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Before getting married, I wonder what kind of person I should find. Should you find someone with good character, money or good looks? see
Looks like a multiple-choice question. No matter what you choose, first of all, you must understand a truth, that is, every choice has a price, because people's hearts may change, when it comes to character, before marriage can also be disguised, resources can also be transformed.
You go online to check, what kind of partner should you find to marry? But you have to understand that people are not the same, and other people's life samples may not be suitable for you. When it comes to marriage, the most regrettable thing is that you can't experience every life experience of getting married or not getting married at the same time, with whom to marry.
You ask the friends around you, some people think they should look good, some people think they should find rich, or that sentence, people and people are not the same, then people and people's needs are not the same, the so-called radish cabbage has its own love, this is the truth. For example, if you want to find a rich person, you may not look so good- For example, if you find a good-looking one, you may have average earning power, and you can't covet the beauty of others while feeling poor.
Marriage looks like a multiple choice problem, but it is actually a calculation problem, because marriage is consumerism, and consumerism will create countless needs and unlimited desires, which need to be fed with a limited life. Money is one of the most important resources needed by today's human society, as long as it is properly invested, it may increase in value over time, while appearance will decline with time. However, this is a calculation problem without an answer, because there is no way to calculate all the variables exactly as you would with a math problem, and then get a definite optimal solution.
But anyone who thinks carefully, weighs the pros and cons, and finally chooses to consider economic issues, houses, cars, earning power, social status, these will become a person's added value. From the perspective of resources, loving someone, first of all, is to love the added value of a person, which is indeed the most rational choice. This is why many successful people in high society do not marry a particularly beautiful wife, because beauty is a scarce resource for the bottom people, while the upper class values power and capital, power can expand; capital can increase in value, while the beauty of women and the handsomeness of men will decline over time.
Strictly speaking, we are not so rational, but many rational people exist only in the hypotheses of economics. For ordinary people, the most advanced resources can be obtained, that is, money, so making money has become the only goal of most people, and marriage has become an economic account, if you do not choose a door-to-door, social status, economic equality, evenly matched. This marriage is a buy and sell that does not make a profit.
Rationality solves many problems, but it cannot solve all problems, such as art, such as love, such as the meaning of life. Many things need to rely on impulse, passion, hot head to rely on sensibility to make decisions, two people with a hot mind to get married, and then fall without regrets, if you manage well, cherish each other, than weigh the pros and cons much wiser. Because in the journey of life, parents and children will leave you, and in the long journey of life that people continue to leave, it is better to have someone to accompany than to be alone.
There is a world-famous love story, the history of the love of the country and the country and the love of beauty, is the Duke of Windsor and Simps
Mrs. Sen's love story. Duke of Windsor: Edward VIII, King of England, and the second king of the Windsor dynasty, during Edward VIII's months as king, he was opposed by the royal family, church, and people because of marriage problems, and became the only king in the history of England and the Commonwealth to voluntarily abdicate; Mrs. Simpson's original name: Wallis. Warfield.
The British royal family gave them two conditions: Simpson's departure from England or the abdication of the king. Faced with pressure from all sides, the king chose love and used abdication to complete this unprecedented marriage, so Edward VIII became the Duke of Windsor. Eventually the Duke of Windsor married Wallis in France. He gave up the throne for her, gave up his country, and life finally gave them their true faces, like all ordinary couples, sour, sweet and bitter, but they have always waited for love. We lived together for thirty-six years.
If you are a believer in love, then even if the world is barren, there will always be someone who will become your love believer. This story sounds emotional and absurd, but it is precisely these hot-headed, sensual and absurd things that can tear open a hole in the rational world and compose a chapter of pure and beautiful love.