smokes and drinks, and fights in public, she can accept it all, and even thinks that such behavior is cool.
The bad boy was essentially the "bad girl" who had been living in her heart.
And around him, she can really feel the reality of "self".
So even if she is not favored, she no longer gives up on this person in order to please, because that is also defending her heart.
Allowing oneself to go bad is a redemption that forms oneself and matures.
Ma Sichun, a well-behaved woman, finally had the "courage to be hated".
03
The ripe watershed – finding the kernel
Ma Sichun is not a thin body, and she has spent half of her life struggling with "fat".
In childhood, he suffered countless sneers because he was too fat, and Coke was poured with rags and water moped gouache ash by his classmates, so that Ma Sichun's cognition of himself became "I am nothing".
When asked by a reporter what kind of girl walking on the street would look at twice more, she replied without hesitation, thin;
If you can cross the hope can go to the Tang Dynasty, because there is no need to lose weight;
Asked if there was anything funny about her adolescence, she said that she had lost weight throughout her youth...
The persistence of "thinness" is also the result of her deep inner inferiority.
Not to mention that after entering the show business circle, the harshness of "fat" is deepening her anxiety.
In order to lose weight, she once ran six kilometers a day, ate only one meal, and lived hungry by huoxiang zhengqi liquid;
Because the fat loss is too much, the ears often can't hear clearly when acting on the set;
Before the start of "You Are My City Fortress", Ma Sichun, in addition to learning medical knowledge, lost weight, and finally lost more than a dozen pounds;
When filming "Broken Bridge", the physical state was poor, and the same weight loss and then on.
Weight has become a barrier that she has never been able to cross, and it has also become one of the triggers for her depression.
Until she faced depression, looked directly at her body, and began to know how to cherish herself.
On the "Spit Conference" laughed that he was sick and responded to his fatness;
He threatened to lose weight for the sake of the role in the future, and that it was not necessary for the sake of the image.
At this time, she met Li Xiaonan of "Jiang Zhao Dawn", a role that does not need to lose weight but tests her acting skills more.
Li Xiaonan is not as beautiful and eye-catching as the heroine in traditional idol dramas.
This is a woman who is forced forward by life, has no time to take care of others, bloated, tired, and mournful, these things are reasonable and real in her.
Here, Ma Sichun's figure adds a lot to her explosive acting skills.
When I went to the night market to sell fried noodles, I put a greasy apron over my wide shirt, hung an old belt bag around my waist, wiped my oily and seasoned hands on the towel on the side, and continued to use a large iron pot to toss the spoon, much like that.
The husband is a scumbag who can abuse domestic violence. Humiliated outside, he went home and punched Li Xiaonan.
In the play, Li Xiaonan was thrown into a glass, kicked in the stomach, slapped, neck-choked, and even pushed into the pool.
The expression of despair made the audience suffocate.
For the sake of effect, this scene was filmed in one breath, the hair was really shaved, and the slap was also a real fan.
This time, Li Xiaonan was played.
The "life" of the role comes more from Ma Sichun's complete surrender of himself to the role and to the audience, including the undisguised fatness.
When Ma Sichun let go of his attachment to "thinness" and calmly faced his own fatness, the right role was also selected as a plus on the report card.
Because I looked away, I could also joke about the "fat" that I had always cared about.
On the set, the prop teacher reminded her to be careful of hitting the water meter behind her and being caught, but she teased herself for not being afraid of ass meat.
In Ma Sichun, we truly feel that only by accepting the true self can we present the most authentic life.
All the comments around you are smoke screens, and only by facing yourself calmly, all the laughter and anger can it be worth it.
This time, Ma Sichun was really mature.
04
Who isn't groping their way?
Life is like this, and there will be no detours to take.
As a parent, when ordering children to obey, hoping that children can fly freely has become a luxury.
Why stop the child from breaking in?
Just like Ma Sichun, the rebellion that should be there will come back sooner or later, and the awakened self will eventually be found.
For her, this was never the end, just one of the milestones in her life.
Hopefully, we can all say one thing to the free-flying kids:
"Protect yourself and experience it."
One day, you will arrive where you want.
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Parents Research Institute (ID: mama_cn), research on new knowledge of family education for 1-6 years old, is the mother's educational notes, is the father's baby guide, is the child's growth energy station. Please contact the Parents Institute for reproduction. Author: Natsuno.
Editing in this issue: Chestnuts