When I went to pick up Xinxin from school today, the mother of xinxin's classmates nagged a few words, feeling that the problem she encountered should be a headache for most parents.
She told me that she only started sending her child to kindergarten this year, did not come in the second half of last year, and had already asked for her child's opinion before the school started, but she did not expect that it had been a week since the school started, and the child was still crying and refusing to go, which made her headache.
Especially this morning, even if she didn't get up actively, she didn't wear clothes, she didn't actively wear shoes, she cried on the road, and she hugged her thighs at the school gate and refused to go in, which made her sad.
Later, after understanding, it turned out that the children played well in the class, and other children also got along, the only drawback was that before entering the kindergarten, they were always unwilling to do anything, and they had to cry to be full before they were willing to go in, why was this?
In fact, now children are reluctant to go to kindergarten, but after arriving in the class, they will get along with other children, and many children have appeared, as for why children always show that they do not like to go to kindergarten, I think it is mainly because of the following reasons:
1. Insecurity
Parents stay together before their children go to kindergarten, no matter where they go, and eating, wearing, and living at home are arranged by their parents, to put it bluntly, they are served.
But after going to kindergarten, everything in kindergarten makes children feel very strange, in addition to strange friends, unfamiliar environments, and strange "steward" teachers.
In addition, in the kindergarten also have to abide by the rules, almost do everything to queue, but also to eat by themselves, sleep by themselves, no one to take care of, has always been loved by the family of children, suddenly can not accept such a psychological gap, the sense of security is reduced, naturally refuse to go to kindergarten.
2. Do not know how to express and communicate
Generally speaking, children who have just entered kindergarten are around three years old, and at this time, the child's expression ability is not very sound, and it is very helpless for the child to not know how to express his needs for a while.
Even if many children can communicate with adults normally at the age of three, not all children are familiar with each other, and once they come to school, they can communicate well with teachers and classmates, even if they know how to express themselves, they dare not easily express their opinions, resulting in children being very helpless.
But at home it is different, there are family members at home who are spoiled and loved, and parents who move their fingers know what their children are thinking, in contrast, children are naturally more willing to stay at home than go to kindergarten.
3. Parents are concerned about chaos
In the process of picking up Xinxin, I found that some parents like to ask their children some questions, and the most asked questions is "Have you been bullied by teachers and classmates at school?" ”
The child's heart is very simple, parents ask so, the child thinks that the kindergarten is a bad place, even if it is not bullied now, it may be bullied in the future, and it will naturally feel fearful.
Especially some parents, because the child accidentally bumped into the school to encounter the infinite magnification, what is more, will directly run to the school teacher confrontation, resulting in children feel that kindergarten is a terrible place, how can children like it?
So what should parents do to make their children enjoy kindergarten?
a. Cultivate children's independence
Children should not be too arrogant, from the child's one and a half years old, you can cultivate the child's hands-on ability, there is no need to help the child in every detail, but to be assured and bold to let the child do it, cultivate the child's independence.
Only when children have independence and the ability to do their own things, can they have the most basic self-care ability in life, and after going to kindergarten, they can better integrate into the class group.
b. Let children see the outside world more
Parents should not always lock their children in the home, but should take their children out for a walk, so that children can understand the outside world, but also be able to make new friends, have basic communication skills.
After the child's social skills are enhanced, they will naturally like the atmosphere of kindergarten children, so there is no need to worry about children crying and not wanting to go to kindergarten, and even clamoring to go to school!
c. Implement home co-education
Don't always think that after the child goes to kindergarten, it belongs to the school, the teacher manages, the parents can be the treasurer, in fact, the best education is to implement the home co-education, there are things to know how to communicate with the teacher in time.
You can learn about your child's performance in school from the teacher, so that you can know more deeply why the child is reluctant to go to kindergarten, and the teacher can formulate a suitable plan to help the child integrate into the school life as soon as possible.
Write at the end:
For children, the first step in true growth is to leave the house and step into the school, and this process requires parents to prepare for work, otherwise the child may resent school life.
Even if the child can't adapt for a while, don't follow the child, let the child rest for a period of time and then go to school, which will only encourage the child's psychology of not wanting to go to kindergarten.
In addition, parents do not always give children hints of psychology, always ask children how they are at school, what they eat, whether they have fought with children, bullied by children and the like, some questions asked more questions for children will only add value to anxiety, everyone thinks?